Alright...

I got back from Miami...and the trip was great I loved every moment of it..my gf didnt call any really...But I called her a couple times but no one picked up or it went straight to her vmail...and I sent her a text message but she replied not to send em cause they cost money...but she sends me some often (wierd)

When I get back she's like why didnt you call me...I told her I did but no one picked up or it went straight to the vmail...and I felt like she was ignoring my phone calls...and I told her about how I sent her a text message and stuff...

Well she was furious and pissed off she was like dont expect me to become all happy and talking to you and stuff when you get back from a trip and you dont call me at all...I told her that well I'm sorta on a vacation trip and that how does she expect me to call her all the time especially since I'm hanging out with my friends and i really didnt have much time to call cause we were always running around doing something...

So she asked me what all I did and I told her:

Friday- We got there late so we went straight to the beach and played football at night

Saturday- We went to the beach again went swimming played football and hung out, went out to eat than went to a Show and then a afterparty for the show @ a club...

Sunday- We drove back...

After that she was just like whatever...

She got online and she was all upset and I was like whats wrong and she said you know whats wrong...so I figure its cause I didnt call her much and stuff and again I explained to her the calling situation and she was like whatever you were having too much fun to call me or even think about me...but I told her, " Its not that I did think of you, but you can't expect me to call you everytime you pop in my head ".

So then she was all upset and she's like you dont even care about me you dont act like you love and she's like something about breaking up...(i dont remember exactly), but I know I said " If you want to break up its not up to me its up to you, cause I'm not making the decision for you ". And she's like find its over...

So then 30 mins later she's like I'm sorry I was really pissed of and it was a terrible mistake and that she can't live her life without me and stuff...

Well I was like you can't just go around changing your mind on something this serious and I was all angry and stuff and I told her that its not something you just blurt out and not think about...and I told her I know it went through your mind cause if it didnt before you wouldnt have said it...(this is the 2nd time we had this fight about her wanting to break up)

So I told her you know what forget this...I need space...and that I want to go on a break for awhile till I figure out what I want to do... (cause she drives me nuts) and because you dont knwo what you want if your ganna break up with me and say its a mistake 30 mins later...

So right now we are taking a break and I told her I want space and my friend helped explain to her that she shouldnt keep chasing me and that I will just got farther away...and instead to let me come back to her when I'm ready...Which I totally agree upon...

For now I'm out and I'm trying to just hang out and talk to her as just friends...we havent hung out yet, but we talk as just friends right now and see how it goes..and maybe slowly break away so no one gets hurt as badly...



EDIT:

She also has got the feeling of me going to break up with her...cause she felt like i was breaking up with her when i wanted to take a break...so she knows something is going to happen...so I told her:

Somethings are meant to be & Somethings aren't...

and she was talking about how long it would take each of us to get over each other if something like that happened...

 

blah, blah, blah, blabbity,blab.

"I'm still breaking up with you, you're psycho bitch from hell"

blah, blah, blabbity, sob, blabbity.

"no really, its over, don't ever call me"

 

Yeah I wish it was that easy...

 

oh, but it is. Save yourself the drama. Just don't ever speak again and get some fresh.

 

Man if you knew how indian drama starts you would understand...like i'm starting to talk to her less and more as friends than dating....

 

ok, you're just dragging it out. break the fuck UP with her! she's obviously weird, and you're young, and... stop trying to save everyone's feelings and do what you NEED for yourself once in a while. (don't take this out of context and treat people like shit, but hopefully you know what i mean).

if you aren't happy in a relationship, WHY BE IN IT??? i do not understand why people drag this shit out.

 

you figure its easier to handle than just outta nowhere bein like bitch i dnt wnna be with you and end it right there..

 

Im reading this and its already starting to piss me off. Ditch the Bitch. I had one bitch try to start doing that with me, I fucked some of her friends, and told her that she is dead to me. Problem solved

 

Yeah I'm just now waiting for the right time to end it...

and how I'm going too...

I was thinking of something to do like tell her face to face and write a letter telling her why...

or just doing it online...

or just doing it on the phone...

Not sure yet...

 

There is no better time than right now. And be a man and tell her face to face. Don't drag it out, no drama, be firm, but understanding. Make it a clean break, no "let's just be friends" shit.

 

Sounds easier than it is...I guess I might do it this weekend...or next

I've gotta grab a hold of my balls and be a man...

EDIT:

I was talking on the phone with her today after her soccer game and when we were gettin off the phone was like "I love you" and I paused and pertended i didnt hear it and siad talk to ya later...and she said bye and i said bye...

It was very awkward...even though I do love her...I dont want to say it cause she might think that I want to continue being normal again ya know?

 

what?

anyway, if you guys have been vocalizing your disagreements, then that makes it that much easier. breaking up with a guy who absolutely loved and adored me was one of the hardest things i've ever had to do, but I WASN'T HAPPY. I told him i didn't feel like continuing the relationship was the best thing to do. he was needy, i was independent. sounds like she's needy and you're independent. now go do your thing.

 

Thanks for the feedback....EVERYONE!!

I'm going to see her this weekend...at a comedy show and alot of people are going to a club afterwards I'm not sure if she's going...

 

Good luck man, be strong. Just remember, ask yourself if it's worth it.

 

I just want to thank everyone that posted on this thread for all your insight and oppinions on what you felt about my relationship problems. You have no idea how much I appreciated it. I streched my relationship from 03-11-2005, 12:08 AM TO 08-25-2005, 8:50 PM...

and now its finally over and I feel sad, but I think I'll be ok.

 

So it's all over now. I hope you find a better one!

 

yeah its over.....me2....Man i've been outta the game for like 3 yrs...its time to start it up again soon....

 

you were "in the game" at 15? man i didn't even care about girls at 15 lol

 

Neither did I!