I feel like everytime I'm interested in a girl I turn into a complete piece of blabbering jello who has absolutely zero self esteem. This was probably due to past relationships i've had where i'v done something that got me pretty much owned and now I'm scared to even show her my feelings. All my friends tell me to grab my balls and man the fuck up but it's easier said than done... i don't even know what the hell this post is about because I am so pissed off at myself for not taking an action with this girl i'm head over heels with. so i came here to azine and seek words of wisdom which would probably not help me at all. how worthless.

 

The first thing you gotta do is be willing to let the girl go. As soon as you can say :whocares: about whatever happens, you'll be able to talk with women. This isn't to say that you need to become a jerk, but it is to say that you need to not raise women so high up on a pedestal that they become unreachable.

Secondly, you need to be able to just casually hang out with women. Learn to just talk with them as you would anyone else. Don't always try to "put on the moves" or something like that. It's a helluva lot less stressful to not have to worry about impressing a girl all the time with each and every word that you say.

 

yeahhh thats the problem. i have lots of friends that are girls that i hang out with and i have no problem doing so. it's the girl that i'm interested in when i turn into a blabbering idiot ...

 

sounds like a typical thing. Just chill out with her, and whatevers happens happens. Hojo is got it right, you need to hang out with her casually and not put the moves on her. I see my buddies do it all the time, and mostly, it doesnt work man.

 

I agree with everyone else. Be confident and funny. Treat them as if girls were your best friends.

 

 

Drink more....

 

get master mizouse in here

 

give up and become gay.

 

Alcohol is the best confidence elixir

 

 

Slip something in her drink, maybe she'll open up to you

 

1000x on the confidence.

Hang out with her. Go to bars. Point out hot chicks and point out the skanks. Laugh together. The second you aren't interested in her, she will be.

As ridiculous as it sounds/is its the truth.

 

Excatly i use that philosophy fuck it dude. It helps a lot not giving a shit about women. If you are head over heels with her but can't talk to her or whatever then shes not right. What do you think will happen if you went on a date with this girl? Find a girl you are comfortable around and that is hot thats who you should go for.

 

Oh and as an afterword, once I figured out that I need to adopt the :whocares: attitude, boom there came a woman. And now I'm engaged to her.

Seriously, it's all about the confidence. Not the overconfidence, but the kind of confidence where you can function quite well independently from the woman. Once you can carry around the attitude of knowing that if this chick won't give you a chance then you can find another, then women will actually give you that chance that you originally wanted. Kind of oxymoronic, but it's the truth.

 

You are 18, of course you have confidence issues....

Just relax,and do what all these experienced guys are telling you

 

Do it 'the easy way'

 

"your putting the pussy up on a pedestal man"

 

and remember. don't shoplift the pootie

 

slip her rohypnol, then your confidence level will not matter.

 

https://acurazine.com/forums/ramblings-12/why-asian-guys-cant-get-white-girls-331471/

"You..Need...To...Be..More..Assertive."

 

Drinking always makes things better....

 

Stop masturbating.

 

lol

 

Drinking ALWAYS help, but don't start drinking too much..

 

hi I'm....

 

honestly, confidence needs to come from within. people on here can tell you what to do all day long, but if you don't believe in yourself, you'll never get the results you're looking for.

you have to be confident in yourself physically and intellectually in order for it to work. if you do well on a test, say to yourself "damn, you're a one smart cookie". then go to the mall and buy a pair of jeans that look great on you.

once you see yourself, then you can go chat up the ladies.

 

I have been very overconfident lately. Thats not always a good thing....

 

yeah, i know.. sometimes people get annoyed, and/or you get a reality check. but oh well.

 

best advice yet

 

What kind of advice is that? LOL

 

Just make sure you have a plan, always have a plan or you get nothing remember that no women is going to strip down and say "take me you fool". Unless your Tom Cruz or Brad pitt.

 

i was like you at one point, no confidence at all, but then i adopted the i don't give a fuck attitude and now i found someone thats amazing and i couldn't be happier. yes i was head over heals for this girl at first, but i generally just started to talk to her, and whatever you do just be yourself and don't put any moves on her at first. give it a while, you will know if she likes you or not by what she is saying and how she is reacting to you. go in with the attitude of whatever happens happens, this does work. and do not be over confident.

 

Get her a really expensive designer's purse!!

 

Why not?

 

But then her ex-bf might punk you!?!

 

Oh no you didnt....

 

Yes, I did...you dont know her....like I know her...I know we only went out for a short period...but I know that she is not like that!!!