Horny you are, ex miles away smell he can

 

Either that or I'm under surveilance

 

I don't think it's a requisite for him.

And on the subject of your relationship, if it's meant to be, it wouldn't be so much drama. There's ZERO great relationships that's worried about the stupid stuff. The only troubles great relationships go through is the occassional meaning and boundries of the relationship stuff and if something bad happens to one of them like cancer or accident or something. If you are having these issues, I'd figure you can get a better deal.

 

Don't call him and move on. You've played the same game with him for the past 7 years and he only seems to call you when he is lonely and wants attention. Again, move on, its for the best.

By the way, it was nice to meet you at the TSX meet this past Sunday.

Good Luck!!

 

Thanks for all the advice guys, so far, so good, I'm staying strong and haven't texted him back. I'm off to go paint some doors now, just trying to keep my mind of this for now.

 

Cut him loose....there's no way that this can work....

He sounds like an immature, manipulative jerk... he keeps playing and playing you, and you keep taking it...
Do you really want this guy?!? he sounds like a loser...

trust me, I know how hard it is to cut someone out of your life after a long time....
but it needs to be done..

It's like a splinter...if you don't take it out, you'll get gangrene or some shit...

THIS WILL NEVER GET BETTER

HE WILL NEVER "WORK HIS ISSUES OUT!!!"

he IS the issue...

 

As a guy who can recognize a fellow hit it and quit it-er, he is just playing you for his convenience. Sucks to hear it but true. Hornyness comes and goes, love doesn't.

If you are attracting the wrong people it's because you aren't attracting the right people. Let me repeat that. It's not that just the wrong people are attracted to you, it may be that the "right" people, the guys that you would want to be in a relationship with, sense something in you or are not attracted by your behavior, looks, etc.

I'm not just saying this to depress you or make you feel bad. I'm sure there are enough people here who will put a bandage on your wound and try to make you feel better so I'll be the meanie who will say it like it is. If you are looking for Mr. Wonderful who is smart, charming, sweet, caring, attractive, cool, tough, rich, whatever it is that you are looking for, think to see if you are all those things that he may be looking for. I'm not advocating hating yourself, hating your body, or even going nutzo and doing a Tony Robbins life changing stunt.

I'm just saying it helps to take a good assessment and make a few changes in your life instead of looking for a significant other to fulfill your void. That emptiness you feel is obvious to others and is a total turnoff to guys. Make sure you are satisfied with yourself before you seek to fill the void with "stuff" like your Masters, law degree, ex-boyfriend, etc.

 

SDCGTSX I sort of see where you're coming from, but at the same time I think you misunderstand me as well. I myself am self confident with what I want and do not want to settle for less. I have already identified my ex as a source of drama and unhappiness and am trying my hardest to stay the hell away from him.

I recently heard this quote that went some thing like this: "opportunity may only come once in a lifetime, while temptation will always be knocking at your door"

I resurrected this thread not for anyone to tell me what an ass my ex is, trust me I know this already. I mainly did this for moral support to remind me not to go back to this b.s. that I have been dealing with for the past 8 years.

I am not insecure in the way I look, think or act and I have even come to terms with my glaring flaws. I know what I want and what I can get. I know what I have to offer a significant other yet at the same time I know I cannot expect it to happen in the blink of an eye. Yes I am a little impatient, but then again that's just being human.

I am not sure what other changes you are refering to as in I already have self confidence, an education, a house, a nice car, and I buy almost anything I want. I even have a decent set of real life friends and family. I know I am not perfect, but I also know I am not ugly(personality wise or looks wise). I am extremely outgoing and social and know people from all walks of life. I simply have a hard time meeting the Mr. Right for me. But this thread isn't about all the retards I've dated (I have some lovely old threads on that already) but just a reminder for me not to text his ass back. So far this is day 5 of me staying strong...

 

ok I skipped from 1 to 6 but here you go.............

I was with someone for over 5 years and got married... that lasted a year. love yes, but personal issues from who and how bills should be paid to sex to anything under the sun drove us apart. This happens to alot of people. I know people who love each other, get alog great, have great sex but for whatever reason they can not live togeather or be married.

the point is that even if you love someone, your great freinds or maybe even great parents and have everything clicking you just can't be toegether. You need to discover what your true needs are. then find someone to fill those needs. you said that you have everything you need from a possestion stand point. So what is it that you really lack? What is it that you really want? And who can fill those needs to your expectations, and what oyur hart really needs?

Start thinking about that and you will start to find your awnsers.

 

I think you already know the answer to that question even before you ask..
I believe the answer is "NO". Loving someone is "giving", different from "receiving".

 

Relationships are not on auto pilot and are not guaranteed to work out cause there is Love. There also needs to be understanding, trust, unselfishness, humor - very key,fun, excitement, commitment and especially friendship. Love is often times all these things together. So I would say NO to your question. Love does not guarantee anything.

 

Well, here's our moral support. We've all been there and I personally am a fan of excessive exercise during the early periods to help get over someone. Just stay strong and remember that time heals most wounds. Unfortunately, I know some wounds and exes are like herpes. they never fully heal and periodically fester but you can get over it with patience. And as soon as someone better comes along, you forget pretty quick. Stay strong and positive.