so lastnight me and a few buddies were at this club/bar. i met a nice little blonde lastnight who i busted looking over at us numerous times. i noticed her and though i would go in for the kill. i asked if her and her friend wanted a drink, the blonde said no but her friend said ok. so we talked for a while and went to a part of the bar where it was alittle quieter to talk. we talked for an hour or so, maybe longer and they took off around 2am. i asked earlier in the night if she wanted to go out sometime and she said yes. yay for me.

now my situation is i got this girls number lastnight and i told her i would call her tomorrow. she said ok. both of my buddies were like, "dude dont call her". i asked why and they said, "havent u ever seen the movie swingers?"i said no. they said, "dont call till sunday".

so im asking you guys, what should i do. should i call her today, or wait a few days or what. never saw the movie swingers, but i wanna call her now.

thanks

 

hmm, nobody has a clue. doesnt matter anyway, i went and called her and everything is going real smooth.

thanks though.

 

i was about to say, if you tell a woman youre going to call at a certain time, you better do it.

now if you hadnt given her a specific day, that wouldve been different.

 

but one of my buddies mentioned the "swingers" movie and how i shouldnt call for a few days. i havent seen it but i think its stupid anyhow. why waiting to call her. it might backfire and she might think im not interested and was only interested that night.

 

forget about the rule.. i use to wait 3-4 days before callin a girl but now i just fuck it and call the next day... they will just think you are more interested

 

Yes, call her.

YES YES YES.

The more I read, the more that I hear that women hate that guys feel that they have to wait until 3-4 days after meeting someone. If you get the # on Friday, call on Sunday in the "slow down" evening time of the day. If the girl likes you, what are the chances that she will think..."gee, he called too soon?". What I have heard is that you should ask them out for a "small" date during the week or even the next week. Don't take up the next weekend until you can tell that she wants you to ask her out for the weekend. This coming from someone getting married soon but I wouldn't pass this on unless I believed it. But, different crowds run different ways so I can't tell you what I think YOU should do. Most of my advice comes from Men's Health. :P

good luck.

 

im sorry if some guy gets my number and tells me hes going to call tomorrow but calls 4 days later, im going to assume, hes either horny and wants some, .. or he found the number in his pocket and is wondering who the hell it is

 

your friends are telling you to follow rules set by a movie, and a terrible one at that.

nuff said. you call when you said youd call.

 

good boy!!

if u say your gonna call, then call...if she doesnt want to talk to you she will send you to voicemail

 

Hey Swingers was a cool movie.

 

So why does Swingers say not to call till Sunday?

 

thats pretty much what i was wondering, but would never follow those guidelines.

 

WHY ?? You ask why ?? 'Cause you're so MONEY and you don't even know it.

Rent the movie. Great Flick.

Here's the dialog that I posted the last time the "when to call" thread was started. BTW, Sue is a guy (yep, a guy named sue).

Mike: So how long do I wait to call?
Trent: A day.
Mike: Tomorrow.
Sue: Tomorrow, then a day.
Trent: Yeah.
Mike: So two days?
Trent: Yeah, I guess you could call it that, two days.
Sue: Definitely, two days is like industry standard.
Trent: You know I used to wait two days to call anybody, but now it's like everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money. What do you think?
Sue: Yeah, but two's enough not to look anxious.
Trent: But I think three days is kind of money. You know because you...
Mike: Yeah, but you know what, mabey I'll wait 3 weeks. How's that? And tell her I was cleaning out my wallet and I just happened to run into her number.
Charles: Then ask her where you met her.
Mike: Yeah, I'll ask her where I met her. I don't remember. What does she look like? And then I'll asked if we fucked. Is that... would that be... T, would that be the money?
Trent: You know what. Ha ha ha Mike, laugh all you want but if you call too soon you might scare off a nice baby who's ready to party.
Mike: Well how long are you guys gonna wait to call your babies?
Trent, Sue: Six days.

 

That movie is so annoying its not even funny.

 

Definitely did the right thing by calling, but don't let it become a one way thing. If you have to call her for a month straight and she never calls, let her know that's not cool. If she still doesn't call, then dump her and move on. Remember, phone calls work both ways!

 

I look at it that if he has to tell her to call him, it's not worth it.

 

just to update everyone, i called her the day after i met her. we talked a few times. she seemed really nice, but then she turned into a psycho.

i met her friday night. i asked her that night if i could take her out "sometime". not tomorrow.

so the next day i call her before i go workout and i ask her if she wants to go to lunch after i work out. she said she had things to do, but asked me what i was doing later at night. i told her i had 3 choice. 1-go downtown........2-go to the northside................3-stay around my house.................not one of those meant taking her out. i actually had plans with one of my buddies to go to a club downtown.

so anyway, i talked to her a few hours later and she kept asking me what i was doing at night. i invited her to wherever i go and she said no to all the places, cause she doesnt like bars or clubs. i was thinking to myself, "ok, well where did i meet you?" "at a bar".

so basically her ex boyfriend was a mad drunk and now she is brainwashed by the fact that he was a mad drunk and now she sees all guys that drink or go to bars/clubs as someone she doesnt like. i told her she cant judge me after one day cause it isnt fair. i am not a clubhead, nor do i go to bars everyday. only on weekends.

heres afew things she told me:
1-she doesnt like guys who drink or go to bars or clubs, even though i met her at one(go figure)
2-she told me she has no friends
3-she told me she would rather hang out with her boyfriend everyday then hang with her friends once in a while. (this is the reason why she prob has no friends)
4-i asked her if were all 21, what are we suppose to do for fun, she said hang out together and do something.

im sure i forgot a few, but back to my story. so she calls me at 8pm. she asks what im doing, i said going downtown. so now she sounds all depressed and i ask whats wrong. she says "well i got all dressed up and ready to go out with you, but u didnt ask me out". i couldnt believe what i just heard. i told her that i asked to take her out sometime, not the next day.

then she proceeded to ask where i was going, (at this point we sound like a married couple, but havent even known eachother 24 hrs) and i said downtown to a bar/club. she said, "i thought u werent the clubber type?" i told her im not, but i promised my buddy i would go with him.

so the moral of the story is that she is psycho, no wonder she doesnt have friends, sounds like she was born in a barn, and it sucks to be her. i mean come on, who tells a guy they have no friends after the first night. lol

needless to say, i dont think she will be calling me back. hopefully i can get a one nighter out of her somehow, cause she is hott.

 

Sometimes girls think there's nothing wrong with just receiving calls if they're on a regular basis. Just remind them that you're only human and can forget to call so both parties need to call, not just the guy.

 

Ehh sounds interesting. She does sound like a psycho, but you did say you're not a bar/club type of guy, but the only 2 nights she's known what youre doing you're going to a bar/club. She seems confused

She's obviously interested in seeing you again, which is good, so keep us updated.

 

but see, i told her im not the club head type, but i do like to go to them once in a while. i told her that me and my friends are all 21 and going to a bar/club is a way for all of us to get out of the house and be together and have fun. i mean what are we suppose to do, hang out at the mall or a parking lot. i think most will agree with me there.

i think she classified me in the same group as her exboyfriend, and thats really unfair of her to judge me after 1 day.

i also find it kind of weird, that she got all dressed up waiting for me to call and take her out, and when i didnt she got mad at me.

i dont think she is interested, and if she is, i am oblivious to it. this all happened on saturday, i left a message yesterday saying sorry things didnt work out right, and i want to get to know her and still take her out and for her to call me, but its monday night and she hasnt called. she did start school today, so i guess thats an excuse, but im just pissed that she classified/judged me in the same boat as her psycho exboyfriend.

 

Not interested? She seems all over you. BTW, wasn't she with friends when she met you. An attractive girl with no friends is odd.

 

'Swingers' rules ... especially if you're my age -- 32 ! It was HOW we lived !!! You had to see the movie when it came out -- in 1996, to appreciate it.

 

if you tell a girl your gonna call her. you call her.

only pussies play the waiting game

 

she was with one of her friends and she said that her friend had to drag her out of the house just to go, cause she doesnt like bar/clubs.

she seemed obsessed just cause of the fact she was dressed up waiting for me to call, but now that she hasnt called, i think she went to the library to find her next guy. such a shame that a nice piece of ass had to go out this way.

o and BTW, everyday to work i see the same girl at the same time in a silver rsx drive by me. nice little blonde. were always going in opposite directions, and one day im gonna tell my boss im going to be late just so i can turn around and meet up with this other girl. lol

 

man when a girl asks you what your doing later you say "you" in more or less words. heh

you never say you have other plans or invite her to `come along` if its a first date.


no girl likes a guy who goes out to alot of bars etc...

 

who are u dr. love? if i have plans already, then that is what im doing. im not gonna ditch a good buddy of mine over some psycho broad, when i asked her out the next day anyway.

i asked if she wanted to go out "SOMTIME" not "TOMORROW" so its her fault for misunderstanding.

 

Why play games? If you want to call, call.. If not, don't offer to... Pretty simple, IMO

 

hopefully u guys all read my previous 102 replies. i started the thread, and then like an hour later i called. so technically this thread shouldnt even be going. hence the reason it was called "should i call now or no?" now meant on the third.

i did call that next day like i said. havent talked to her since. (read my long previous post if u havent).

 

If you wanna tap that ass, call her again. See how she reacts to you, hot or cold, bitchy or cool. Leave a message if she doesn't answer and if she calls back, you're in, if not, you definitely pissed her off.

 

well i did that on sunday after saturdays psychotic experience.

i am debating on calling her again cause i already left one message. i dont think its gonna work out just cause of the fact that i do go to clubs/bars and thats not what shes looking for. but i mean come on, what 21 yr old doesnt go to bars/clubs at least a few times a month or so.

where else are we suppose to go. im sure as hell not gonna stay in with her every weekend night unless she wants to freak me everynight. haha, i should tell her that.

and she has no reason to be pissed at me cause i didnt do anything wrong. i offered to take her out sometime, and she goes the next day and get all dressed up and ready and calls asking what were doing. i dont think so. shes got some problems i think she needs to take care of before anything else in her life.

 

If she didn't call you back, then you'd better move on.

 

why did you offer to buy her and her friend a drink?

 

uh, not only do you sound a little gunshy, but she's a nutcase

 

explain the definition of gunshy to me please. and i offered her and her friend a drink cause they were by themselves just sitting there and i went up to introduce myself and later in the convo i offered to by them drinks.

and someone lastnight called twice anonomous at like 11 pm but i didnt answer. i wonder if it was her and her friend playing games. but we can only wonder now.

 

That is what I was saying...you just said it in one line. :P

 

well its been a week and she hasnt called. i think she lost the interest, i guess she wants to stay a loser and stay in her barn of a house and not go out. i called yesterday and no answer so i will take the hint and erase her name from my phone. well it was interesting while it lasted.

 

It is hard to tell on the forum but I am hoping that your message comes across as postive. Move on man. Sorry about her not calling. I have REALLY been there. Sometimes with people that work around me which makes it hard. So I know how defeated it feels sometimes.

Look, this sounds wierd, but if the Chicago Museum of Art has a friday happy hour GO TO IT. The Museum of Fine Art in Boston has one and it is a meat market. I have gone with one other guys (one a forum member if he choses to speak up) and it is the easiest thing ever. If he wasn't a wuss he could have hooked up easy. I got scolded by some chick because I was there and dating someone (who wasn't there). It was voted the best hook-up in Boston by a local magazine because it is all professionals and you get to "act" pretentious with all the rest of the posers while you drink in front of 800yr old art. I bet most cities do it. Even if you know ZERO about art but can carry a conversation then GO. Trust me on this...Chicago MUST have the same thing. Seriously....even if you are afraid of going to an art museum (I don't know you), you are sure to score if the city museum has the same thing. Talk about what you do not about art. I have YET to meet someone that talks about the art when I am there. Look into it.

 

Who you callin' a wuss, bish?!?

Yes, it is a not-difficult place to meet the ladies. Mind you, quality sometimes takes a backseat to quantity, but I'm not gonna cast dispersions.

 

Maybe I was talking about Chris? Well...I guess you had your chances there too.

The nice thing about the MFA friday thing is that you are dealing with mostly professionals...not bar girls. Not that bar girls are all bad.

 

My bad...I noted the continued sentence/phrase, and I assumed Chris isn't a member here. That left moi.

Any Beetle owners here?