this is a weird situation, details are kinda important, so just bear with me!

alrighty, so this weekend, i drove up to kentucky with my best friend and her boyfriend to see his best friend who's in the army. he had basically requested that they invite me up so he could see me. we met in high school, had a drunken fling, he was graduating and enlisting, so i never talked to him after that summer... until 2 years later he is in town this summer and comes over to a party i'm having at my parent's house. needless to say, we had another drunken hookup, this time it involved sex (not sure if that matters or not though.. lol). anyway, my feelings for him got rekindled. he was back in town for 4th of july again too, and he came over, yada yada yada, (no alcohol this time). my feelings for him just died after that night, i was just not feelin it, and i was just like... ugh, i liked him?? i don't think he really enjoyed it much either, so it was no heartbreak. i hadn't thought of him really since that weekend, and then last week my best friend is like... "we're going to kentucky, he wants you to come.. blah blah. he's looking for something more serious now... etc. "

then i get there, and he stays with me in my hotel room, and he starts talking and really getting kinda deep (but only for a few minutes, lol). he actually said "do you remember the first time we hooked up? i was so wasted and passed out, and you were so drunk too... " and then he asks me "so what are you doing after you graduate?" not really everyday questions...

another thing that caught my attention too is that we had a bottle of lotion in bed with us, so to speak, (it was a joking gift from his best friend teasing him for when he's "lonely" in the barracks) i teased him about using it in iraq, and he said "i wouldn't have needed this if you had been over there with me", but he said it in a serious tone.

ok, so what does all this shit mean?!???

i really don't get what the hell he's trying to say. if he really does have feelings or whatever for me, how come he never calls? i called him drunk last night, no answer, but he never called back, and i'm SURE he has caller ID. stuff like that just is so confusing...

someone help decipher my situation... lol.

 

He wants to hit it...He's just laying game.

 

I agree. He basically wants some poon.

-When you mutually "didnt' feel it anymore" and the situation kinda dropped out of view, I would assume that he thought he could probably get some from somewhere else. Soon as you get mentioned and come back into the picture, he feels like he needs to go after you. Even if it's not just for physical purposes, he feels that you are in a sense, at risk of using really shitty words, easier to deal with.

-That reply after your lotion line was .

-I think you deserve better

 

IMHO He's in the service, away from home, horny and you're hot, so he wants to hook up. Be careful, his emotions may run away with him and he could get serious,even tho he really isn't (was in the service, did the same shit, at the time it seemed like love.....)

 

 

He just wants to hit it, he probably didn't answer because you didn't give it up to him that night in the hotel room.

I am going through something like this right now. Hooked up with a girl in past, nothing really came from it, but I remembered it being fun and the girl being hot. So a couple years down the line now that I am not in a relationship I happened to run into the girl again. I figured that since we already hooked up in the past she probably won't try to pull the whole lets take it slow thing because we've already been past that.

Of course women are women and so she is still trying to pull the take it slow shit, even though we were humping like bunnies, and she was giving me BJ's with whip cream the last time we saw each other. Now we are supposed to take slow? WTF?

 

 

you said your feelings for him just sort of died, so does it really matter now what his intentions are? unless you are giving it another try.

 

but i DID give it up to him in the hotel room... lol.

well, my feelings for him returned, contrary to what i expected. i thought i was just going to go up and have a good time w/ friends, but then all that happened.

ehh... who knows.

 

Ahh I see.

That makes it even more clear now. Well one of two things is happening.

1. He just wanted to hit it again (and maybe keep hitting it) and nothing more
If all of your interactions from here on out seem to be predicated on sex, then that is probably whats happenning.

2. His feelings have also returned and he wants to explore something more serious.

Next time you call him leave him a message, instead of just hoping he'll return your call based on your number showing up on his caller ID. You yourself said you drunk called him, next time sober call and see what he's talking about.

 

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Awww since you did give it up then there was no need to return your call because
1. He already hit it and he will not be seeing you for awhile. therefore there is no need to sweet talk you.
2. You called late and I'm sure he was already a sleep. Then the next day he just forgot about returning your call.

 

i see, well i would see how things are between you two when you aren't either drunk or banging. might be bad timing for the two of you. and speaking of the hotel, did that lotion ever make its way into the game?

 

lol, yes it did. that's how it came into conversation.

try it! it's like a slip 'n slide!

 

he was just tryin to get ass. and he won his little game. sorry but its true. he asked for you to come up there because he knew every time you 2 are alnoe he gets some kinda play, and after coming back from war who blames him. if i had a female like that i would do the same thing.

 

i hope you're wrong, but i have a feeling you aren't.

the only thing is, can't he get puss anywhere else? why me?! geeez.

oh well, i left him a real message tonight, if he calls, awesome. if he doesn't, see ya... i'm off to get a real man if he doesn't live up.

 

It seems like most of your "hanging out" is actually knocking it out. You said your interest in him had vanished, but then suddenly when you found out that he was interested again, you became interested also. Do you think it's possible that your "feelings" were just an answer to him showing interest? Attention is flattering, and plus if you're thinking of all that late-night hotel room action your feelings are probably just some high-intensity lust.

If he calls you back try just hanging out with him for awhile....I mean...if that's what you WANT. Hell...sounds like you have a pretty good arrangement going if all you need is to get your itch scratched. But if you're looking for something more serious, then see what's it's like with your clothes on :wink: If you don't click, then you'll know it's time to bail.

 

no, because my interest didn't spark until i actually saw him again. my original intentions for the trip were to keep my best friend company so she wouldn't have to be the only girl. after spending time with him over the weekend, i actually began to like him again. our "relationship" didn't seem as sex-based after that.

 

good luck supper but i wouldnt plan on this lasting it seems like a fling to me.