Remember one of the post we talked about how hot those drug reps are? Also remember I mentioned that one drug rep that I know is uber cute with the naughty libraian look? Well guess what? She came by today and said she wants to have lunch with us (and she said our pharmacy is one of her favourites)! All my coworkers know how I think of her and they will not show up for the lunch. The only problem is that she has a ring on her wedding finger...BUT...there's no diamond or any other gem-like material on the ring. Does that mean she is well taken care of and I can crawl back to my cave?

Please no flaming since I have a weak heart

PS: Of course I will show her a good time in my TSX (assuming she is interested).

 

Lots of people have wedding rings with no gemstones. You know, you could go for lunch with her and just ask her if she's married. If she is then that's that. And if she's not, she'll definitely know you're interested in her. Either way, you'll get a free lunch with a naughty librarian - and I'm not seeing a downside to that.

 

Well. the whippings might hurt....

 

It it's a plain band, I would pretty much assume that to be a wedding ring, since a lot of people go with a plain, yet durable ring for their wedding rings and splurge on the engagement ring.

But like the major said, couldn't hurt to go to lunch.

 

it might just be a wedding band like ppl have mentioned

doesnt hurt to get a free lunch...the drug reps usually pay

 

You can casually bring up a question...like watch a couple walk by holding hands or something, and ponder out loud "Do all married people do that?" If she answers "yeah, I do it with my husband all the time" you got your answer.

 

Nope - won't work. Pretty drug reps do not talk about their husbands.

Kanon, just ask. There's no way your lunch isn't free anyway -so go somewhere nice

 

Lots of people have plain wedding bands, and a number of people don't use an engagement ring as an engagement gift. Got to lunch, casually ask her, as conversation unfolds, what her husband does and how a two-career household works for her. That will flush out the marriage ...

Three other possibilities - it's a "friendship ring", which some people use to indicate that a relationship is serious. If she's in that level of a friendship, then she's probably looking for business, not pleasure

She wears a ring because she looks like a naughty librarian, and the wedding band keeps folks at bay - it's a fake, and she uses it to cull the herd. That used to be a sstandard for some women in business, it made them "safe", and kept business to business. However, if they met someone they liked..... they could call the ruse.

She wears a ring because she inherited it.

My wife and I have very narrow unadorned bands; I gave her a perfectly matched strand of pearls as an engagement gift, and she gave me a watch.

The other thing to understand is the difference between a fantasy and reality - you can still go to lunch and enjoy her company, fantasy included, even if your respect for her (probable) marriage makes pushing for more unlikely and unseemly.

 

Well jcg the problem is that I found out my company has strict policy on "receiving gifts" so I think I may wanna just pay for my own.

So just ask? Damn I don't want our future "professional relationship" goes sour...I guess if she thinks I am a creep she won't visit our store anymore...

 

You might offend her if you straight up ask, but if you phrase it right, you can get away with a more forward ask. Something along the lines of...I see you have a ring; are you married?

Any of the other more subtle suggestions might work as well. Either way, no point in jeopardizing a professional relationship that might be good for your company.

 

She's a sales rep, right? And your company is her customer? There is precious little that you could do that would cause a sales rep to want to stop selling and earning comission. If there is money to be made, she'll be back even if she thinks you're a creep. She might call ahead to see if it's your day off though...

Yes, just ask. Do it politely and be cool whatever the answer is. Also, it wouldn't hurt to bring an umbrella.

majormojo, who works with a lot of librarians, none of them naughty.

 

I dunno, I used to work with this girl that I was really attracted to a long time ago that was married and we became friends. Even though we were friends, It just pains you to know that you cant have it. Whats even more strange is that she always seemed to enjoyed the attention I gave her, which seemed to lead me on even more.

Bottom line, I dont think its healthy to start up a friendship with a married woman your attracted to.

Edit: Well of course in hindsight it wasnt strange for her to enjoy the attention if she wasnt getting that much at home. Of course, I didnt realize that at the time, being 21 and all.

 

Thanks everyone for your input...now I just have to think of some good topic to see if she is married or not (since we are meeting for lunch after the new year I guess I can ask her about what she did over the holidays and stuff like that...)

 

Forbidden fruit is always the sweetest.

 

She ain't gonna let you pay, trust me. And you should feel no guilt about going somewhere nice - you know how much these companies spend on marketing...

Come to think of it, I didn't think reps snuggled up to retain pharmacists too much.. maybe she's not married and is flirting What does she sell, anyway??


jcg, who eats the money of many a pharm company

 

Well she is from Abbott and she sells Biaxin (clarithromycin), and she really pushes the Biaxin XL because I think the patent of Biaxin in Canada ends pretty soon...and for those who doesn't know what Biaxin is, it's a macrolide antiboitic smiliar to erythromycin.

and jcg you are right...why she snuggle up to retail pharmacists when she can go to those Dr's office and pursuade them to prescribe more of those? Also she did mention that our pharmacy is her favourite...my coworker told me that sometime single people put ring on their wedding fingers to keep those creeps away...

 

OK now stupid question of the day:

Is it left hand or the right hand? (The girl has the ring on the right hand)

 

Left. Sounds like she may not be married after all.

 

Ah yes, erythromycin, your standard, garden-variety macrolide antibiotic. Of course.

 

Wait...I thought left hand for guys and right hand for girls?

So...I may have a chance?

 

I work in a hospital too. My experience is that the female drug reps tend to use their feminity to sell their products, and tend to be overly flirty with single males. Im not trying to shoot you down, here, but she may be using her charms to get you to buy her drugs.

That being said, I would agree with the previous posters and would try to get more information about her marital status.

 

it actually is the standard, garden-variety macrolide

 

Don't forget the new standard of "ketolide" Ketek (telithromycin) hahahahaha j/k

Well I agree with those female reps seduct single male pharmacists into buying her drugs, but the funny thing is that we only sell what the Dr prescribed so we don't really have the luxury of buying whatever they sell (and tell you the truth she is one of the few reps that comes to our pharmacy to explain their products)...but yes I will still try to crack down her marital stauts...

 

Let's not scare everyone else away with conversation about antibiotics....








... though I will say that Ketek is no "new standard", but maybe it will take pressure off of the fluoroquinolones



Ok, back to talk about hot drug reps... Ring on right hand only?? She's not married dude!


edit: ok last antibiotic comment... Kanon - order some of these for your patients... maybe you can help the cause

 

That is so true! I think Dr's nowadays are more vigilant of prescribing antibiotics...

and thanks for the clarification guys! At least I know I am not going in for the "forbitten fruit." I will keep you guys updated of the results of the meet

 

Go to lunch. Act respectable. Ask her if she is married. If she says "yes", flat out tell her that your heart is broken. If you are not creeping her out, she should accept this as a great compliment. ..Be gracious. Be charming. Look her in the eyes. ..Don't even hint that you'd be at all interested in a married woman but let her know (without noting her body) that she is the type of woman you like.
If you behave yourself, she might just set you up with one of her cute friends.

In my experience, married woman make excellent friends. If they consider you dateable, they will help you get other women. They will talk you up to other women, arrange "coincidental" meetings if not dates, gather intelligence and post-date feedback, debrief you after the date, provide insight into the female mind, and even shop for and /or pick out your clothes. In short, her being married may work out very well for you.

Good Luck

 

Wow...This is one of the view I have never thought about..."good thing comes to those who wait" huh?