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And you think this chick doesn't find you boring too?? I highly doubt anyone dates a person for 2 years and finds every moment overwhelmingly stimulating. If you love her like you claim to, then work on it. If you want to move on then move on. But to answer your question from the beginning: yes you may regret it UNLESS you really know you don't want to be with her anymore.
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I say you both take your losts and pack up and call it a quits..
*Do you find yourself being angry at her or constantly blaming her for somthing?
** Does she give you dirty looks or blame you for stupid things?
***GET OUT NOW!!!
*Do you find yourself being angry at her or constantly blaming her for somthing?
** Does she give you dirty looks or blame you for stupid things?
***GET OUT NOW!!!
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I feel the same way you do man....went out with my girl for 3 1/2 years since HS......we broke up for about 5 months now, it was fun being single but i realize how much I miss. Since you guys seem to be bored with eachother its time to go out and experience new things. That's what i m doing with my EX now and it seem to bring us back closer. She said she'll let me know if she'll give me another chance before my birthday (2 months), so now i m doing what ever i can to not kill this relationship....My advice is just decide what you want, i think you guys are a good couple for being together for so long but it seem like you guys need to go out and experience new place. Eat at a new place instead of your favorite place, go ice skating, play pool, blah blah blah than you guys will have something new to talk about........... Check out this website it'll help
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Good luck to you
and to me too LOL i'll update my 3 1/2 yr realtionship in 2 months, turning 21 BABY!
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Good luck to you
and to me too LOL i'll update my 3 1/2 yr realtionship in 2 months, turning 21 BABY!
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Originally Posted by OneFlyCL
I feel the same way you do man....went out with my girl for 3 1/2 years since HS......we broke up for about 5 months now, it was fun being single but i realize how much I miss. Since you guys seem to be bored with eachother its time to go out and experience new things. That's what i m doing with my EX now and it seem to bring us back closer. She said she'll let me know if she'll give me another chance before my birthday (2 months), so now i m doing what ever i can to not kill this relationship....My advice is just decide what you want, i think you guys are a good couple for being together for so long but it seem like you guys need to go out and experience new place. Eat at a new place instead of your favorite place, go ice skating, play pool, blah blah blah than you guys will have something new to talk about........... Check out this website it'll help
www.askmen.com
Good luck to you
and to me too LOL i'll update my 3 1/2 yr realtionship in 2 months, turning 21 BABY!
www.askmen.com
Good luck to you
and to me too LOL i'll update my 3 1/2 yr realtionship in 2 months, turning 21 BABY!
Please don't do this. I'm not trying to be mean, but she's making you a bitch if you let her do this. She should know right away if she'll give you another chance, not in 2 months.
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update: so its been two weeks since i have moved. I came back to town last night. Today was kick ass. 6 times in a day, im exhausted. Sex is so much better when it has been 2 weeks since I last got some. I think it really will work out, we are still obviously adjusting how we handle the relationship now with the distance. Im not going to break up with her and Im not going to cheat on her. Ill just wait until fall until she moves down to Austin with me.
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Don't have sex that often - only like 4 times x month. If you're bored with her now, go out on group dates - go play pool or even go to a movie with @ least 1 other person. Don't let he hold your hand or be all over you all the time, then she'll appreciate it more and so will you. Do stupid things, go driving and blast your music - she'll end up turning it down so you have have a serious convo. which will turn out great. I'm 20, my bf's 21, he wants to go to bars all the time, and I can't go. It sucks ass but he wouldn't go without me. Seriously though, go play some pool, play a board/card game, do fun little things. I cheated on my bf last year with a 32 year old b/c for some Godforsaken reason, only 32 year old guys like me haha He blamed himself for the whole thing, b/c im a touchy-feely girl and he hates that, wereas the guy i cheated with clearly didn't. If I didn't have my bf, I don't know how I would have gotten this far in school. I'm planning on marrying him, which scares the hell out of him. I met him in college - in a class, not at a party. Maybe you should look for the "good girls" at school rather than the one-night stands. If, when she comes to your college after graduation, she ends up being that "good girl", then you'll be golden. But for now, try those things and if you so choose, end it before you break her more. And yes, you will kill her.
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Originally Posted by arstraub
Don't have sex that often - only like 4 times x month. If you're bored with her now, go out on group dates - go play pool or even go to a movie with @ least 1 other person. Don't let he hold your hand or be all over you all the time, then she'll appreciate it more and so will you. Do stupid things, go driving and blast your music - she'll end up turning it down so you have have a serious convo. which will turn out great. I'm 20, my bf's 21, he wants to go to bars all the time, and I can't go. It sucks ass but he wouldn't go without me. Seriously though, go play some pool, play a board/card game, do fun little things. I cheated on my bf last year with a 32 year old b/c for some Godforsaken reason, only 32 year old guys like me haha He blamed himself for the whole thing, b/c im a touchy-feely girl and he hates that, wereas the guy i cheated with clearly didn't. If I didn't have my bf, I don't know how I would have gotten this far in school. I'm planning on marrying him, which scares the hell out of him. I met him in college - in a class, not at a party. Maybe you should look for the "good girls" at school rather than the one-night stands. If, when she comes to your college after graduation, she ends up being that "good girl", then you'll be golden. But for now, try those things and if you so choose, end it before you break her more. And yes, you will kill her.
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Originally Posted by arstraub
Don't have sex that often - only like 4 times x month. If you're bored with her now, go out on group dates - go play pool or even go to a movie with @ least 1 other person. Don't let he hold your hand or be all over you all the time, then she'll appreciate it more and so will you. Do stupid things, go driving and blast your music - she'll end up turning it down so you have have a serious convo. which will turn out great. I'm 20, my bf's 21, he wants to go to bars all the time, and I can't go. It sucks ass but he wouldn't go without me. Seriously though, go play some pool, play a board/card game, do fun little things. I cheated on my bf last year with a 32 year old b/c for some Godforsaken reason, only 32 year old guys like me haha He blamed himself for the whole thing, b/c im a touchy-feely girl and he hates that, wereas the guy i cheated with clearly didn't. If I didn't have my bf, I don't know how I would have gotten this far in school. I'm planning on marrying him, which scares the hell out of him. I met him in college - in a class, not at a party. Maybe you should look for the "good girls" at school rather than the one-night stands. If, when she comes to your college after graduation, she ends up being that "good girl", then you'll be golden. But for now, try those things and if you so choose, end it before you break her more. And yes, you will kill her.
How was it at all his fault?? You cheated...
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Girl's POV
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Originally Posted by Scottman111
How was it at all his fault?? You cheated...
I agree, it was my fault; but he felt like he was "neglecting" me and that's why I went somewhere else where I could get the attention I wanted. All in all, I think it was a 50-50 thing, but I do wish he hadn't completely blamed himself.
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Originally Posted by CUNextTuesday
And as for you - I just really don't like you. I could understand you being a smartass if you were older and there was actually a chance you knew what you were talking about, but not when you're younger than me. Sorry hun, but your opinion is null & void.
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Originally Posted by arstraub
I agree, it was my fault; but he felt like he was "neglecting" me and that's why I went somewhere else where I could get the attention I wanted. All in all, I think it was a 50-50 thing, but I do wish he hadn't completely blamed himself.
If you felt you were being "Neglected" you should've talk to your S.O. about it, rather than goin behind his back and cheating.
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tough situation....i've been there before, sorta. The distance will either drive you guys closer together, or it will drive you two apart. If the latter is the case, you will realize it, becuase things just won't "feel right." You still won't want to end it, becuase you won't want to hurt anyone.
So my advice is, give the distance a shot. Before you do it though, be sure to forewarn your gf....especially if she is still in HS. Then, if you feel like its not gong well, you just got to end it.
So my advice is, give the distance a shot. Before you do it though, be sure to forewarn your gf....especially if she is still in HS. Then, if you feel like its not gong well, you just got to end it.
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Originally Posted by llJrockll
If you felt you were being "Neglected" you should've talk to your S.O. about it, rather than goin behind his back and cheating.
#1: this thread is NOT about me
#2: you weren't there, you don't know the situation
#3: if you want to judge me for a mistake, be my guest
#4: we're still together, that was over a year ago
#5:who said it was behind his back? he knew the guy was coming over, i told him what happened, it's not like i hid it from him - but you wouldn't know that because you weren't there
#6: you guys say it's fine for what's his name to screw around at the parties and whatnot but the ONE time a girl makes a mistake she's trash for it - thanks for being such understanding people
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Originally Posted by arstraub
#6: you guys say it's fine for what's his name to screw around at the parties and whatnot but the ONE time a girl makes a mistake she's trash for it - thanks for being such understanding people
Although I think your BF is a fool for staying with you, you have a point a there.
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why would you say he's a fool? because i slept with the guy? yes? well, of course i didn't.
*and by "of course," I mean there wasn't a chance in hell i would have slept with any other guy
*and by "of course," I mean there wasn't a chance in hell i would have slept with any other guy
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Originally Posted by arstraub
why would you say he's a fool? because i slept with the guy? yes? well, of course i didn't.
*and by "of course," I mean there wasn't a chance in hell i would have slept with any other guy
*and by "of course," I mean there wasn't a chance in hell i would have slept with any other guy
So when you say "I cheated" what exactly does that consist of?
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kissed him, that's all; but in my mind, being that the only guy i've ever had sex with is my boyfriend, that's a huge deal to me. i don't makout with people, i don't kiss people, and i wasn't going to kiss this guy either. i'm a good girl kids, see why fast judgement is a bad idea????
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Originally Posted by arstraub
kissed him, that's all; but in my mind, being that the only guy i've ever had sex with is my boyfriend, that's a huge deal to me. i don't makout with people, i don't kiss people, and i wasn't going to kiss this guy either. i'm a good girl kids, see why fast judgement is a bad idea????
FYI - When you say "I cheated" 98% of people will think you had sex.
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Originally Posted by arstraub
#1: this thread is NOT about me
#2: you weren't there, you don't know the situation
#3: if you want to judge me for a mistake, be my guest
#4: we're still together, that was over a year ago
#5:who said it was behind his back? he knew the guy was coming over, i told him what happened, it's not like i hid it from him - but you wouldn't know that because you weren't there
#6: you guys say it's fine for what's his name to screw around at the parties and whatnot but the ONE time a girl makes a mistake she's trash for it - thanks for being such understanding people
#2: you weren't there, you don't know the situation
#3: if you want to judge me for a mistake, be my guest
#4: we're still together, that was over a year ago
#5:who said it was behind his back? he knew the guy was coming over, i told him what happened, it's not like i hid it from him - but you wouldn't know that because you weren't there
#6: you guys say it's fine for what's his name to screw around at the parties and whatnot but the ONE time a girl makes a mistake she's trash for it - thanks for being such understanding people
Obviously the thread is not about you. But you did respond tho this thread, and so did I. I'm not judging you in any way. I'm just stating my opinion.
-No matter what the situation was, you would have been the better person if you would have not 'cheated'....
ie.... If he cheated on you, that doesn't make it better if you cheat too. You might as well end the relationship....rather than playing little games. (Again, this is just an example.)
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Originally Posted by arstraub
And as for you - I just really don't like you. I could understand you being a smartass if you were older and there was actually a chance you knew what you were talking about, but not when you're younger than me. Sorry hun, but your opinion is null & void.
Please ignore the following opinions since they're "null & void" due to my age:
Stop slutting around and hurting your boyfriend.
I'll fuck you til you love me faggot - Mike Tyson
See ya next Tuesday
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Originally Posted by CUNextTuesday
Ohh!! You mean to say that because I'm younger than you there's no chance I could possibly know what I'm talking about? And you, being a grand total of less than one year older than me, are just that much more credible? I'm sorry if I've been a dick I obviously don't know my place here - there's no chance that I know what I'm talking about whatsoever.
Please ignore the following opinions since they're "null & void" due to my age:
Stop slutting around and hurting your boyfriend.https://acurazine.com/forums/editpos...ost&p=5203622#
Why Me
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Please ignore the following opinions since they're "null & void" due to my age:
Stop slutting around and hurting your boyfriend.https://acurazine.com/forums/editpos...ost&p=5203622#
Why Me
I'll fuck you til you love me faggot - Mike Tyson
See ya next Tuesday
You've made it obvious that any type of conversation with you won't lead anywhere, so I'd like to end it & go back to the point of the thread. Thanks for your cooperation.
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Originally Posted by arstraub
You've made it obvious that any type of conversation with you won't lead anywhere, so I'd like to end it & go back to the point of the thread. Thanks for your cooperation.
So back on topic: Any updates? How have things been?
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Originally Posted by CUNextTuesday
Oh, my bad, I thought you already made that obvious when you told me my opinions are "null & void." It's ok I know you do it because you lust for me.
So back on topic: Any updates? How have things been?
So back on topic: Any updates? How have things been?
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Originally Posted by Erz
haha the statement most guys would love to believe...
never once did i say you were a "good girl"