Some guys at work and I were talking...and I'd like to get your opinions. If you could cheat on your girl and she would never find out...would you? Of course if we could in a dream world..we all know what famous person we would use.

Most guys at my office said yes and I was one of the only guys who said no....I need back-up!

 

I say no. Its just wrong.

 

If i could get away with it completely, with no repercussions, then i'd seriously consider it for a while but in the end would have to stay faithful. Getting caught and dealing with the aftermath is just too damn messy.

 

I would say yes right now, but I don't currently have a girl.

 

Nope, Never. My wife is very hot, why go anywhere else.

 

Well besides my wife I had cheated on every girl I had been with and none of them found out...so I would say if I was just in a BF/GF relationship I would more than likely cheat (you could pretty much bet on that) but since being married I would not cuz what I have is just too good. And yes she (the wife) knows about my previous indiscretions with other women but she trusts me.

 

i don't see what people gain by cheating. if they are in a loving relationship there should be no resaon to cheat, even if there was no chance of getting caught. plus why would you want to have a guilty conscience?!

 

and even if 30 years from now she doesn't look like she does now, I wouldn't want to live with the guilt of knowing that I cheated on her. It would still hurt no matter if she knows it or not.

 

who said anything about a guilty conscience....I never had one, I think for me it was that when with a certain someone I knew the relationship wasn't gonna go too far so I would cheat. I never felt bad is all I'm saying. Of course the longest relationship I had prior to my wifes was about 3 weeks...I get bored quick!

 

Damn...3 weeks??? You're not bored with your wife yet...I am assuming you've been together longer than 3 weeks

no guilt? I think guys would pay to learn how to not feel guilty.

 

Yes I have been with my wife for 2 years before marriage. (of course my words were "i have not cheated on my wife since I got married")
I don't think guys would put themselves in that situation if they would feel guilty. I personally didn't have those feelings.....plus I rarely overdid myself...so they would never assume anything.

 

The reprecussions of cheating on a wife or a significant other are internal, and really don't have a whole heckofa lot to do with whether you're "discovered". At least, so it was with me, and having done it once, stupidly, I wouldn't again. The self-recrimination was way too strong............... (surprised the shit out of me, frankly). My wife was far more generous about it with me than I was with myself, which was no ticket to do it again.............

 

just goes to show that cheating is not for everyone

 

so if you knew it wasn't gonna go far why waste your time? 3 weeks? no wonder you think it's ok to cheat, like i said a loving relationship and i highly doubt you can accomplish that in 3 weeks. i guess cheating is justified in your case.
you still don't feel guilty about cheating even though you did end up getting married to her? wow.

 

I never said it was ok to cheat, I said "I" cheated. I am fully aware that a lot of people can't stomach it.

What would I have to feel guilty about?!?! I did what I did, knowing full well what it was that I was doing....if I knew I was gonna feel bad I would never have done it.

 

NO WAY!! If you can't be honest, what can you be?? Just think about how you would feel if some guy was on you woman. Is their a more horrible thought in the world.

 

well since being married I have put all my cards on the table, she know where I am coming from and she knows me, and I know her...now if you are saying if some guy is on my wife and she is letting it happen then I would leave her, she is completely aware of that, same goes for me. She wouldn't put up with that. Of course working at a bar part time like I do is kinda tough.

 

working at a bar is hard to do i bet..all those girls hanging around...etc. You've got your hands full!

 

yes I do, and my wife said I don't need to be wearing my ring there either...so I don't!

 

Just put it this way: What if your hot wives were boning some other guys on the side .....you know you would be pissed as hell and hurt

 

Never have, never will, despise those that do (male or female)

 

it really depends on where the relationship is... If... we've had "the talk" and are commited to each other exclusivly... I would say "NO", but I've been in relationship before... where it wasn't all that serious... and if that was the case... yeah... I'd do it.

 

I completely agree with you....and I got a great response from the guys at work. Some of them are on our side..others agree with the idea that if you arent serious than what does it matter.....

Glad that there are some guys who help me share my

 

No. It doesn't matter if your significant other knew. I would know.

 

I am agreeing with you, I just was saying that some of the guys at work think that if the significant other doesn't know...or if you aren't serious..than it doesn't matter. I think that no matter what...its not an option.

 

Just make sure that whoever you decide to marry gives you great sex.

If the sex is , eh, it won't get any better after you are married.

If you have great sex then you won't need to look.
Plus you don't need to worry about VD, condoms, all that crap.

 

Very good point.

 

silly me, I thought there was more to marriage than sex.

no, I could not cheat. It is the lowest form of betrayal there is.

 

Cheating is bad. Been cheated on and been the cheater. Sux either way.

 

Ah, a fellow saint, let us all stick together and change the ugly reputation man has seemed to develop... but seriously, to add to my previous point, the whole "I would know" thang is a good point as well

 

Nope, did it once for the DUMBEST reason, and it made me realize I could never cheat again no matter what

 

only if i get to

 

LOL

 

it definitely does suck either way...but allow me to just say that when you're finally with someone that makes you feel a certain sense of happiness and you can just "be"....you don't want to cheat...or risk the chance or ruining it. Keep it :padlock:

 

and well said

ain't no harm looking though

~ B.Good

 

definitely no harm in looking!!

 

No.

 

i did, and i found out the hard way... probably never will again

 

not worth the consequences......if you love your better half you just wont do it.....

 

Call me simple, but why would you *want* to cheat on someone you care about and love? I would assume that if you want to cheat, you're either not with the right person or you feel like you're not getting what you need out of the relationship.

If you're unhappy, I would think the most obvious solutions would be to seek counselling, talk it over with each other, plan on making some changes that'll fix the situation, just take some time away from each other, or end things. The mature thing would be to break up with the other person BEFORE seeking things elsewhere (assuming things can't or won't be worked out).

It's not that you wouldn't cheat -- it's that you wouldn't even WANT to.