Propose AT your cousin's wedding

 

You guys are delusional.

The statistical odds show a correlation between age, marriage, and ultimately divorce. There is a REASON that correlation exists.

Oh yea, they may be the exception to the rule, the outlier that's so unique and off the charts that it's insignificant to the general correlation. So we shouldn't have an opinion on the statistical trend?! Foolish.

 

A lot of this forum's approach to many a problem is too black and white. People lack depth perception here. A disease curable by simply posing questions or taking things a step or two further than the "obvious".

 

Propose, make it a long engagement, and get married in a separate year from your cousin...if your soon-to-be fiance is okay with that. I've been dating my boyfriend for over 3 years now. I'm the one who asked him out, but I'm never going to propose; I'm far better than that. Just realize that you could lose her while waiting to not tick off your cousin. You could propose and explain the whole thing to her and tell her how much you love her and let her know it's not because "everyone else is doing it," and she'll understand. She'll probably be too excited to notice anyone else is engaged because you've waited so freakin' long.

*FYI: % of divorce lowers when you're married after 25

 

Anyone not willing to follow their own advice is not worth listening to. So for your cousin, you know what to do with that.

Many people get married and remain happily married even at 24. I was 23. Sometimes I wonder why so much of the advice on D&R wants everyone to live out "Animal House" until they are 38. The world is not all about "poon".

If you're really concerned about the family (and I did have Greek Orthodox friends and have been to one such wedding), I'd go find an elder member of the family (pick the common grandma or grandpa between you and your cousin) and get their take. Seek the wise council, not your idiot cousin.

 

I disagree. I know as many immature 40 year old idiots as I do immature 20 year old idiots. Marriage has everthing to do with emotional maturity and a willingness to actually work at a marriage. Granted, age can assist that emotional maturity, but it's by far the single discriminating factor. Everyone is different, and anyone encouraging the OP - based on the limited information he provided on this forum - to not get married is the only thing that's foolish.

 

I don't think I was ready at his age. But who's to say that he isn't. IMO, everyone has to make their own choices. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. But if he listens to all the people that tell him he shouldn't because he hasn't nailed a couple more chicks, or maybe he should wait til his 25th birthday, then who is more delusional?

 

WTF? This can't be real....