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Old Nov 20, 2005 | 11:00 PM
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God I hate this feeling.

I just fell to my stomach thinking about how I will just get through the next couple of days.

Last night my gf broke it off with me. Its about a 3 year relationship. She thinks that I always get mad at her and cant take it anymore. WE havent had a intimate moment together since the summer either.

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Old Nov 20, 2005 | 11:04 PM
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Been there, done that. You need to let off some steam. Run around the block naked!
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Old Nov 20, 2005 | 11:07 PM
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Old Nov 20, 2005 | 11:07 PM
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sorry to hear that bro.... the taco bell probably didnt help you in feeling any better.

Move to D&R
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Old Nov 20, 2005 | 11:14 PM
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im sorry to hear that...it'll take some time
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Old Nov 20, 2005 | 11:19 PM
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your buddy jack daniels is your friend...

you can talk to him about any thing and every thing...
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Old Nov 20, 2005 | 11:22 PM
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Originally Posted by demolition_x
your buddy jack daniels is your friend...

you can talk to him about any thing and every thing...

I took comfort with Mr Miller and Mr. Absolute last night.
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Old Nov 20, 2005 | 11:41 PM
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way to go... just do it in moderation and don't drink and drive or any thing like that. just remember theres always other chicks out there. the sooner you forget her the better off you are. i have been in a relationship for 2 years and i know how rough it can be. you get soo close to someone then its gone. that security blanket kinda feeling is great. but let me tell you that some times its just not meant to be. no matter how much you try. better off finding some one new. 21 is way to early to be settling down. i say that to my self every day...

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Old Nov 20, 2005 | 11:42 PM
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post her pics then we will discuss and try to make ya feel better
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Old Nov 20, 2005 | 11:47 PM
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Ur First post and Im sorry to hear ur loss !

Its ok ... Life goes On ! Get out more ... hang out with close friends and ull be fine !

Time heals everything !

Some1 should move this to Dating and Relationship
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Old Nov 21, 2005 | 12:08 AM
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You're young. You'll be laughing about it with your next gf.


Keep busy and keep your mind off of it. Take down anything that reminds you of her
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Old Nov 21, 2005 | 12:08 AM
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OK I removed all our pics from my room and put all the gifts away in the closet.
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Old Nov 21, 2005 | 12:14 AM
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Originally Posted by dnd2984
OK I removed all our pics from my room and put all the gifts away in the closet.

Put it away in the closet? Get rid of them for good...burn them.



Leaving them in the closet will still remind you of her...and you'll eventually dig back into the closet.



1.) Burn all items related to her
2.) Spend a lot of time with your buddies.
3.) It's her loss, not yours.
4.) You're 21, and in your prime. You should be living up the college life.
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Old Nov 21, 2005 | 12:53 AM
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Originally Posted by Nismotic
Put it away in the closet? Get rid of them for good...burn them.



Leaving them in the closet will still remind you of her...and you'll eventually dig back into the closet.



1.) Burn all items related to her
2.) Spend a lot of time with your buddies.
3.) It's her loss, not yours.
4.) You're 21, and in your prime. You should be living up the college life.
You might be jumping the gun a bit on that one. He said that her complaint is he always gets mad at her and she cannot take it anymore. If true, it's very possible that she rightfully left him.

None the less, learn from this situation and do not bring this dysfunctionality into your next relationship. If you want the pain to end, it sounds like it may need to start with you overcomming your anger issues
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Old Nov 21, 2005 | 01:58 AM
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go on craigslist.com and find a bitch!!! I see lots of decent looking woman and take it only as meeting girls and nothing serious...

at your age (no offense), it should not be serious any ways.. (Leykis 101).
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Old Nov 21, 2005 | 08:03 AM
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Originally Posted by dnd2984
I just fell to my stomach thinking about how I will just get through the next couple of days.

Last night my gf broke it off with me. Its about a 3 year relationship. She thinks that I always get mad at her and cant take it anymore. WE havent had a intimate moment together since the summer either.

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You will be ok by summer

If you two haven't had an intimate moment since summer, then the break up is definitely for the best
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Old Nov 21, 2005 | 08:27 AM
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Nope, right section. You're talking about relationships. If you were talking about nude models, that would be in the ... relationships section too. only on AZ.
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Old Nov 21, 2005 | 08:33 AM
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No intimate moment since the summer...I'm thinking there was a major lack of communication going on in this relationship. You must of known something was wrong...or did you just choose to ignore it? I say, take this time to reflect on whether or not this relationship was right for you or not and if it was, then figure out what exactly went wrong in the relationship and work to resolve it. If she genuinely wants to be with you, she'll work with you too to make things better again.

Now, really take some time and don't go crying back to her right now because that'll show that you didn't think it thru and you're just feeling low and no self respect.
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Old Nov 21, 2005 | 08:43 AM
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Nope, right section. You're talking about relationships. If you were talking about nude models, that would be in the ... relationships section too. only on AZ.

that was in the original post. which was in ramblings. before it was moved to D&R. So it was in the wrong section orginally. just thought i'd clear that up.
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Old Nov 21, 2005 | 09:24 AM
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Originally Posted by GoDucksCLSPride
You might be jumping the gun a bit on that one. He said that her complaint is he always gets mad at her and she cannot take it anymore. If true, it's very possible that she rightfully left him.

None the less, learn from this situation and do not bring this dysfunctionality into your next relationship. If you want the pain to end, it sounds like it may need to start with you overcomming your anger issues

The reason I got mad was becasue she would not talk to me about wahts wrong or whats bothering her. He would just ingnore the situation and I would just flip out.
She pretty much fueled the fire.
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Old Nov 21, 2005 | 09:34 AM
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You're free celebrate, blow off some steam, and move on. Find something better, and you'll be happy again.
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Old Nov 21, 2005 | 09:43 AM
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Originally Posted by 97BlackAckCL
You're free celebrate, blow off some steam, and move on. Find something better, and you'll be happy again.

Its hard when ever you close your eyes and think of her.
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Old Nov 21, 2005 | 10:01 AM
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Originally Posted by nicholbr
that was in the original post. which was in ramblings. before it was moved to D&R. So it was in the wrong section orginally. just thought i'd clear that up.
Your note is much appreciated.

There was this one girl in my senior year @ U-M who had tormented me so.
She was very pretty (a former homecoming queen at the university from which she had xfer'd to the M).

I had spent some time knocking my head on the wall in vain attempts to forget her. The asbestos has gotten inside, and that explains why my posts sometimes are lacking.
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Old Nov 21, 2005 | 10:12 AM
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It is gonna take some time, that's all. Keep yourself busy with your friends or other things in your life. Now would be the perfect time to take up a new hobby (and probably not another girl yet). Find something you have been wanting to learn or do and keep busy.
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Old Nov 21, 2005 | 10:25 AM
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hey if thats the case thats how my girl is some times she just clams up. kinda annoying but i let her go and cool off then its all good. every one expresses their feelings differently. next time if she doesn't want to talk go rip around town in your acura for an hour and come back and don't press her to talk. just let her come to you to talk. it has worked with me in the past.

don't sit at home being a hermit. go out enjoy your self with some of the finer bar sluts and enjoy. if it was meant to be she will be back in your life. but live it up till then.
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Old Nov 21, 2005 | 01:47 PM
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Originally Posted by GoDucksCLSPride
You might be jumping the gun a bit on that one. He said that her complaint is he always gets mad at her and she cannot take it anymore. If true, it's very possible that she rightfully left him.

None the less, learn from this situation and do not bring this dysfunctionality into your next relationship. If you want the pain to end, it sounds like it may need to start with you overcomming your anger issues

I understand, but that statement was just a confident builder out of the slump he's in. Regardless of who's fault it is, this will keep him from feeling sorry for himself and depressed.

It's helped me through these times as well; it'll also help him avoid the "what did I do wrong" questions. He'll be able to dismiss it and move on.


He's only 21, he has to understand that. Relationships <21 are meaningless, often ending up in breakup anyway.
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Old Nov 21, 2005 | 03:00 PM
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go on craigslist.com and find a bitch!!! I see lots of decent looking woman and take it only as meeting girls and nothing serious...

at your age (no offense), it should not be serious any ways.. (Leykis 101).
craigslist?? i see a few good ones but most are well except for the escorts maybe i'm just in a bad area
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Old Nov 21, 2005 | 03:13 PM
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Originally Posted by Nismotic
I understand, but that statement was just a confident builder out of the slump he's in. Regardless of who's fault it is, this will keep him from feeling sorry for himself and depressed.

It's helped me through these times as well; it'll also help him avoid the "what did I do wrong" questions. He'll be able to dismiss it and move on.


He's only 21, he has to understand that. Relationships <21 are meaningless, often ending up in breakup anyway.

Even if ony party is under 21, it generally doesn't work. I was dating a 19 year old chick... It didn't work out very well.
Thats all I have to say about that. Maybe she still loves me.
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Old Nov 21, 2005 | 04:14 PM
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Originally Posted by Toots
Even if ony party is under 21, it generally doesn't work. I was dating a 19 year old chick... It didn't work out very well.
Thats all I have to say about that. Maybe she still loves me.

are you kidding? she left you for me


When you're that young, you'll live and learn.
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Old Nov 21, 2005 | 04:47 PM
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OK another shitty day is almost over but still gotta go work out and study for my test on wednesday.

IT scares me that I can focus on studying right now.
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Old Nov 21, 2005 | 05:07 PM
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It will get better as each day passes, just watch. Just keep busy.
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Old Nov 21, 2005 | 09:00 PM
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Wow being at the libary feels so awesome right now.
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Old Nov 21, 2005 | 09:29 PM
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see gets better....



you'll be fine kido
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Old Nov 22, 2005 | 08:13 AM
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well I e-mailed her last night and called to say g-nite. Was that wrong? But hey my 6am workout felt great though.
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Old Nov 22, 2005 | 10:13 AM
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OK another shitty day is almost over but still gotta go work out and study for my test on wednesday.

IT scares me that I can focus on studying right now.
Yes, it's a good way to divert your attention to something productive.
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Old Nov 22, 2005 | 10:50 AM
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well I e-mailed her last night and called to say g-nite. Was that wrong?
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Old Nov 22, 2005 | 10:59 AM
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Feel like joining a kickboxing class
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Old Nov 22, 2005 | 11:41 AM
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well I e-mailed her last night and called to say g-nite. Was that wrong? But hey my 6am workout felt great though.
that will only prolong your feeling(s)
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Old Nov 22, 2005 | 12:17 PM
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Feel like joining a kickboxing class
GREAT! Do it! Not only will it take up some of your time and concentration but it will be very healthy. Find a class and join!
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Old Nov 22, 2005 | 02:01 PM
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GREAT! Do it! Not only will it take up some of your time and concentration but it will be very healthy. Find a class and join!

shit my gym does not offer it. They offer a class called The Beat, I think its something like tabo.
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