I'm saying that relationships suck because I was recently heartbroken and dumped. I've been with her for 4.5years until last week. She decided to go on with a younger guy who is still a minor! Seriously, she's almost 19, and she's on with a 17 year old guy. I can't believe this... My life has completely gone worse every year, I just don't really know what to do anymore.

Back in 2007, parents divorced and I find out that my dad's been cheating on my mom for the past 7years and ended up marrying her just recently. Then, my mom hooks up with this guy who threatens to call the police on me because I told him I didn't like him, and my mom sides with him. I mean WTF?! Then I find out on my birthday that I'm moving to Texas. Literally on my birthday of this year. I can't believe this. For the past few years, my life has gone down hill from left to right and it made things worse when my girlfriend dumped me.

I really dont know what to do anymore. I've been with her for 4.5years and literally the love of my life, now it's all gone. Thrown away. I hate my life and everything else around me. I've been trying to stay productive and to do something and I have but this shit isn't helping at all.

I just wish someone could understand how I really really feel and not have me be understanding to them. I know that it isn't all about me, what it isn't all about them either ya know?!...

I really hate my life. I just hate it completely. I don't deserve any of it. NONE of it. It's tooo hard to move on and to just let things go right a way. damn.

 

What was her reason that she broke up with you? It might be because you are moving to Texas and she doesn't wanna deal with a long distance relationship you know? I understand you've been with her so long but, I know what everyone will say.

"You are young and only 20, you have your whole life ahead of you and you should be seeing other girls"

Something around those lines I'm guessing. Sorry you got busted with all this bad stuff in one year man, sucks. Good luck

 

Frankly, I'd be more upset about the other things in your life than the girl.

 

You know it! Don't get hung up about this girl bro, it's gonna take some time but you will get over her. Best thing to do is go cold turkey style, delete her number/email/myspace/facebook pictures, all that shit. Once you do that, it will get easier. This sounds like a typical response but that's what needs to be done. Good luck bro.

 

Sorry to hear it but you probably should not have been tied down to a girl from 16 to 20 anyway. Everything happens for a reason. Consider yourself lucky and get out there and live. Things will get better. You're only 20 for christ sakes.

Good luck.

 

Well you are moving so breaking up with your GF was inevitable.

Don't worry dude, you are way too young to be worrying about your first GF. Get down to Texas and give some of those texas teas your longhorn.

 

20 years old. You dont even have any idea of what "Life" is. Buck up and deal with it.

 

Sorry to hear. Sounds like a lot of tough stuff going on right now. And 4.5 yrs is a long time but everyone is right, there are SOOOO many other fish in the sea and you have a long life ahead of you.

And btw, Texas isn't that bad! In SA you have the river walk, the Spurs, and lots of good tex-mex food.

 

There's always someone better out there.

Don't live your life thinking that there's always one that's right for you.

 

Man, I wish I was 20 years old and single

 

there are worse situations you can be in than 20 years old and single

 

mother-f'n

...look at the bright side

 

you're going to find this hard to believe, but your situation sounds good.

You're 20, single and you get a fresh start in a new city/ state. sounds good to me

 

 

I second this.
Texas is badass!

 

Sorry to hear about all the hard luck lately. As far as your parents are concerned, they are adults and apparently couldn't hold their marriage together. It happens. From your post, they have moved on and are seeing others. It was probably coming from years. You got blind swipped from you girl, it sounds like and that hurts. Make the best of it. Your starting new in a new place. Get out and meet some people and make friends. Co-workers, neighbors, etc. You'll meet another girl. Get out there and date. For now just keep it friendly but nothing serious. Just because your girl dumped you doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. It was probably more her and she obviously moved on. You need to as well. Keep your chin high and go after some tail. Good luck.

 

hey man... keep your head up, don't give up just yet... i've personally have been moving around since i was 9. i moved from russia to florida, and then from florida to maryland. but u know everytime i moved i thought to myself, all the times i fucked up back there, i'm not going to let it happen in the new place i'm moving to... if u keep thinking positive, everything will get better for you, trust me on that one.

as far as your gf man, if she just dumped you for no apparent reason what so ever, and left you for some 17 year old. fuck her. she isn't the right one for you anyways. dont think that you just wasted 4.5 years of your life. think of it like this, now you know what kind traits you want you girl to have, and what kind you want to stay away from... learn from your mistakes, because as far as youre concerned, that was a huge experience for you that you need to never forget so that shit like that wouldn't happen to you again.

 

for one, texas has some hotties there and women love someone from somewhere else, at least at our age. All the other things suck much more than your girl but i can see why that would be the icing on the cake. focus on yourself and getting what you want done

 

You'll forget about her soon enough. You are only 20. Now go sleep with college girls to make up for time lost in high school

 

Fortunately your still young you are gonna learn that when bad things happen they come in herds, thats life man. I know it sucks and that you seem helpless and don't know what to do. Just get out and go gather your thoughts and start making decisions about your future and where you want to be.

You are not going to always like your moms new boyfriend. Trust me it took my mom about 4 boyfriends later that I finally actually like one of them (Dad passed away 11 years ago). In the long run your mom will eventually see things from your perspective and get rid of the guy.

 

fuck this. you're 20. move outtt!

 

get out of everett man. thats your main problem right there.

 

Are you in good health? Do you have a family around you? (Whether they are divorced or not). Do you have a car to drive? Do you have a house to live in and food to eat? Do you have friends to hang out with?

If you do in fact have these things, then stop the fucking whining and get the fuck over it. Life could be A LOT worse, remember that.

 

Wow way to be an asshole make sure the next time you have a problem I hope people are asses to you. Fucking guy is going through some problems in his life and you come up with this asinine comment. I would say more but this post isn't about me or your retarded comment.

 

Thank You

 

^ i got screwed by an ex once.. i remained the better person through the whole thing while she was not so nice. she ended up getting pregnant and now is a single mom with a dad in jail for 30 yrs from driving drunk killing someone. she apologized to me later, karma is a bitch. get on with your life, job, goals.. girls can be replaced. obviously she wasn't a keeper.

 

What's the saying? Bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks? It's a damn fact. I finally ended things with a girl I'd been dating and I loved because I knew there was no way in hell I could stay with her. It's for the better, absolutely 100% for the better. You just have to be able to move on, and know that it's for the best. This is a blessing in disguise.

 

^I guess to be in all fairness and respect for some of the ladies on this board that comment isn't always true and guys do the same thing too.

 

I didn't mean that quite literally, but when girls decide they're going to fuck with you that's absolutely the truth. That's all, my apologies to all ladies here, I know one of you in particular has been a great help to me.

 

As far as your girl leaving you, it's her loss. How is some kid still in high school gonna compare with you? You've got an awesome car, with a better one coming soon, and youre probably paying for it yourself. Means you're a hard worker. And think about the traits that made her stay with you for so long. You still have them. Go to Texas, get away from all the shit in your town, start fresh. You'll meet great people, new people who have no idea who you are.
Make an impression, and pick people wisely, and you're set. You'll probably forget about your last girl over time, and I'd bet my car she'll contact you before the summer's end apologizing and asking for you back. Don't take her back. Learn your lesson and use it later in life for your benefit.

If you want to get your mind off her, a few things work. Go work out. Go for a drive or clean your car. Hang out with other friends a lot, especially since you're moving in two weeks anyways. Take advantage of the situation and ALWAYS keep your attitude up.

 

That is pretty fucking stupid if you approach everything like that...you come off as a dick

 

Thanks man for the great advice. I have been getting my mind off from her and actually slowly moved away from the problem. Btw, I've already moved to Texas. Just back in WA to finish up the Summer Quarter. I'm on my own, and apparently trying to get another car. I'm tired of spending my money on fixing up this car. Rather be using the money for a monthly payment for the car. But anyway, it is true. It really is her loss because I've been good to her since day one then now it's all gone. I'm not going to take her back in anyway. And about my parents situation, it just really bugs me because i'm in the middle out of everything. I'm the oldest so I guess I take things the hardest. Can't wait until I'm out of this state because I just need out. TOO much drama.

I work hard for what I want. I don't just expect things to be given to me unlike other kids who are spoiled. Anyway, I'm out cause I need to get some homework finished. Thanks for the advice again. It is very well appreciated.


I'm just going to ignore what he said. But thanks for getting my back. I'm asking for advice, not being judged.

 

Who the hell said I approach everything like that? Pretty sure I never said that chief. The damn kid is 20 years old and he's talking like his life is frigin over because his "girlfriend of 4.5 years" dumped him. Are you serious?? Dude... it's a GIRL! There are millions upon millions of girls in this world. Obviously, she was not your so-called "soulmate," because if she was, she would not have broken up with you. As the saying goes, if it is meant to be, it will be. If not, GTF over it.

There are people everyday in this world who lose their loved one(s), or are diagnosed with terminal illnesses, or have lost everything and do not have one single penny to their name (must I remind you of the current economic climate we're in?). And this kid is saying his life completely sucks because he lost a girl at 20 or has to move to a different state.

Please...

EDIT: I am well aware that I come off as an asshole to probably most of you, but I look at the much bigger picture of things. I tend not to focus on these minuscule "problems" that basically mean nothing in the grand scheme of things.

 

Thanks a lot captain obvious, now please shut up.

 

There's a famous expression, but live every day like it's your last day. Don't let things get to you from your past, make the best out of today and what you have going on for you.

 

I'll give credit for the 4.5 years spent together...that is tough even when you are young. Sure he will get over it and realize it wasn't as big of a deal as he made it, but unless someone has AIDS then they are supposed to not care about upsetting things? That doesn't really help with anything.

Regardless of the bigger picture you are still an asshole

 

calm down guys... i'm only here to get some help. so please say what you really have to say to help. if you don't then dont say anything at all...

 

Just beat your dick till you find a new girl..J/k you'll be alright though you should be happy you guys are finally breaking up. You're way to young to be in a long relationship plenty of fish to eat out there.

 

Wasn't talking to you little boy. Go back to Health and Fitness and act like you know what you're talking about.

 

Thanks for reminding me who you are.

To any who want to see what a fucking idiot this guy is, please read this:

https://acurazine.com/forums/showthr...ASASN21&page=2

Oh and I love how you think "little boy" is so insulting to me I don't know you or care about you. I do think you're retarded though and that is based on the comments you've made and your thoughts on issues about which you have posted.