Trust me I really wanted to but she's REAL protective of that situation, she wouldnt allow me to meet the guy or speak to him under any circumstances which pretty much says something isnt right.. things might have worked out if I had a couple of words with him but in some ways I think she is misleading him as well, just a feeling I get.

 

Never doubt your intuition, its probably right. Something seems off, and it probably is. If she put him in the past and never talked to him again, then cool, but still talking to him?

Playing with fire. Not fair to you, not one bit.

 

wow you definitely made the right move then (provided you stick to it) if you wanted to take the other route of talking to him, what's she gonna do? pry the phone from your hands? i've been led on by someone with a bf so i don't doubt that happens a lot.

 

Good deal. Move on and don't look back. She'll be someone else's problem from now on.

 

I think you made the right decision and saved yourself a lot of pain in the future. good luck with your business.

 

OK, my take on this is that the relationship has been over for a while. You can't trust her and she can't trust you. You're looking through her phone to see who she is talking too is bad for both of you. I say, get out of it now, before it gets worse.

It sounds like she definately had something with this other guy. Maybe he said that he was leaving his wife and then they hooked up. Maybe she figured out the 40 year old was full of shit and came back to you. Maybe they do it on your bed. You really want to keep asking yourself these questions.

 

lol Yeah I didnt feel right going through the phone but I had a feeling something was up, I didnt throw this out there in the beginning but me and her do have a son together which is why I gave it this one last chance. Its kind of f'd up because I was really content on being a family and making things work but she still wants to play games.

Right now I have zero regrets and I doubt I will but I can say these next few months will be rough, luckily I have a good distraction to keep this stuff off of my mind.

 

Well, that changes some things. But honestly, I am a firm believer that staying in a failed relationship for the sake of a kid is not healthy for the kid either.

It sound like you and the woman need to really sit down and HONESTLY discuss things. If you choose to do that, ask yourself if she said she is sleeping with this guy, or have in the past, how you will really feel about it.

 

We had that talk before we got back together, the problem is she cannot sit down and discuss anything HONESTLY, I think she believes her lies. An example of this would be how I found out her real age (she said she was older than me because I told her I like older women when we met) the day our son was born the nurse comes in to get all of her information and asks for her date of birth. I'm consumed with my son in the delivery room so I wasnt paying attention but I did hear the year.. because of the moment I didnt make a big deal of it but the point is she lies about senseless stuff.

That instance doesnt even scratch the surface, I have accepted the fact that I didnt choose the best woman to have a child with but I never regret it. Basically after dealing with this 5 years later there is no reconciliation, she's had too many chances and by forgiving her I would become an enabler... she has a problem and doesnt want to confront it so I'll be a father to my son and that is it.

 

Dude....Good Luck. You're going to need it.

 

 

Wow.. didnt bother meeting her friends and family before tying the knot?

 

I met them and spent plenty of time with her family, I just had that blind trust in the beginning and oddly her age never really came up.. even on her birthday.

 

update: I'm in Alaska getting things done for my business so the ex girlfriend calls me in tears apologizing and telling me how she misses "us" and that she can never love anyone else like she loves me blah blah... I did listen cause a part of it was bittersweet but I explained to her that things are ruined now and there arent any more chances.

 

good deal

 

btw how older is she