Welcome Enrique

 

Why would someone who's fathered a child out of the blue turn virtually celibate? Either he's been bi/gay this whole time (unlikely) or he's got an even nicer piece tucked away somewhere, given the behavior described earlier in the thread.

Babyfer, is he working now? Did I miss that development? Have you finally gotten cell phones on the same account so you can check usage, numbers dialed, etc? If he's working, keep an eye on how much is spent for lunch, happy hours etc.

Maybe you could post a recent pic of yourself, but the one I saw posing by a car, shows that physically you're quite alright, and nothing to sneeze at.

Hmmm.

 

He seems like a regular dude from what I've seen. What I wasn't aware of is that he seems to be addicted to World of Warcrack. Not saying that this is an acceptable excuse to ignore your wife. There are definitely issues that need to be resolved there that go beyond the bedroom. This is not a healthy relationship by far. Again, I am only going roughly on the same information you guys are. Only difference is I know them personally.

 

thanks

 

he IS working now, don't have cell's on the same account, his uncles pay for mine through their business, and his is through his best friend, still from when he got caught b4, i don't know why the uncles' don't want to put him on there bill, i think that they are maxed out. i have no idea how to keep track of lunch, but i do know that with what he does he rarely gets even an hour lunch, he has to be in the site if contractors are working, so he can't go to a nice lunch.
as for the pic, that was right after i had JJ & bought the TL, since then i have lost about 15-20 lbs. oh and add another inch or two to my hair..lol i think that it had gotten cut a little shorter than i like in that pic

thanks Enrique for postin up ..... he's the president of the eclipse club that i'm a member of, he has known Jeff for several years, although he was not aware of this problem till last week i think.

i did go and have lunch with him today, dressed all sexy, and he was all over me, and said that for sure i was gonna get it tonight.. i'll let ya know tomorrow.. course i'm not holding my breath...
at somepoint the topic of divorce came up, talking about how kids deal with it, and he mentioned that it would be really hard on JJ if we ever did, cause he loves us both so much.. it's funny some of the things that he says, i wouldn't be surprised if he has some kind of spyware, or something so he can see what i'm talking about during the day.. he's really computer savy.

 

Chances are if you use the same computer, he knows about Acurazine. It's a safe bet since you say he's pretty good with computers.

 

no i use the lap top in the dining room with the d-link, he does know about this site though, he was there when i found it. but i mean that he can probabally read the IMign that i do too, dunno
i don't really care, at least if he does then he realizes how hurt i am by his actions

 

I told you... he needs a wake-up call

 

well i did do somehtin kinda bad today.. *evil laugh*since he was all over me, i'm sure cause there were other guys around... when we got to the car, i started to give him head, then stopped and said ok, done, now you know how i feel ..heheheh so bad of me
that's what lead to the im gonna get it tonight thing

 

 

Sooo, it's 7:09a in Dallas, and we've waited all night? I can recommend a good attorney if you didn't get it last night.

 

^lol...

 

That's fucked up.

Good for you. Give him a taste of his own medicine.

 

Wow Fer. I just spent a good hour catching up on this thread!

I don't want to even pretend to have any advice. Wifey and I were like rabbits for the first couple years together, but after the baby and both of our jobs changed, things have definitely slowed down a bit. We get so busy and tied up in life and work, that we almost "forget" to be intimate for stretches. Sometimes a couple weeks will go by then we realize it and make up for it.

Things that always work for us are definitely any stay in a hotel room without jr., long drives home at night after dinner or a show or something, or just pulling off a quickie in the garage or walk-in closet or something while our son is watching some cartoons or a movie (although he usually comes a knockin' in the middle).

Sushi next wee? We can break it down and throw some ideas around then...I'd go this Friday, but going camping with wife & son.

 

lol... half of socal3g will be on this site by the end of the week. What's up Chris?

 

I know...Fer doesn't post up all her personal problesm on socal3g. Funny how I ended up here before I knew she was a member. I was chiming in on the TL boards in a vs. an S60R thread.

Seems like a really good group of people for a huge membership type board. Maybe we should do some multi-club meets since a lot of the Acuras compare with the Euros too.

 

laughing. when you said you were on here too i was afraid that you would find out.. there were only 3 people on socal that knew.. now there's 4.. please Chris don't spread it there, if we ever do go to another meet, i don't want this topic comin up..i'm sure you won't though, your cool

and the answer to last night... please you all knew better

 

End the suffering now and please do something about it. AZ begs you.

 

I rarely talk to anyone besides Enrique, Jason, and Matt. I would never bring it up. Looks like you got good advice here...no need to flood any other forums with it.

I'll buy you a couple Sake bombs and bring some more guys from work who will gladly give you a little ego boost.

 

My wife and I used to be like that........................in college. Now that we both have careers and she is pregnant, I count my blessings every time I get to have sex. In fact, she had been telling me lately that I want more sex, but that I need to do more romantic things like I did in college.

 

Holy crap! I'm never too tired for sex. I don't care if I just got done with a marathon, I'm never too tired. I thought guys aren't like that. I think there is definately something wrong.

 

Oh babyfer....

When will you tke control of your life? I know we are reading only your side of the story, but what we are reading is so unhealthy for both of you! Sex is no joke during a marriage.

Your son is sure to be feeling that there's something going on between the two of you, even though he's little--on the few occasions my wife and I argue my one-year old is inconsoleable--he knows something is wrong in that moment...

 

Now *that's* a true friend!

 

when Jeff and i raise our voices, even if we're playing, JJ starts laughing really loud or throwing stuff at us to direct the attention to him.. he's a pretty smart kid.

my problem is that I'm not a fighter, i hate to start fights, it's just not me. the timing has to be right for me to even raise my voice to him.

and ya Chris is pretty cool.. so were having sushi when??? so's Enrique, that's why i asked him also thanks to all of you who are offering up the great advise, now i just need to grow balls, so to speak..
course then i might lose my socal fan club..lol..a chick w/ balls..ew

 

Any day next week for Sushi. Let me know.

And #1 rule for picking up chicks in Las Vegas clubs:

Check the adam's apple!

adam's apple = chick with balls

 

I hear ya on the not fighting thing. I can't remember me and my wife actually fighting about anything. We argue some times, but never too loud. We're the most calm people not on drugs I know.

I think our son will do the same. He'll see it as a game. I hope you and your hubby work it out soon, because smart kids are really good at picking up on things.

 

What's the latest Fer? any new developments?

 

Wait for updates every couple of months...

 

 

Reps...

 

+rep

 

Funny shit.

 

hahahahaha

 

hahahaah that's funny, good chart, i think it's shows that i get it more than i do though..LOL

nothin new ,still none

they had a survey on a show that i was watching last night. would you leave someone you loved if the sex was bad.. 45% NO, 35% yes, 20% maybe

i was thinking what about no sex.. do a survey about that!

there was a girl who called in.. she had kinda the same peoblem.. they had been together 4 years, and 2 kids, but her hubby was a medic, so he worked 24 hr shifts, so i can understand him being too tired.

 

Tired = no excuse



I've never denied a girl sex because I was too tired.


Maybe that's because I'm still young, though.

 

the only time I deny a girl sex is when I'm too drunk to stand under my own power....and even then I'll probably still try

 

 

last night...
we're out on the deck, he just gave the neighbor girl a ride on our new buggy, just like 5 mins.
he comes back making jokes about he should invite her for a 3-some (this girl just got outta a REALLY BAD relation shoip, we would see him yelling at her outside, and she has bruises all over)
i laugh, and say that's prob the only way i'm gonna get sex hugh? then i continue to tell him that today is not a good night to talk about it, cause i'm feeling really depressed today. then he says, or what you'll jsut cry liek you always do for no reason.
i said i cry when i have a reason, like i missed you spending time w/ me, i criued, i really wanted sex, i cried.. those are good reasons!
then he says that's all our marriage is based on, is you wanting sex, i said well if that's all that 10 years are based on, then i would have devorced you a long time ago. then he said well then that would show what type of person you (me) are! WTF??????
then he says that all the other stuff he does doens't matter to me, and i told him that i never said that, and that stuff does matter, then he said that i said he was .. what's the word.. kinda like usless.. dunno anyway i said NO i never said that either, listen to what i say!


sooo friggen frustrating! again, turns it on me, that woudl show the type of person i am! god, all this crap shoud; show that i'm a very patient person..ggeezzz

 

Damn, girl... I don't like the way how your husband twists your words and makes you feel guilty. :shakehead

And the only way you can have sex with him is if there is another girl involved?! This only reinforces my guess that he probably lost his sexual desire for you.

 

This guy is beyond messed up