My girlfriend and I have only been together for a short period of time. 6 months to be exact.

Here is the thing I am 22 and have had my goals set and work hard to accomplish them. I work full time and bought my house when I was 19 I just bought a new car and started a business that is going well so far. I am at the least pretty established for my age I think. I always told myself that I would never even entertain the idea of marriage until I was at least 25 I never even thought about it in past relationships that have lasted over a year.

All of a sudden I am dating this wonderful girl. I can't stop thinking about. My whole persona of being busy and keeping myself busy with work and my business and doing things around the house and a social life. All of it has changed because of this wonderful person. Now instead of wanting to keep myself busy I find myself wanting to see her or even better include her in things I like to do. The greatest thing is she loves to spend time with me doing things that I like to do well because she has the same simular interest.

A little background on her she is 22 fresh out of school and just started her full time job. Still lives with her parents and has been engaged before. The engagement before she says she felt pressured to say yes because it was on stage at a concert in front of thousands of people. She called it all off about 9 months ago.

We started dating and everything is great. The fact that i can honestly say I am in love with her which is unusaul for me because I am not one that is quick to say I Love you to anyone. My business is in the Wedding industry and we were at a bridal show recently. Well just the other day we talked about how comfortable we felt together and so fast and how it is so unusal because it isn't like either of us. We started talking about us and our future but made it clear that you know this wouldn't happen tomorrow, next week or next month for that matter. But I can't stop thinking about it and niether can she. so I figured that ok if things are the same or even better in a few more months would it be to early to actually pop the question?

Sorry for the novel.

 

You guys need to date a little longer. I would say at least a year. You guys are way to young to know what you want. She's obviously rushed into it too fast. What's not to say that you won't and that she won't again.

 

Yes, date longer. Get to know all the quirks of each other first. My wife and I were married at 22 also, and the 1st year was pretty rough working out the kinks. Now going on year 4 and all is good. I wish you luck in your decision making, but do not rush marriage.

 

Even if I did decide it would be a year/ year and a half before the actual getting married would take place.

 

What do you hope/expect to get out of marriage that you don't have now?

 

Why do you feel you need to get married now?

 

exactly. we got engaged after 2 years of dating, but we didnt get married until shortly before our 6th year together.

 

Sharing my life with someone that I don't like to be apart from.

One of the greatest things is waking up next to her and later building a family.

 

I still don't understand the point of engagement.

 

Best question ever. Unless you're going off to war, theres no other reason to marry without dating at least 2 years....even with a kid mishap.

 

I forgot to mention this but we have been friends for the last 7 years since high school.

 

amen, brother

 

just elope

 

It can be tempting to entertain thoughts of settling down once you think that the person you are with now is "The One". But you have to consider that your relationship is still new. There is no need to rush into marriage especially since you are both still young.

Just enjoy the ride for now. Let the relationship grow and see what it brings as each one of you matures as individuals.

 

Try relaxing into the normalcy of a life with her playing a major role in it - spending time together, traveling together, etc. Weather some tough times, the "first spat", all that stuff. If your friendship/romance continues to thrive as you know her longer, then it's time. I note I have some concern about a young woman who moves from her parents's home to a marital home; she might do well to explore independent living - renting an apartment, handling living by herself, figuring out to do when she's by herself and you're not available, how to shop for one, all that stuff...... useful for her to know who she is "solo" before you and she commit to a lifetime. You've carved out an independent live fairly quickly; she may need time to understand who she is as an adult before settling down.....

Some questions:

What do you gain by "pushing" the relationship fast?

What are your expectations for marriage (and what are hers?)

This young woman may well be the 'right one" and if so, that's great. However, if she is, no material damage will occur if the two of you take time, real time, to unfold your lives more completely before that committment. If she isn't the right one, the relationship will change, die or morph into a frienship of its own momentum and - having not been married - there will be the freedom for those changes to occur.

 

Stick with your original plan of 25 or older...

I always hear people say "I wish I would have waited to get married", but I've never heard anyone say "I wish I would have gotten married sooner".

I'm thinking about getting engaged now that I'm 25 and I've been with a very wonderful woman for 3+ years...I think it's finally time for me...

 

It's an excuse for a girl to collect on a huge rock.

 

date for at least 2 years. Then get back to us.

 

pics first, then decision.

 

I used to agree with all of you. Now im just not sure. I work with people that have been in simular situations and they are happy. Then again I have friends who say (i wish I would have waited) (mostly females)

It was just a topic that has been discussed frequently lately. Granted I know I will wait just wanted to hear some opinions so thanks.

 

Excellent point. You have the rest of your life to be married and live together. let her experience independence, and enjoy your own.

 

does she let you ? cause that will factor in the decision making.

 

 

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linky no worky.

 

there you go...we need a larger pic.

 

Dude the girl prior to the new nympho i have been dating, and i were thinking of getting married around the 7 month mark, thank god we didnt, we dated for 2 and half years and it was horriable. Dont jump into anything yet. I was in the same situation your in now, im 21 and i am very well accomplished and have an awesome career, but think about this, your still young and your paid, have fuckin fun dont get married. I Thank god i didnt caues i ahve a hot ass girl now who is a crazy nymph, if i got married i would have had a hothigh maintance bitch for a wife. wait till you guys are together for a few years

 

I re-did the way you linked the image.

 

 

Great advice. I couldn't say it any better.

 

good thing you did, considering it wasn't done on post #25.

 

 

Full body pic, no sunnys

 

she looks like a nice, wholesome girl. is she a freak in the sack?

 

you know you liked it hahaha

 

hmmm...maybe you should wait til she's old enough to drive.

 

i think 6 months is too early to live together, even if you both really really want to...

living together too early is the kiss of death

 

nah, just have a baby first.

 

by the page change

 

if your only 22 now...when the hell did you get engaged? 16?

 

Why are you talking about getting married? Are you a procrastinator?
You should have ten kids, two minivans, and be pillars of the church community by now!