ive been seein this girl off and on for 3 years and we have just started to get real serious . i care about this girl alot and i love her. awhile back, she cheated on me. just got with someone, not a HUGE deal, but it still happened and it bothers me. and she lied about it on top of that. so now i kinda have my guard up. she swears she made a mistake before and she wont risk losing me again. the thing is, she has a few guy friends. when she is with them, i just dont trust her... period. and lately it has just been causing fights. i have no reason to say she is cheating on me. but when im not around her, i just wonder what she might be doing... i try and play mr. faithful and i wonder if she is doin the same thing.... i wanna be with her, but me always being concerned about her isnt helping. i just dont wanna throw away a good thing cause im an idiot.... but then again.... i could be gettin played for a fool. you just ant trust girls these days.....

 

It's not a good thing so throw it away. I was in the same situation. My girl cheated on me due to being drunk and made it seem like she was taken advantage of. This happened right when we started going out and throughout the rest of the relationship I never could fully trust her. If it's causing fights between you two the only one to blame is your girl. If it happened to her she wouldn't be as trusting either so she should put herself in your shoes, or at least you can cheat on her to show her first hand.

 

you can't always be around her or anyone, and you probably wouldn't want to. if you can't ever be apart without thinking she is playing you, you might as well break it off now.

 

werd. sounds to me like she is ahead 1-0.

you should go bang 2 girls. at least then if she cheats on you again, you will be even.

 

i love your logic

 

no trust no relationship. It's that simple. If you cannot trust her why even bother?

Move on.

Next?

 

I agree with Killer... and besides, you're still young and you'll find another.. Why keep going if you can't trust her?

 

When you love the girl and dont see the same, move on. 3 years is enough time to figure out the person in many situations. The divorce rate in this country is highest then the rest of the world due to plenty of reasons one most important there is no love and no trust. The question is was it ever been in the first place? Did the chick ever cared of who you are. If you bing a prick its a different story. If I suspect something is up, I will talk to her and try understand things. Some people when cheated once will do it again, others will learn their mistakes and wont do it again if they care about the second half.

Finally, if you dont trust her, it will get worse. The best to heal the pain is to find another girl and forget about her. Being there, now happy with ukrainian chick.

 

Yeah no point being with a girl if u cant trust her. I've heard a lot of stuff like "well i was drunk and it didn't really mean anything." Well it's up to you if you wanna be with the type of girl that thinks physical intimacy means nothing. I would split myself

 

Dude, your scarred. And there will NEVER be a fix. Only time can heal that shit. And boning another chick will not make u feel any better since u love her.

You need to come to terms with yourself FULLY. Can u accept she cheated and move on or will u keep that monkey on your back??

U HAVE A CHOICE TO MAKE. And you probably already know which one it is.

I think it can work but u HAVE TO LET THAT SHIT GO.

 

good look bro... your right on the money. i just care about her, just one of those things... im all fed up with the fighting... im just not dealin with it no more...

 

Good move on. If you feel you deserve better, THAN YOU DO!! No one has to put up with anything. Just being with her all this time makes you the better man and means u gave partial forgiveness.
Just make sure that u don't judge future relationships on this current one. Don't mess up the next opportunity thinking the same thing will happen again.

Dr. Love-SICk

 

Dump her, it's time to move on. I wouldn't let my girl cheat even once. The only solution to a cheating girlfriend is find another girlfriend.

 

oh man. once a cheater...

i couldn't ever be with someone who cheated.

my philosophy: if you can't stay faithful to someone, then you must not love them, and if you don't respect them enough to be faithful, then you don't deserve them.

trust is SO important in a relationship. if you don't have that, then you have nothing. i'm thinking you should end it

 

 

Can't turn a Ho into a housewife, if she cheated once she would be gone in my book. She's done it once, and will probably do it again. It doesn't sound like she is trying to earn your trust back either, kinda like, oh well, it happened, move on. No way, drop her like a hot potato. my 2cents

 

they are right. no second chances allowed. you wont ever be completly able to trust her again. its a fact. so just let it go. theres no point in fighting with her about it everyday.

 

shes playin you...
u think the guys she hangs out wit dont wanna bang her if she gave them a chance?

 

dump her, but keep bangin her until u find a new one...

 

dump the whore and move on, thats all there is to it. she cheats...shes gone...period

 

DUDE she had another dick inside of her. Tell her to get the fuck out. If my girl cheated, I would whop her ass, and then leave her. Dont take that shit man!

 

Me and my girl..........we got this relationship..........I love her so bad, but she treats me like shit. Got me on lockdown like a penetentary.......she spreads her lovin all over and when she gets home there's none left for me.

 

thats really wierd....the same thing is going on with me except its been almost 2 years....and she hasnt cheated on me that i know of...but seems like she is

she says that i mean the world to her and stuff and she would be lost with out me....
it sucks cause no1 likes getting hurt!

 

everyone here has pretty much said it. if you don't/can't trust her, you gotta let her go. sounds harsh, but if you get burned again, it'll feel even worse.

I agree w/ supermegaglossy, i could never be with anyone who has cheated on me.