Ok...i can't believe im about to ask this but I am....

Soo my GF and I barily have sex. (we live apart and our living situations dont allow us to be "physical" much.)

Anyway, when we do have sex, its nothing to brag about. There always seems to be problems. Either its been awhile and "he" just dosnt bring his "A game"...lol...(sometimes he will get tired...lol..give me break, it happens) or she just cant climax, or ...i donno theres just tons of stuff.

Well my GF isnt one for wild kinky stuff. Shes not into the toys or anythin like that. I just wish her and I could for once, experience a perfect night with good perfect sex w/o any issues or problems. Well, hopefully soon we will get to be together for a few nights alone and im really wanting to make things special and great. I want her to wake up the next morning craving more, not one of us appoligizing for whatever disapointment the night before.

Can anyone kinda help me out...i donno, give me tips or tricks or anything to spice up the "physicl relationship" between my GF and I. Any info would help...positions, things to try,...etc.

Girls- what do you like? fav. positions? what just makes you say "wow that was amazing..i want more!" ???

Im just afarid that since our physical relationship hasnt been soo great, shes not looking forward to having sex because the times before, it hasnt been something incredible...I just need you all's advice on what i can do or try so she remembers how great it was and wants more...

can anyone help me out!? please?
Thanks!

 

OK. What you need to do it start with a very long massage with oil...........
work from there.

 

First things first, always remember that sex is more than just in-out-in-out-cum.

The actual act of sex should be icing on the cake to some pretty damn satisfying foreplay. Try stripping her down slowly and focus on that body part for a while before you remove the next piece of clothing. ie: kiss her chest and tits for a lil bit before you remove her pants. Then do the same after removing her pants.

Before you penetrate, swab your cock around but not in her pussy. Use your fingers to stimulate her until shes nice and wet. When you penetrate, after a short while, switch positions to something new if you see her stimulation plateau.

It will become memorable if you treat the sex as much larger event than just penetration. In addition, the teasing and stimulating each body part as if you are climbing to the top of pussy mountain and pussy is at the top is a sure fire way to turn her on.

my but different folks require different strokes, so its hard to give halo advice.

 

^---werd to what he said...he knows what he's talking about. Sex is definitely something you have to take with patience and care. By the way, foreplay is KEY!!

 

Gotta preheat the oven before you stick in the turkey

 

Also, remember that just because she doesn't climax, doesn't mean she isn't enjoying when is happening. She definately seems to need foreplay to get turned on. Do your best to make her feel comfortable, don't add pressure to her and make her think she needs to climax, she'll be more comfortable and things will be easier for her and most likely more enjoyable.

Each person is different and if you have time, spend a few hours trying to get to know what makes her feel good. This is where communication is key, if you're open in the relationship this portion of it should be easy as well.

 

have a few drinks, sprinkle some coc on the tip of your dick and you're good to go.

 

Please let me know when you find out.

 

 

it is?!

 

Hey guys, thanks for the info & help. I know that sex is something special to share. I wasnt meaning for it to sound like sex was all just "in & out till u cum" shit. My GF and I have spent some very special moments together and we know how much it means to us. Our issues are just...well i guess the experience aspect. Neither of us have been with anyone else (we were actually eachother first) Sooo all we know is what we've had. (which i like better and i think it actually is more meaningful to us) Soo besides the massages and oil, foreplay, what else should I know? What about positions? Any that really feel good for both partners? Any that girls especially like? Normally her and i are just in the standard position...one on top, one below....Im really wondering what others are doing/trying that maybe my GF and I could try. (especially the ones that girls like the best) I really just want to have some ideas in mind so that next time her and I share the experience, I will "blow her away w/ amazment" because it wont be the normal "whatever" shes expecting (just like in the past) I really want this next time to be pasionate (sp?) and perfect... Soo any and all advice helps...anythin else you guys can share? What about the girls? Any girls on here have some advice to share?

Secondly: (and i cant believe im about to ask this either) But for some of you guys...after you've "rounded the bases and hit homeplate" Any of you have problems steppin right back up to bat again?? Sometime for me, "he" seems to just get tired and needs a rest, and i feel really bad for her because shes not ready for a break/or to stop. Any advice on that? What to do?



haha thats a good way to put it


let u know what?? huh??


never tired it, always kinda wanted to...i donno...ive had friends try it. (its kinda one of those things you'd like to try before you die...but are not obsessed with it..)
But yea, my GF isnt into that either...and i dont think theres any way of convencing her to try it..

 

Dude, you enjoy it instead of thinking of it as work. Too much media BS out there about a guy having to stress out to perform and make a girl cum three hundred times and shit. If you are enjoying it and you are pumping for longer than a few minutes, then you're doing good. Also make sure you foreplay. It's work to guys but it's sex to girls. Don't rub or touch or mess around with the key areas too hard. It hurts if you go too hard (for most girls anyhow, minus the kinky sluts) in the beginning. Let her warm up and tell you when she's ready (trust me, she will when she is). It's sex not brain surgery.

 

And it obviously sounds like you two aren't the communicative type because all girls are different, so some things work on some girls and some don't. When you guys feel comfortable sexually with each other, you can always ask her how she likes it

 

I think your thinking too much about it. Sex should come natural, the only time "he" has any trouble is when I'm either drunk and can't feel anything or if she just doesn't turn me on (usually happens with a girl I'm about to break up with) but your 19, my problem when I was 19 was I couldn't get it down!
Just moving her legs at different angles or even doggy style or just letting her be on top, just changing it up might spice it up. One thing my ex and I used to do was shower together first, that always gets me going, can't wait to jump out of the shower, and something I don't even bother.
After you hit a "homerun" and you need to come up to bat again, start her off with you going down on her, that act itself might get some blood flowing.
Hope that helps, that's what works for me. Good Luck!

 

good sex comes with age. you are too youn gto be good at it. keep humping and dumping and eventually you will gain control and stamina. 19 year olds are famous for being quick. when you thrn 30 you will know what you are doing, with no complaints from the recipient.

 

Don't hype it up too much and try to let it happen naturally instead of "i hope i hope its diff this time"...

 

Go back down after a "homerun"?!?! Umm i guess if u like the taste of latex and spermiside.... not me....(and yes, were 19 and shes on the pill and I always use a condom...were not taking ANY chances. But thats just it...you foreplay, massage, oral, then sex...but I really dont want to go back down after sex...its like eating/chewing on a condom...

(and thats another thing...once ive been down, she wont kiss me...sooo..its like i have a choice i guess... ...I dont mind goin down, especially before, but once i do, she wont kiss me so its like were having sex but cant kiss eachother...

Question: For everyone who does a little foreplay and oral before sex...do you finish your partner off first or do u build them up and then go straight into sex w/o finishing them??

Its not that im thinkin about it too much, and its definitly not that her and I dont talk about what feels good and all...i know all of that. I guess my issue is that the last few times we've had sex, its been the worst...(ok "worst" isnt a good word to use, but...well the last few times, it has just been bad and her and I end up getting frustraited...) I guess Im just worried that because the last few times were "under par" that she wont look forward to it again....i donno..im totaly worrying about nothing i guess. I know her and she knows me and everything is good, but I guess im just over thinking and trying to "prepare" myself so that next time isnt like the last few times.

 

Dude,

Just TAKE YOUR TIME and don't try to rush it. You know, everything you want to do to her or have her done to you....do the opposite. Most girls like that romantic stuff: massage, candles, mood music, lights down low, light touches and kisses, tease her, etc... Explore her body (all of it) like a conquistador in a new land. Ask her what she likes or if something you are doing feels good to her. You know the first time feeling you had when you noticed her and was thinking about her and what you would do to her once you got her clothes off? Do that, unless it's just in-out-in-out-cum. Once her oven is preheated and she got hers, then you can get yours. If you want to make it great and memorable, just focus on her before you focus on yourself. And spank the monkey before hand so you don't finish before she does (if you have that problem).

As for positions, some women prefer doggy (some don't b/c it feels impersonal), woman on top, missionary, etc... Some women like to be in control and some like to be controlled. You have to figure that out.

Make it special by making it about her.

Your game plan should be to do her in a way that will ruin other guys for her (i.e. you are the benchmark).

 

Try reverse cowgirl. It's not as stimulating for you - so you may last longer - and super stimulating for her. She is also in total control since you just lay there with your wood pointing at the ceiling. She can go as hard or as soft as she wants and is basically in control of how she pleases herself. It will take some of the onus off of you to please her and you will last long enough for her to hopefully cum.

And you ask about oral before sex. In my experience, we only try and finish each other off on oral if we know were not having sex anytime soon. Like road head for instance. But if were having sex, oral is just part of forplay.

 

Try a change in scenary. Kansas is boring....a night on the town in Chicago and end up at the W should do it for it.

 

haha yea, i can get hella discounts @ the W too...my sister works with the sheraton/W hotels....but its too bad im only 19 (well 20 in a few days) you have to be like 22 or 23 or somethin to rent a room at those hotels.

And your right, kansas is boring...maybe new places might spice things up too...but its like...uhhh where to go??

is that where shes ontop but like facing your feet?

 

If all else fails, ask what she likes. She may provide an answer for you.