Begin Rant:
I'm a really nice person and I go out of my way all the time to do things for other people even if it's just to make them smile.
I have a lot of great attributes and have no problem attracting women. The one I'm dating now ( i think) is beautiful, but she takes me for granted.
This shit always happens. ALWAYS!! You would think by now I would realize that you have to be an asshole to keep women interested, but for some reason I thought this one was different. THEY'RE ALL THE SAME. MAKE NO MISTAKE.
I'm now Stefan The Asshole. Fuck Everyone.

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I'm the ultimate nice guy in any relationship I am in... and I don't have a problem keeping girls interested.

Not knocking you or anything, just saying that being an asshole isn't the necessarily the best solution.

 

being an asshole when ur single is the key

being an asshole when u are together is not the key

from my experience.

 

you don't have to ever be an asshole. just don't be a sniveling kiss ass...

 

Most guys take the nice guy thing too far and become lame, boring pushovers.

 

i'm really confused right now. my girl has the habit of ignoring me and not calling when something's wrong and it drives me crazy, but i'm not calling. she's gonna have to figure it out, but i'm pretty fed up now and will probably just let her go.
she does have a lot going on and a VERY busy schedlue so i've been very patient and understanding, but it just gets worse and i need someone who at least calls and does a better job of communicating.
i just hate rejection

thanks

 

Damn, Stef.

Sorry shit ain't goin' the way you want right now. Hit me up if you need anything, bro.

 

booty call, shoulder to cry on?

 

LOL

 

1) This is a sure-fire sign she isn't a keeper. You'll want to get rid of her eventually.

2) The best thing to do when she pulls that shit is to ignore her, even when she starts trying to contact you again. Don't return her calls, or answer the phone, etc. After a week or two of that, call her up and you'll have her wrapped around your finger. Get all the hate sex (deepthroat, IDB, ass-to-mouth, etc.) you want out of her then dump her ass on the curb.

 

:gheywave:

 

abreece... remind me never to come to pinckney... ha ha.... ass to mouth???

thats sick.... yuck...

anyway... yet give her some space she will come around... women are busy... they arent waiting for guys anymore... if you cant handle being without her then either drop her ass or tell her you need more together time...

be strong about it... dont be a "girl" be a guy... tell her what you want out of the relationship and if she says you are making demands etc ... then say goodbye and let her ass fly.

 

thanks homie

 

both Abreece and Kumar excellent advice.
think i'll let her hang for a bit, but damn this shit is hard. i'm too fucking emotional.

thanks

 

big time

u have to be a nice asshole

 

oh and dogg.. there is too many girls out there... dont get stuck w/ one that doesnt make u happy

 

Ditch the loser and move on to someone who can appreciate what you bring to the table. No sense turning into an all out asshole over an undeserving bitch.

 

be nice to an extent.....not everyone (including her) will notice the nice things you do ALL the TIME.. some chics like the little things, some expect more....

Some chics actually compare you to how they were previously treated by their EX.

how long have you dated this girl?

 

Bravo, Beetroot! You are awesome! I wish more guys are like you!

 

it's such a weird and f'd up relationship. she and i have known each other in passing for a year or two. i work for the city and EVERY male employee knows who she is. beautiful, smart (notre dame law), and funny...
we just started dating in may and it was awesome. totally awesome for about 3 1/2 months, but i suspect we moved too fast. REAL FAST and we were both at fault.. but for me i just got caught up and kinda' dropped my game and just opened myself up i think. at that point i didn't think i needed any "game" b/c things were so awesome and i just wanted to be myself....and then she "had a nervous breakdown as she calls it and didn't call for about 4-5 days. this was august.
we decided to slow down and i was okay with that but in hind sight i prolly should have rolled then. she just got out of a relationship where she was engaged only a month or two before we got together so i guess i'm captain rebound..
at this point i think i just want to be done ) :

 

i'm re-thinking my "strategy". she won't call. i don't want to call her, so i think i might just send an email saying it's time for me to jet. no drama or anything i just need to end this shit. it sucks that she works in the building next to me and i'm bound to run into her this week at lunch or something. FUCK!
i don't want to sound cocky but women are always checking me out but why i get stuck on the ones that are all fucked up i have no idea

 

Now that you have given us her history, it's obvious that she is not completely over what happened (she may be over th guy, but not over the trauma). Of course she likes you but she doesn't want to take the risk of being vulnerable and possibly get hurt again.

 

they were in a bad situation for a long time before the breakup but....
DAMN. you are one very insightful person. that is EXACTLY what she told me like two weeks ago when his dumb ass was still harassing her about shit. he's still not over it and is making petty isues over nothing to stay in contact but now he's being mean and somewhat harassing her a little. i do believe her and ur right that she's over him but not the relationship. i just don't know what to do. i really care about her and i can just hang and be supportive but only for so long.... i think it's past fixing though. just gonna chill i guess

thanks everyone for good advice and i feel a little better just becasue of ( :

 

If you really care about her and you want this relationship to work, just be patient. It's not easy for wounds to heal. Show her how consistent you are so just remain understanding about it. Make her feel that you'll treat her way better than her ex (and that you are not her ex). Hopefully one day, she'll see you for who you are. Good luck!

 

Being an asshole will get you nowhere with women. I know one clown who used to give the most ridiculous advice about women, advice he picked up from the streets. He used to say things like, treat your women like shit and she'll love you more, keep your bitches in check. This idiot went and called his ex-girl a nigger lover because she went out with a black guy before she met him. I warned him to stop calling her names and treating her like shit and he said, na, I got her in check. Do you wonder why she's his ex-girlfriend?

 

^^^ ^^^

 

Don't even email her. Just cut off all contact. Dont' even acknowledge her presence at work.

Here's a hint: 99.999% of all women are fucked in the head.

 

Hey, just a suggestion.

 

[Darth Pimp]And another one comes to darkside, welcome my son [/Darth Pimp]

Like others have said, don't be mean, just be a man just kiss her ass. Guys mix up being a strong man who doesn't roll over for women with being an asshole, it's not the same thing. Trust me.

 

Well-said, Waddy! There is indeed a difference between being an asshole/bitch and playing your cards right. Dating is like poker, I guess.

 

i knew this was going to happen eventually. i still haven't heard from her, but today i ran into her. it was pretty akward. she must be going to lunch at 1 now to avoid me i guess but i was leaving for the day around 1:25 and damn i turn the corner and there she is with a friend. we both smiled (me not too much think) and i said hey and kept walking when we were right next to each other she looked again as if to stop to talk but i looked but kept walking. this sucks and i don't think it's 1. going to work and 2. her way of ending it has been just THIS. IGNORING IT!!
i deserve better