Opinion on Thoughts of Engagement
The Creator
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Most are saying wait 2 years, I would say wait 3. I've never before been in a relationship that lasted more then 3 years, and few went beyond 2 with any substance.
If she's so great, why would she have a problem waiting that long?
If she felt pressured to say yes before, how do you know she wouldn't feel that way when asked by you? You could be setting yourself up for some major drama.
Your target age of 25 sounds spot-on for when you SHOULD consider popping the question to this one.
It sounds to me like you're rushing the idea because she's been engaged once before. Like you need to one-up the last guy or something. I hope that's not the case because that's gotta be the worst reason ever to get engaged.
Wait, at least a year, preferably 2, ideally 3.
If she's so great, why would she have a problem waiting that long?
If she felt pressured to say yes before, how do you know she wouldn't feel that way when asked by you? You could be setting yourself up for some major drama.
Your target age of 25 sounds spot-on for when you SHOULD consider popping the question to this one.
It sounds to me like you're rushing the idea because she's been engaged once before. Like you need to one-up the last guy or something. I hope that's not the case because that's gotta be the worst reason ever to get engaged.
Wait, at least a year, preferably 2, ideally 3.
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Originally Posted by peewee5384
My girlfriend and I have only been together for a short period of time. 6 months to be exact.
Here is the thing I am 22 and have had my goals set and work hard to accomplish them. I work full time and bought my house when I was 19 I just bought a new car and started a business that is going well so far. I am at the least pretty established for my age I think. I always told myself that I would never even entertain the idea of marriage until I was at least 25 I never even thought about it in past relationships that have lasted over a year.
All of a sudden I am dating this wonderful girl. I can't stop thinking about. My whole persona of being busy and keeping myself busy with work and my business and doing things around the house and a social life. All of it has changed because of this wonderful person. Now instead of wanting to keep myself busy I find myself wanting to see her or even better include her in things I like to do. The greatest thing is she loves to spend time with me doing things that I like to do well because she has the same simular interest.
A little background on her she is 22 fresh out of school and just started her full time job. Still lives with her parents and has been engaged before. The engagement before she says she felt pressured to say yes because it was on stage at a concert in front of thousands of people. She called it all off about 9 months ago.
We started dating and everything is great. The fact that i can honestly say I am in love with her which is unusaul for me because I am not one that is quick to say I Love you to anyone. My business is in the Wedding industry and we were at a bridal show recently. Well just the other day we talked about how comfortable we felt together and so fast and how it is so unusal because it isn't like either of us. We started talking about us and our future but made it clear that you know this wouldn't happen tomorrow, next week or next month for that matter. But I can't stop thinking about it and niether can she. so I figured that ok if things are the same or even better in a few more months would it be to early to actually pop the question?
Sorry for the novel.
Here is the thing I am 22 and have had my goals set and work hard to accomplish them. I work full time and bought my house when I was 19 I just bought a new car and started a business that is going well so far. I am at the least pretty established for my age I think. I always told myself that I would never even entertain the idea of marriage until I was at least 25 I never even thought about it in past relationships that have lasted over a year.
All of a sudden I am dating this wonderful girl. I can't stop thinking about. My whole persona of being busy and keeping myself busy with work and my business and doing things around the house and a social life. All of it has changed because of this wonderful person. Now instead of wanting to keep myself busy I find myself wanting to see her or even better include her in things I like to do. The greatest thing is she loves to spend time with me doing things that I like to do well because she has the same simular interest.
A little background on her she is 22 fresh out of school and just started her full time job. Still lives with her parents and has been engaged before. The engagement before she says she felt pressured to say yes because it was on stage at a concert in front of thousands of people. She called it all off about 9 months ago.
We started dating and everything is great. The fact that i can honestly say I am in love with her which is unusaul for me because I am not one that is quick to say I Love you to anyone. My business is in the Wedding industry and we were at a bridal show recently. Well just the other day we talked about how comfortable we felt together and so fast and how it is so unusal because it isn't like either of us. We started talking about us and our future but made it clear that you know this wouldn't happen tomorrow, next week or next month for that matter. But I can't stop thinking about it and niether can she. so I figured that ok if things are the same or even better in a few more months would it be to early to actually pop the question?
Sorry for the novel.
Yes way to early to pop the question in my opinion you have only known her for 6 months.
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I agree with what most people said in this thread.
Are you worried if you dont then she might leave you? No need to make a girl "stuck" in order to keep her around....
I see no reason to rush marriage at 22 even if you were a millionaire.
Are you worried if you dont then she might leave you? No need to make a girl "stuck" in order to keep her around....
I see no reason to rush marriage at 22 even if you were a millionaire.
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Originally Posted by peewee5384
Even if I did decide it would be a year/ year and a half before the actual getting married would take place.
Three Wheelin'
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I say wait a few years. Let her establish herself in her career first and begin making decisions on her own like getting her own place, etc. If everything is still great after that then go forward with marriage.
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I understand you are from Texas, you are too young to throw your life away. Do you honestly think you could continually stick your dick into the same hole for the rest of your soon to be over life?
Arriving Somewhere...
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Originally Posted by doopstr
Believe me, once the ball and chain is applied your freedoms change.
For me, the thing that really DID change life was having kids. That really cut down on our freedom, but we still manage to work it out. For example, last night was a "good night together" (power failure, candles, one thing leads to another...). Tonight? I'm going to watch the boxing PPV at a friend's house.
The Creator
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Originally Posted by CrockPot
didn't your girl move in to your place?
granted, i bought the house just about a year ago... so we were prepared to move in together after about 2.5 yrs.
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Originally Posted by peewee5384
My girlfriend and I have only been together for a short period of time. 6 months to be exact.
Here is the thing I am 22 and have had my goals set and work hard to accomplish them. I work full time and bought my house when I was 19 I just bought a new car and started a business that is going well so far. I am at the least pretty established for my age I think. I always told myself that I would never even entertain the idea of marriage until I was at least 25 I never even thought about it in past relationships that have lasted over a year.
All of a sudden I am dating this wonderful girl. I can't stop thinking about. My whole persona of being busy and keeping myself busy with work and my business and doing things around the house and a social life. All of it has changed because of this wonderful person. Now instead of wanting to keep myself busy I find myself wanting to see her or even better include her in things I like to do. The greatest thing is she loves to spend time with me doing things that I like to do well because she has the same simular interest.
A little background on her she is 22 fresh out of school and just started her full time job. Still lives with her parents and has been engaged before. The engagement before she says she felt pressured to say yes because it was on stage at a concert in front of thousands of people. She called it all off about 9 months ago.
We started dating and everything is great. The fact that i can honestly say I am in love with her which is unusaul for me because I am not one that is quick to say I Love you to anyone. My business is in the Wedding industry and we were at a bridal show recently. Well just the other day we talked about how comfortable we felt together and so fast and how it is so unusal because it isn't like either of us. We started talking about us and our future but made it clear that you know this wouldn't happen tomorrow, next week or next month for that matter. But I can't stop thinking about it and niether can she. so I figured that ok if things are the same or even better in a few more months would it be to early to actually pop the question?
Sorry for the novel.
Here is the thing I am 22 and have had my goals set and work hard to accomplish them. I work full time and bought my house when I was 19 I just bought a new car and started a business that is going well so far. I am at the least pretty established for my age I think. I always told myself that I would never even entertain the idea of marriage until I was at least 25 I never even thought about it in past relationships that have lasted over a year.
All of a sudden I am dating this wonderful girl. I can't stop thinking about. My whole persona of being busy and keeping myself busy with work and my business and doing things around the house and a social life. All of it has changed because of this wonderful person. Now instead of wanting to keep myself busy I find myself wanting to see her or even better include her in things I like to do. The greatest thing is she loves to spend time with me doing things that I like to do well because she has the same simular interest.
A little background on her she is 22 fresh out of school and just started her full time job. Still lives with her parents and has been engaged before. The engagement before she says she felt pressured to say yes because it was on stage at a concert in front of thousands of people. She called it all off about 9 months ago.
We started dating and everything is great. The fact that i can honestly say I am in love with her which is unusaul for me because I am not one that is quick to say I Love you to anyone. My business is in the Wedding industry and we were at a bridal show recently. Well just the other day we talked about how comfortable we felt together and so fast and how it is so unusal because it isn't like either of us. We started talking about us and our future but made it clear that you know this wouldn't happen tomorrow, next week or next month for that matter. But I can't stop thinking about it and niether can she. so I figured that ok if things are the same or even better in a few more months would it be to early to actually pop the question?
Sorry for the novel.
?Secindly, I think at least 4 seasons (1 year) is a MINIMUM before you think about considering (yes I meant to say it that way) marraige. I'v enot heard a single thing in this post about her family, your family, etc. Those are important considerations too. You have lots going for yourself...when the time comes, discuss the prenup for the sake of all you've acquired so far...seriously.
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