Selfish when on the rag?
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Originally Posted by svtmike
More like the people who try to use condoms are <80% effective.
My wife and I used condoms as our exclusive birth control for 8 years. Once we decided to have a baby -- bam no more than one month in either case.
They are very effective when used consistently and properly.
My wife and I used condoms as our exclusive birth control for 8 years. Once we decided to have a baby -- bam no more than one month in either case.
They are very effective when used consistently and properly.
Same here.
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Originally Posted by svtmike
More like the people who try to use condoms are <80% effective.
My wife and I used condoms as our exclusive birth control for 8 years. Once we decided to have a baby -- bam no more than one month in either case.
They are very effective when used consistently and properly.
My wife and I used condoms as our exclusive birth control for 8 years. Once we decided to have a baby -- bam no more than one month in either case.
They are very effective when used consistently and properly.
Originally Posted by svtmike
More like the people who try to use condoms are <80% effective.
My wife and I used condoms as our exclusive birth control for 8 years. Once we decided to have a baby -- bam no more than one month in either case.
They are very effective when used consistently and properly.
My wife and I used condoms as our exclusive birth control for 8 years. Once we decided to have a baby -- bam no more than one month in either case.
They are very effective when used consistently and properly.
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Originally Posted by SakiGT
Why is it off limits when shes on the rag. 
Yes I used to tell my ex I was the crimson dicked avenger because we would have sex on her periods. I run red lights!
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Originally Posted by Whiskers
By the power of being super black...
svtmike judging me by his weak-ass dick and motion in the ocean! Hahahahaha! I can't help it if you don't get friction on the sugar walls when you invade their privacy! Weak ass mofo!!
Get a clue mofo...my shit is potent! I will and can demonstrate on somebody near and dear to your weak-ass if necessary...
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Originally Posted by darksom1
Damn right!
svtmike judging me by his weak-ass dick and motion in the ocean! Hahahahaha! I can't help it if you don't get friction on the sugar walls when you invade their privacy! Weak ass mofo!!
Get a clue mofo...my shit is potent! I will and can demonstrate on somebody near and dear to your weak-ass if necessary...
svtmike judging me by his weak-ass dick and motion in the ocean! Hahahahaha! I can't help it if you don't get friction on the sugar walls when you invade their privacy! Weak ass mofo!!
Get a clue mofo...my shit is potent! I will and can demonstrate on somebody near and dear to your weak-ass if necessary...
. You're such an e-studly e-pimp. But here's "Da Nocturnal Cheetah" IRL:
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Originally Posted by RMATIC09
you cant make a post like that and not give any details. Fess up bish.
So because I didn't get upset, at least not to her, about her not doing anything that night, I proved that I wasn't just using her for sex. Now let's just say that when that time comes around, I'm the center of attention.
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
Turns out she thought I was using her for sex. lol
So because I didn't get upset, at least not to her, about her not doing anything that night, I proved that I wasn't just using her for sex. Now let's just say that when that time comes around, I'm the center of attention.
So because I didn't get upset, at least not to her, about her not doing anything that night, I proved that I wasn't just using her for sex. Now let's just say that when that time comes around, I'm the center of attention.
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
Turns out she thought I was using her for sex. lol
So because I didn't get upset, at least not to her, about her not doing anything that night, I proved that I wasn't just using her for sex. Now let's just say that when that time comes around, I'm the center of attention.
So because I didn't get upset, at least not to her, about her not doing anything that night, I proved that I wasn't just using her for sex. Now let's just say that when that time comes around, I'm the center of attention.
Wow, one whole night. You are the man. You are destined for relationship greatness.
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Originally Posted by NSXNEXT
Wow, one whole night. You are the man. You are destined for relationship greatness.
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
So are you just having a bad morning or are you just an in general bitter person?
Nope, having a great morning. Just still find it funny that after 8 pages of responses, you still don't get it.
Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
Now let's just say that when that time comes around, I'm the center of attention
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Originally Posted by NSXNEXT
Nope, having a great morning. Just still find it funny that after 8 pages of responses, you still don't get it.
Try re-reading the last few pages of the thread, basically everyone here thought that my mindset was eventually correct and my thinking properly developed towards the end.
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
The thing is, I do get it. You see, I made the right choices. Things worked out for the best. Everyone is happy, including her.
Try re-reading the last few pages of the thread, basically everyone here thought that my mindset was eventually correct and my thinking properly developed towards the end.
Try re-reading the last few pages of the thread, basically everyone here thought that my mindset was eventually correct and my thinking properly developed towards the end.
No it's not. You just assume that her period is just a little blood. Talk to a woman and ask her how she feels when she has her period. For most, it's an emotional rollercoaster and I would imagine that the last thing on her mind is playing with your free willy.
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Originally Posted by NSXNEXT
No it's not. You just assume that her period is just a little blood. Talk to a woman and ask her how she feels when she has her period. For most, it's an emotional rollercoaster and I would imagine that the last thing on her mind is playing with your free willy.
Originally Posted by NSXNEXT
No it's not. You just assume that her period is just a little blood. Talk to a woman and ask her how she feels when she has her period. For most, it's an emotional rollercoaster and I would imagine that the last thing on her mind is playing with your free willy.
A good amount of women actually get hornier when on the rag. The large increase and decrease of hormones has there labidoes on the fritz and the only thing on the brain is sucking and dropping ketchup on the dog!
But yes theres the other half of it where women feel like dog shit on their period. Stay away from those.
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Now you better pray she does not see this thread - or you are busted for being mad she didn't do anything.
For what it is worth - appears to me you are using her and she just hasn't discovered it yet
For what it is worth - appears to me you are using her and she just hasn't discovered it yet
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Originally Posted by JWhite1301
Now you better pray she does not see this thread - or you are busted for being mad she didn't do anything.
For what it is worth - appears to me you are using her and she just hasn't discovered it yet
For what it is worth - appears to me you are using her and she just hasn't discovered it yet
Calm down a little people.
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
Way too many psychologists on this site. How did this thread turn into me using my girlfriend for sex? Calm down a little people.
Calm down a little people.It does not take a PhD to determine what is going on here. You obviously felt like your reaction was selfish or you would have never asked......
On the calm down comment - what does this mean? You asked for opinions on a forum, people respond and you say calm down. No one seems uptight, upset, etc. Seems you do not like the response, so say calm down..... makes no sense to me.
It turned into you using her for sex when YOU brought it up as how she felt. I just happen to agree with her. Too bad she is fooled now - by one night.
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Originally Posted by JWhite1301
Not trying to analyze you at all...... you ask for an opinion on whether you are being selfish or not. People told you that Yes - you are. Then you claimed you could not understand why people were saying you were - then you agreed once the response was overwhelming. Then your TRUE colors came out - once you figured out she was playing you for that one night - you do not care if you are selfish or not. You are now the star of the show...... the point you missed that others are referring too is this - you are still SELFISH and not concerned with her needs.
It does not take a PhD to determine what is going on here. You obviously felt like your reaction was selfish or you would have never asked......
On the calm down comment - what does this mean? You asked for opinions on a forum, people respond and you say calm down. No one seems uptight, upset, etc. Seems you do not like the response, so say calm down..... makes no sense to me.
It does not take a PhD to determine what is going on here. You obviously felt like your reaction was selfish or you would have never asked......
On the calm down comment - what does this mean? You asked for opinions on a forum, people respond and you say calm down. No one seems uptight, upset, etc. Seems you do not like the response, so say calm down..... makes no sense to me.
See, re-read your first line, my question was not whether or not I was being selfish, the question was whether she was or not. Then people gave their opinion, which after some thought I agreed with. It was never overwhelming to me.
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Fair enough on the selfish part - I read it as asking if you were being selfish, not her.
To answer this question - NO she is not being selfish for not tending to your every need.
PS - I still think you are being selfish though - LOL........
To answer this question - NO she is not being selfish for not tending to your every need.
PS - I still think you are being selfish though - LOL........
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Originally Posted by JWhite1301
Fair enough on the selfish part - I read it as asking if you were being selfish, not her.
To answer this question - NO she is not being selfish for not tending to your every need.
PS - I still think you are being selfish though - LOL........
To answer this question - NO she is not being selfish for not tending to your every need.
PS - I still think you are being selfish though - LOL........
If you think about it, my reaction reduced the concern of my using her for sex which is why things worked out in the end. In all honesty, I'm not using her for sex, regardless of what you theorize.
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Originally Posted by wndrlst
Sorry, but I agree with those saying your thinking is selfish.
You should understand that there are a lot of things at play for different women during that time of the month. On days when the flow is particularly heavy it's virtually impossible to feel sexy. I'm all about giving some love to a guy when I can't get my own for whatever reason, but if I'm not feeling it, that just makes me feel like a prostitute. Particularly in a brand new relationship, a woman will be looking for some kind of a connection in any sexual encounter.
You also have to factor in her hormones which will fluctuate during that week and affect her libido for better or worse. Also important to consider is that very few things will make a woman less interested in sex than cramps. I know you don't have a uterus, so think of someone grabbing your intestines & wringing them out like a wet towel. Still horny?
Not to mention, you're sitting there expecting yours, when she's not going to have hers. If she's willing, that makes her generous. If she's not, she's not generous, but I wouldn't tip it into selfishness either. Thinking of leaving her because you didn't even ask, and she didn't offer, puts you on the selfish side. We don't read minds any better than you do. Ask for what you want. If she looks at you like it's the most bizarre request ever, and says she would never consider it regardless of how she's feeling, THEN you can talk about looking for a more generous lover.
You should understand that there are a lot of things at play for different women during that time of the month. On days when the flow is particularly heavy it's virtually impossible to feel sexy. I'm all about giving some love to a guy when I can't get my own for whatever reason, but if I'm not feeling it, that just makes me feel like a prostitute. Particularly in a brand new relationship, a woman will be looking for some kind of a connection in any sexual encounter.
You also have to factor in her hormones which will fluctuate during that week and affect her libido for better or worse. Also important to consider is that very few things will make a woman less interested in sex than cramps. I know you don't have a uterus, so think of someone grabbing your intestines & wringing them out like a wet towel. Still horny?
Not to mention, you're sitting there expecting yours, when she's not going to have hers. If she's willing, that makes her generous. If she's not, she's not generous, but I wouldn't tip it into selfishness either. Thinking of leaving her because you didn't even ask, and she didn't offer, puts you on the selfish side. We don't read minds any better than you do. Ask for what you want. If she looks at you like it's the most bizarre request ever, and says she would never consider it regardless of how she's feeling, THEN you can talk about looking for a more generous lover.
As usual Wndrlst, very well said!!!!!!
Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
I agreed with that opinion a long time ago. The bump was regarding a complete twist on the situation, albiet a good one, about which I felt the need to inform those who care.
If you think about it, my reaction reduced the concern of my using her for sex which is why things worked out in the end. In all honesty, I'm not using her for sex, regardless of what you theorize.
If you think about it, my reaction reduced the concern of my using her for sex which is why things worked out in the end. In all honesty, I'm not using her for sex, regardless of what you theorize.
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
See, re-read your first line, my question was not whether or not I was being selfish, the question was whether she was or not.
That's what was so funny about this thread.
Originally Posted by NSXNEXT
yes you are selfish.
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Originally Posted by NSXNEXT
That's what was so funny about this thread.
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Originally Posted by GIBSON6594
I never denied that I was perhaps a bit selfish once I thought about it 
Why is that funny?
Why is that funny?
It's funny because your original intent was to prove that your S.O. was selfish and it quickly turned on you.
Did you not read your own thread?
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Gibson - no worries if you got angry and didn't show it, and then things worked out. Happens a lot in a relationship. When that's me I'm usually thankful for the bullet I dodged. 
But there's a lesson in here I think some of the previous posters are hoping you got. Your original reaction/attitude to the situation was not a healthy one. So it was a menstrual cycle that threw you off this time. What if it was an illness next time - or kids, or cancer, or just a really bad day? Once you get deeper into a relationship, many things will start getting in the way of your desires. So if you just walk away from this happy because you figured out a way around this in order to get some when you want it, I think you're in trouble when the next thing hits. Because there is a next thing out there - guarantee it.
Good luck -
But there's a lesson in here I think some of the previous posters are hoping you got. Your original reaction/attitude to the situation was not a healthy one. So it was a menstrual cycle that threw you off this time. What if it was an illness next time - or kids, or cancer, or just a really bad day? Once you get deeper into a relationship, many things will start getting in the way of your desires. So if you just walk away from this happy because you figured out a way around this in order to get some when you want it, I think you're in trouble when the next thing hits. Because there is a next thing out there - guarantee it.
Good luck -
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Originally Posted by NSXNEXT
It's funny because your original intent was to prove that your S.O. was selfish and it quickly turned on you.
Did you not read your own thread?
Did you not read your own thread?
Here is the rub...your post:
"Wow, one whole night. You are the man. You are destined for relationship greatness."
Had nothing to do with the original question, was malicious in intent and was inherently misconstrued. That's what is bothering me. And regardless of whether it was on the internet or face to face, comments such as those would have pierced my apparent thin skin.
My welcome to the internet warning would have been better applied to the "tough guys" and "know-it-alls" I will run into.