About 3 weeks ago I met this girl Nicole thru a friend of mine. I had met her a year or so before briefly, but hadn't seen her since. Her lake house is right near a good friend of mines, so my friend invited her out to the bar we always go to. I picked them both up on my boat and headed straight to the bar. I talked to her basically all night and we sat around and drank together. Her and I both had a bit too much to drink and wound up leaving the bar early and headed out to my boat. We ended up hooking up and she stayed the night at my place. The next day I took her back to her house and we relaxed at my friend's pool. It was a little weird at first, but that settled down after a bit. She told me to call her sometime next week, which I did.

Fast forward to this weekend...I pick her and my friend Blake up to have some drinks with a bunch of other friends of mine. Nicole and I sat down at a table and we talked with my brothers g/f the whole night. She wasn't feeling great, which was my fault, so I took her out to the boat again. This time, I took her back to her house and walked her to here front door, which is about a block walk in the pitch dark. She gave me a kiss and that was it. The next morning she text messaged me and said "Sorry about last night, but thanks for taking care of me." Saturday night I suggested that we go out low key and just have a few beers. My brother's g/f, Nicole, and I ended up coming back to my house and sitting on the porch talking for a few hours. I took Nicole home afterwards and she told me to call her sunday. Yesterday I suggested that her and I go out for some dinner and to see Wedding crashers, which we did. It was late after the movie, but I wasn't tired so I asked her if she wanted to come over for a drink. We again sat out on the porch and just talked for roughly two hours.

Now that we got the background info out of the way, here is my problem. Nicole is a very beautiful girl with a smoking body. She is very down to earth and has a lot going for her, but I am not sure about this girl. I think she likes me from the signs that I am getting, but I don't want to mess anything up. I don't know what the next step should be. I personally feel that she is shy and may not affectionate. Should I just leave it as a friendship or go to the next level? Any advice would be helpful.

Sorry for the long post, but I had this on my mind today at work.

 

Sounds like you've been a perfect gentleman thus far. I have no insight to contribute other than, congrats on catching what sounds like a really great girl

 

Give her a little romance and see where it goes.

but do make sure that after you see her you at the very least passionately kiss her and get it on a little bit.

Otherwise she'll come to the conclusion that you don't like her.

 

This is a typical response for a person who is smitten. Sounds like she's a great catch since she is attractive AND you guys can carry a conversation...not much more to chemistry than that my friend.

Just take it slow, show interest & see what develops. By all means, continue to see her with her/your friends to keep things light until you are both ready to move forward.

And by all means GOOD LUCK!!!

 

you sound like a puss

 

well I wasn't going to come right out and say it, but yeah...good call.

If you want her go get her. The more alone time the better to get to know each other.

 

Thanks for the advice guys. I talked to her on the phone a bit ago for 30 minutes. I am going to just show interest and see where it goes. It's kind of funny that when you aren't looking for a relationship, they kind of pop up. I would be an idiot to pass up on this girl.

 

I wouldn't say that at least yet, but she might be starting to smell something. Just don't fall into the sad sad hole that 99% of guys do when they become smitten around/because of a great girl. Just do what you've been doing, step up and be the man and make the first move when you're with her. She might not be sure what she wants, so give her a lil nudge in the right direction Good luck, and im surprised we havent seen this yet:

 

What you mentioned is the unwritten Murphys Law of relationships...

Keep pluggin.

 

I have been trying to be cautious since I don't know exactly what she wants. I tend to act this way around good looking girls, especially ones I respect. Next time I see her, I am going to be more direct and judge from her reactions.

 

Since you saw The Wedding Crashers, I think this quote applies "Grab that net and catch that beautiful butterfly, pal!"

 

Yeah, it sounds like she likes you or she wouldn't have gone out with you solo. Girls really like a guy that they can talk to, so that's in your favor. And the fact that you haven't mauled her shows that you're not just after her body. So next time, definitely step up to the plate and make a move. The worst that can happen is that she says she's not into it. But I doubt that will happen... by 24 most of us know when not to lead a dude on.

Good luck!

 

make a move next time you guys are alone, and if she doesn't reciprocate, pin her down with your body weight.

 

I see we have conflicting advice.

 

Ruffies!

 

the ball is in your court my friend!!! lets think about this,, several good nights out drinking, a kiss or two, a little hooking up,,,, she's tested your waters, feels comfy and safe and all that warm and fuzzy crap,,, now lets get down to the good stuff, she obviously likes you.
be cool around her, almost as if your not falling all over her, but be a gentleman always,,, chivalry is not dead,,,open doors, tell her she looks really nice and watch her eyes when you say it,, does she just say thanks and look down? or do her eyes kind of light up that you noticed she got her hair done for you,,,, i bet they light up,,, what else,,,, youve ran all the way down field,,, now cross the end zone. good luck

 

Get her drunk again, worked the first time.

 

sounds to me that you are not a good lay, or else she would have "put out" the other times that you were alone together.

And don't let her say that the alcohol made her do it; it just released her inner slut.

 

 

I don't see a problem here. You like the girl, she likes you and you are taking it slow. Sounds about right.

And where are the god damn pics....

 

Never had a unsatisfied customer, so I doubt that. I think the second point is true though

She texted me yesterday a bunch of times while she was at work. We talked on the phone for almost an hour when she got off of work. What sucks is that I work during the day and she works from 3-11:30 pm at a hospital, so its hard to work around both of our schedules during the week.

 

sex or no sex ?

 

be a man and lay one on her, what have you got to lose.

 

Definitely go for it. It may be that she has girl issues with being judged a slut by moving too soon. Some girls I know have no problem sleeping with guys who they just want to sleep with but want to appear like they are a virgin to guys they like. Fucked up but who am I to judge?

So maybe she likes you and doesn't know exactly how to show it, in a similar situation as you. I'd say romance and charm her. Take the nervousness out of it. Drunk hookups are easy, sober hookups take skill and smoothness so it doesn't go awkward. And you can actually never take all awkwardness out of the first sober hookup. Just jump the hurdles as best as you can and just go for the BIG kiss. And I'm talking a BIG long continuous kiss, not the little goodnight one.

If you are doing a good job of kissing and making out, go for the good old high school shirt off move and see where it goes. A big part of being a man is laying it all on the line and taking the consequences.

 

Well like I said before you better make a move and quick.

Good single girls don't stay single for long (could weeks tops). Make your intentions known. Don't maul her...but without strong physical contact she may start to think of you as a friend.

And you REALLY, REALLY don't want that.

 

What have you got to lose? If you don't get her, someone else will. Wouldn't you rather it be YOU?

 

Quoted for truth.

 

I still like "get her drunk again, worked the first time"

 

A little update: Went out with her yesterday night and asked her out on a date on monday night after work. I have a pic of her that my friend took the other week, but it is in his digi camera. I will try and get it.

 

Good job!

Hope the date will go well! Keep us updated!

 

Here's one last word of advice. DON'T tell her how much you like her without her first telling you. I don't mean not to have a good time. I mean the sincere, "I think I'm falling in love with you" or something to that affect. Let her know through your actions initially, but definitely wait until she says it first. I know some people may think that is playing games and that you should just tell her if you feel it. I completely disagree with that. There's got to be degree of self-control until she is completely committed to you. Telling a girl that you can't live without her BEFORE she feels the same way will only make her fear your stalker tendencies after the break-up. I suggest not showing your cards nor getting yourself committed to the girl until she feels the same way.

Anyways, it's all a bit early. Good luck.

 

this person speaks true.