ZeroCL

Alright, for those of you who frequent this forum or atleast have read my last thread (https://acurazine.com/forums/dating-relationships-14/why-hell-am-i-always-one-messing-up-369573/) I said how I have been jealous and all of that. My girlfriend said she didnt like how I was posessive. Someone replied saying how they went to therapy and became more chill and over time the roles were switched and she became the more jealous one. I just need some tips to how to keep chill. I swear all I need to do is find more things to do and be busy and I'll be fine but one of my friends are in college already and the others are senior trips and shit. So for the most part I'm just chillin around the house because I finished my job the other day and now am going on vacation the 22nd to 31st than when I come back I leave for football camp. So what should I do? I try not calling as much. I try not to text as much. If she said she'll call and happens to fall asleep or whatever, ive stopped myself from calling her. I try waiting to see what she'll do the next day. (Like most have known, shes been sick, so she has been sleeping a lot.) I'm trying my very best to stop being as jealous and possessive as I was before. Any help tips will be very helpful.

The reason for all of this before we break up for college anyway is I want for her to develop some form of a jealousy and I want her to worry where I'm going, what im doing, etc. Basically all what you guys DONT want your girl to do. haha. She trusts me too much so I dont want to do something to break her trust and fuck things up that way. I just want her to become the jealous one. Am I completely wrong for wanting that to happen?

Will Y.

Jeez-- it's psychologically unhealthy for you as well as too much work to try and make her jealous. It's not wrong to want it, but it's wrong to try and act with that intent. Besides, she could end up dumping you rather than getting jealous.
You need to hang out with the guys more often (in real life, not including us e-dweebs); that might help you with perspective as well.
G/L!

ZeroCL

haha, most of my friends arent home right now, and when they get home i'll be gone. So thats one of the main reasons why i'm so bored.

(Just a note, we've been dating for a year and so, so this isnt one of those couple month things.)

and you're right, maybe I was wrong for having the intent of making her jealous. The whole 'switching roles' caught me.

But instead how about just tips on how to stop being jealous?

coconut

go after another chick, put the current one on the back burner.

doopstr

All you need to do is not return 2 of her phone calls in a row. Tables turned.

Oh, and you can top it off by returning one of them very late in the evening. Act drunk but don't really be drunk. You don't want to say anything too stupid. Don't stay on the phone long. Just long enough to confuse her. She will either get jealous or dump your ass.

Mike 350Z

Ignore her, flirt with her friends, point out other hotties. It's pretty easy actually

amisconception

You cannot change her. The very fact that you are sitting here contemplating ways to manipulate her into a jealous rage is just symptomatic of your own insecurities. Another red-flag.

Move on.

Stop making excuses for your boredom and start being a man.

Georgiapeach

Why do you want someone to become jealous, this is disturbing. Yes you are wrong for wanting this to happen, this is just wrong.

ZeroCL

Yeah, I really have no clue what I've been writing in this thread. If I wanted to make an excuse, it's because I've been pretty out of it for the past couple days cause I've been real sick and she has been real sick so I cant really do much but just sleep and sit on the computer. When im not busy I think too much about the stupidest of shit. Not sure why but thats what I've ended up doing. Sorry for using this board to spill about my stupid inane ideas. I've established I'm an idiot for even making this thread.

Oh and I have a 101.4 temp., happy birthday to me. This sucks.

CGTSX2004

iTrader: (1)

wow...grow the fuck up...

Whiskers

Does this work on wives?

ZeroCL

i already said it was stupid and I dont know why i started the thread in the first place.

somebody lock this.

Jwalsh

ok well first off happy birthday and i hope ya feel better...

but the way i look at this situation, as the way i look at most relationships, live your life. I used to spend idle time thinking about what\where\who my girlfriend was doing and when you do that you start to fabricate things and make yourself jealous. I don't believe your question is "how can I make my girlfriend jealous?" but more like "how can i occupie my idle time?" The way I overcame the "jealousy" stage is i rediscovered some of my favorite hobbies. I picked up going to the driving range and practicing my swing, lifting weights, i even got back into video games. Soon you'll develope a routine and force your girlfriend to find ways to fit herself into your routine\life or sit at home and wonder who\what\where you are. Worst case scenario, things dont work out and now your into weight lifting and doing other things you love to do.

ZeroCL

You win. You make a very good point and thanks for taking a second to point that out.

The Owner

Are you heading to play football for a college, or high school?

ZeroCL

College. I got scholarship money for football from a Div. 2 school that has won their conference back to back, the past 2 years.

Renegade

Dude you are starting to sound just like me when my relationship was shot. This one is over, best thing for you to do is move on IMO.

Ken1997TL

Agent 47

Easy, start jacking off ferociously when you're in public with her. Show her and the entire world that you love your hands more than her.

stic2it

iTrader: (1)

Jealousy is a females trait! Only bitches get jealous....Case closed

stic2it

iTrader: (1)

When my ex girlfriend got jealous and told me to cut a couple of my female friends, I turn around and told her to cut some of her male friends...Like a trade, I know she wouldnt do it w/o kicking and screaming!

Moral of this story get to know or get close to some of the chealeaders or hot girls in your school. Talk to them on the phone, via email...

Are you cheating on this girl? Are you insecure?

KaMLuNg

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i think that the OP is just confused.. it could be through the changes that will be happening when going to college or whatever... but i have seen this advise being given in other threads here in D&R... you are too f'in young to have to deal with this right now... u shouldn't be stressing on how to make your g/f the more jealous one... u should be stressing on how to balance your dates throughout the week... i'm not saying go out there and hump anything that moves and contract any STDs or like that...

but what i am saying is that you need to go out there and explore your opportunities... and as others on here already said, u need to figure out what is making u act so jealous... if she did something to question your trust about her, or if you just feel insecure about yourself... you need to do something to fix it, and i am glad u r already taking your own steps to cut back on your obsession...

Costco

If ever that was a post that needed red text but didn't have it.... this is it.

Agent 47

^

ZeroCL

News: Met a chick going to same school with me. So I kind of cant wait till this current relationship is over. Yay for college. Yay for co-ed dorms. Yay for being able to sleep over someones for 3 days.

That was the most I have ever said 'yay'.

Dr. Colorado

^^Good call. You're going off to possibly the best single year of your entire life as a freshman in college. You'll meet a ton of girls ballin for your football squad so don't sweat it. Come winter break current chickie will be a distant memory and you won't be sweating minor stuff like making girls jealous

RaviNJCLs

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I think you should just break up with her.

If you have to resort to making her jeolous so she gives you attention, then the battle is lost. Just move on.

I'll say that you need to grow up, but you're 18, and hopefully you will learn as you get older that mind-fucking someone is a waste of time.

Georgiapeach

That's not true you have a lot of jealous men and most time it ends bad with some one seriously hurt or dead. Men jealousness come with rage women just come with emotions and feelings. Just my opinion and my

stic2it

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My point exactly, the exact reason why men shouldn't be jealous! Leave it all to the women!

Titand19

Who cares about her. You're year in the real world is nothing less than a couple of months to the seasoned vets. Once you hit college it's pussy galore.