Ok heres the situation. I'm 20 and I am in a relationship that has lasted a year. we have one serious problem that has pretty much torn the relationship apart. The problem is that Im not much of a talker. i can never think of any topics to talk about with her. I honnestly cant figure out why. We are different people with different interests but that doesnt mean there shouldnt be anything to talk about. on top of everything its a long distance relationship. we are both college students, shes a premed and im a business major. Can anyone shed some light on wht i can do. this issue has taken the heat and passion out of the relationship. and shes has pretty much given up. Im pretty determined to do what it takes to make this work. I just need to be guided in the right direction on what i should do. what can i do to come up with interesting topics?


Thanks in advance any advice is appreciated

 

Do you have trouble talking to other girls? You shouldn't have to work that hard. If you are dating someone more compatible, you'll probably have no trouble thinking of things to talk about. On top of that, long distance relationships rarely work when you're both in college. I know it's not what you want to hear, but college years fly by... don't give up your freedom for a relationship that isn't right.

 

If it's long distance, and she's already given up, it sounds like it's over already. Time to move on.

If you guys can't talk about anything, what else is there? What about her is worth trying to save?

 

I understand that you are not a talker, but if you can find a way to type this out to us, then you can try to communicate with your gf. Have you told her that you think your lack of verbal communication is causing a rift? Maybe that's not the issue.

You should have a ton of stuff to talk about. You both are taking different classes. Talk about that. I'm sure you have different friends. Talk about them and what they did. You go to different schools, talk about your day.


To be honest with you though, if you don't start talking soon, maybe you should accept that this relationship is dead in the water. Sorry to be blunt, but if you ain't around to fill the physical void, and you cannot talk to her, then what's the point of her sticking with you?

 

If you're in a long distance relationship and you can't find something to talk about, then you really have no relationship. Long distance relationships are all about the conversation and learning about each other. It sounds to me like you're not quite cut out to do the long distance relationship and that since things are already where they are, you should end it for the sake of both of you and just move on.

 

no offense, but if you're in a long distance and the convo's aren't going well, she's probably looking for someone new closer to her, or already found someone.

that's not what you want to hear, but it's happened to me before.

if you can't talk to this girl, and can't see her because of the distance, why are you holding on?

move on and enjoy being single in college

 

This is why long distance relationships, especially ones that start off that way, dont work.

 

move along before you find out she already has someone at her college. Pain ahead, how much is up to you.

 

Especially when you are 20.

 

I believe that's what they call "Chemistry." Why would you want to save a relationship where you have nothing in common and no chemistry?

 

Most girls are not good for talking anyway. Unless like like porn cars or sports, there isn't much we have in common with them. Granted every now and then you find one and she becomes a friend. then you sleep with her and now she wants more. What a shitty world we live in.

I bet if you were banging 2 other girls you wouldn't give this hole the time of day.

 

i know everyone is telling you to move on and leave it alone... but the truth is... long distance relationships can work if both parties are willing to make it work.... you said your communication is going downhill....well what did you guys talk about when you were together? talk about the first time you guys met, the way you felt when you first said hi to her... shit like that... that conversation can go on for quite a while if you let it. remember.. keep asking questions... girls love to hear themselves talk (and then they think your a good listener so you win either way!)