Or maybe I should rephrase it...After how many dates would you wait to ask a girl out(or girls, how many dates untill your comfortable with a guy asking you out).

I'm thinking 4-5 successful dates, spread out over a few weeks

What are your opinions?

 

VERY dependent on the chemistry. For my fiancee and I, we knew it on the first date. We were friends however for years before that first date, so its a bit different.

 

I've never really asked a girl to be my girlfriend. My current g/f friend and just mutually agreed after we had been spending more and more time together.

 

I just wait until she brings it up. Usually, it's about after a month or so. If any earlier, I usually will freak out and run. However, sometimes it could just feel right off the bat if you've known each other before dating.

 

Wait for her to bring it up. And when she does, don't do this: "OMG I've been thinking about that for SO long now! YES! YES! I'll be your BF!!!!!! "

Just be cool.

 

Let me explain further.

If she's having the time of her life with you, and her interest is high, she would be dying for your commitment to her. You should only invest your emotions/resources/time/etc. on women with high interest (unless you enjoy being hurt). If you don't qualify her for high interest, you're essentially taking a gamble. It should be organic, but you should not shoot an arrow at a target and paint a bulls-eye around it.

 

There's no time... it's all about F-E-E-L-I-N-G

 

I figured that I was just curious how long it took for other people

 

A man should not ask a woman to be his. It should be the other way around. There is a shift in the natural order of things, or rather the balance of power and leadership, when you ask her. A man is to be desired and longed for...enjoy the milk until she offers the cow...let her come to you...and then if she is gf material in your eyes, accept.

But there is definitely a subtle at first, and then stark change in how she perceives you if you ask her...this is not to say that she wouldn't find you attractive at that point, just not particularly strong "alpha male" material...not if you are eating out of the palm of her hand...she will think differently about who is in charge...

So the answer to your question is you don't...you let them, and then proceed accordingly...reflection on previous relationships based on who asked first should line up with what I just said...

 

^ this may be true unless u meet a really shy chick.. so how would i go about that mr. darksom?

 

I think that most of us would love to go the Darksom route. And at some point in our lives, maybe we have. So I would have to agree.

That said, some guys are not "that guy" and some girls have the same alpha attitude.

I think that the time to start labeling either her or yourself is the moment that you both become exclusive in the relationship. Dating someone implies that you can still date someone else. Boyfriend / girlfriend implies a swift kick in the ass if you date someone else.

 

Same goes with "I love you"

 

for me, it was her who hinted she wanted to make it official. i was like sure b/c i assumed it meant sex would arrive sooner

 

post pics of girl and we will let u know

 

When she starts to swallow everytime... you know she'll be asking for your commitment...

 

Haha...don't hurt 'em playboy...and yo Rod...way to use NBP in your av on the sneak tip!

 

If you're asking because you fell for another girl you met at the club like in your other D&R thread, the answer is NEVER

 

that's true too

 

LOLLLLLL

na didnt meet her at a club

 

If she can cook and clean, ASAP lol

+ Intelligent, Ambitious, Courteous and self-respectful... Me Marry Her.

 

 

i once dated a girl for 8 months and didnt realize that i hadnt asked her to be my GF. needless to say, she resented me for it.

 

I actually don't recall asking anything. I was close friends with my current girlfriend for about a year, and one day she just grabbed my arm and said she loved me. And from there on, 4 years and still strong =D

 

At this point in my life when it's about to come to that point I end the relationship. When it's the right time for me, she should want to make it official after about a month or two. I'm not asking her.

 

most guys wil just ride along if not pressured to make a statement.

I guess the best time to ask is when she brings it up.
But I have also being in situations where u have to ask becos... some chicks do not ask directly but will do so using body languages, their actions and everything else but NOT saying the actuall words. aND WILL start to feel awkward if the guys does not ask after she feels she is pretty much put everything on the line.

true that

i think this works very welllll too but not all the time

 

Hell, a chcik once told me she was mad at her ex, for not marrying her or proposing marriage after he let him FK her in the AZZ several times.

TO, her she felt she was giving something speciAL TO HIM becos she always said No to others that asked.
Now she hates him for that.

But I said to her.. that was a stupid assumption, How do women think sometimes.........
Ok, since i have being dating this guy i like so much , I will co-sign and make his payments for a new car ( a M3 bmw) and make myseLf available at all times if i can help it and then I will let him F**K me in the az.
Then he will have to marry me becos he will have no choice..............

only to break up after she told the guy(lets not say his name) to start making payments becos she was working less hours after 7 monhnts of car payment

 

Depends on how forward she is; I never used to be a forward person when it comes to relationships, but I was with my current boyfriend, I kissed him the first time he came to meet me @ my dorm...poor guy never had a chance hahaha

 

that cqute

 

dont do it, its a trap for them to steal your heart and defecate on it.

 

when it feels right

 

not me. i like a man in charge. no one should feel pressured in either party involved. however, i would wait for the guy.

 

NEVER... if you can hit it without commitment.

 

No special formula. (.02)

 

I like a man in charge too. I wait quite a while before asking for exclusivity. I've found that it makes it's own way in for the most part. I know if I've got my mates attention, and he/she definitly knows if I'm "all in".

I don't like the whole "ownership" thing, so I never approach it that way. When it's right, we talk. I will bring it up easily and without hesitation if I have any doubt, but like amis said, I'm not gonna waist much time with anyone that hasn't proven to be worthy and very interested.

I like "real", so I am "real". No time for games.

 

On the other hand, if I'm chasing another woman, she's gonna ask. Not me.

I still need what men have....................

 

 

Sup killer?

 

Good to know us guys still have some value!