So I've been talking to this one chick I met online, but it just seems to be stalling. She tends to be kinda busy (works as a PE teacher, then as a fitness adviser), but so do I. The difference is that I try to make time for anyone I may be interested in. I never get a "first txt" from her to start a convo and there are times when I txt her and get no answer back. I txt her some mornings wishing her a good day and she replies with a thank you, but thats about it. Its not like she cannot possibly be thinking about me for a brief second each day since she repeatedly "pokes" me on facebook every single day....

My gut check says the interest is starting to fade, despite her saying that its not. I always have had a tendency to give up when the going gets tough though. I think I know my answer but I guess just need to hear it from someone else.

Discuss.

 

How many times have you gone out on a date? And how often do you talk over the phone?

 

We havent yet. We met online and we have a some distance between each other (like 3 hours). We've only been talking for about 2 months.


It doesnt help the dating scene locally is garbage. I wouldnt even know where to start and the women I attract here are not my type.(even when I keep an open mind)

 

3 hours...facebook...online...her interest is like my tag: CUWNICU...nuff said!

 

Ask to meet face to face. I think that will give you a pretty good idea of her level of interest.

 

Three hours away? I've never understood the long distance thing.

 

^ if you lived in Pensacola, you would understand anything past a 30 mile radius is an upgrade

 

Find another girl that lives closer to date at the same time... there's no rule you need to only date one...

Things will work themselves out, don't wait for this one to start working.... You'll end up wasting time, then wasting more time regretting wasting the time

 

3 hrs is too far. That, plus the fact that you 2 have not even met face to face says alot. I think you know the answer to your sitaution.

LOL! I should not be talking as my so called love life is all shot to hell!!!!

 

pepsi cola?

 

Remind of this girl I'm currently interested in...

But she tells me that she misses me and wants to see me. We make a plan, and it is canceled the last minute. Either she falls asleep or has some other agenda...

The funny thing she shows more interest, I'm not as enthusiastic. I've just stopped talking to her. It's turning into a game, which I'm not playing.

 

sounds like the g/f I just broke up with. She always has good intentions but then gets busy doing housework and other stuff and winds up being to busy see/blow me. WTF is up with that...

 

Same thing happened to me once. Met her on Match.com, we decided to meet up and at the last second (after several calls) she finally answers and says "Me and my dad are going to shop for school supplies" Yeah right....
OP, I would suggest moving on if she acts like meeting in person isn't gonna happen.

 

i just don't get the whole online dating thing. i could maybe understand it if you were in the same city, but 3 hrs away? no thanks

 

If you have been dating a girl for a while and she doesn't seem to have high interest in communicating with you, I'd understand your confusion and frustration. BUT, you guys have not even met up in person!!! Why do you expect much from her?

You may find her lukewarm responses impolite, but you have to remember that you are just one of the many guys trying to hit her up online. Why should she be interested in someone living 3 hours away whom she hasn't met yet?

Make your move man, it's been 2 months!

 

Well not quite the same as I've known this girl for over 3 years. We were intimate plenty of times before. But we were always friends with benefits.. Past few months it has changed. We developed feelings for each other. She is a very hot girl, so she has a lot of guys following her, but she rejects them all. She tells me that she can't wait to see me, she is sincere about it. She's in school, work, and helping her grandma all the time.

BUT the fact that she does not commit to her promises, tells me she has no respect for me or herself. If two people want to see each other, they will make whatever is possible to achieve such a desire.

Our last conversation she asked if I was mad at her. I've just clicked the phone. Maybe I'm an asshole, but it's either a yes or no. done.

 

Dude, she is not interested at all. She is being polite. Do not chase. Call it a day. She understand by now your intentions, leave it at that. If she want to pursue it, she will get in touch with you.

 

dating can be hard enough as it is, dont complicate it with distances. find someone local or a bit closer.

 

Tell her you want to meet with her.

 

dont meet girls online

 

why?

there are probably as many flakey women as there are good women on the Internet sites... IMHO. Just have to be a bit careful and be smart..

I guess the one good thing about the age range of women that I would look at, is that chances are, they are not in it for casual encounters..

 

do you send her cock pix? try sending her cock pix. chicks love cock pix.

 

 

Poor Whiskers...only cock you could come up with on short notice huh man? Woe is you...

 

I don't want to go back to jail...

 

Lol...

 

Lol

 

sorry gr8ness, I dunno what to tell you. Try and finagle her to come meet you...

 

The long distance thing is fine if you ask me its just alot harder to sustain, if you and her are willing to put in the work go for it. but by the sounds of her actions she doesnt seem interested in dating. comparing to a situation i was just in, which was really similar the the txting thing and such, she seems like she does like you but only wants to be friends. i would say talk to her about it and she what she thinks. its only been a few months so neither of you are super commited or super honest, its just the way it is. but at the end of the day you both need to know what the other want otherwise it can go on for years and end in a lot of pain

 

lol

 

I didn't see any updates. It looks like you moved on. Good.

 

^ yes I did...far far away lol. Just needed the reality check.

 

I've had some luck with long distance in the past but I don't recommend it, so I say it's time to find another girl

 

3 hours?!
i had a long distance relationship for about 6 months except she lived an hr and half away....not 3 hours, they don't really work out too well because she wants to be by your side. are you sure she doesn't just consider you a mutual friend?

 

just move to gainesville. tons of pretty women who will put out. yes its that easy to just up and move do it

 

shoot, I'll move...