OK well long story short, there's the girl that I always talked about in all my threads from the summer and up to recent, said she needed to "take a break" i.e. break up but she still put out for a while but eventually she decided she didn't wanna hook up anymore. I figured out why, because I became the wussy, needy, obsessive guy even though i didn't want to do and that I had so perfectly avoided for 5 months. And after reading about what causes attraction and what causes loss of attraction, it's plainly obvious why she wanted to stop getting it from me. I didn't really know we were "together" til after the fact, even though we acted like it, but ill refer to her as the ex just to make it easy. Oh well that's in the past, which brings me to my actual question.

I've always been more attracted to ex's roomate than the ex, and the roomate is just the perfect type of girl that would have no reservations about getting with any guy she is feelin (even if it's her friend's or roomates ex). So I ask all you pimps, do I need to approach this one differently to maker her want the D or just treat it as she's any other girl i would want to get with (as in one-nighter or something of the sort, not relationship).

I figure don't metion the ex's name under any circumstances, but what else? Thing is, she knows both the good and the bad sides of me. (she knows i must be doing something right in bed if my thing with the ex lasted that long, but i hope she doesnt think im needy or want a relationship, cuz she def. doesnt ) Basically what im asking is, do i change my game up for the ex's roomate, just because she's the ex's roomate?

Oh pics will follow later tonight once i get some good advice but will only be up for a couple days

(please don't give me crap about how this is taboo, she's the one that broke up with me and said 'i dont care who you hook up with.' im not gonna rub it in her face, and it will be stricktly for my own personal pleasure)

 

I cannot speak for all women but a lot of us think that it is not appropriate to hook up with a friend's ex (the same way that you guys would have 2nd thoughts getting on with your boy's ex).

So even if your roommate likes you as well, there is low probability that she will respond to your advances out of respect for your ex (especially if they are close).

 

Yeah I see your point but when alcohol enters into the equation, which is the only time i would think about making a move, all that can go out the window. If my boy kicked some bitch to the curb and started hookin up with other people, i wouldnt have a problem getting with his old girl, at least while i was shitfaced

 

hit it and quit it. no one has to know

 

Hooking up with the roommate? Wasn't there a thread like this before? Roommates can't be done, even friends are tough, but at least they don't have to see your ex girl everyday.

 

I beg to differ.

 

Bastard, hahaha. How did you do it?

 

girlfriend went on semester abroad (we broke up when she left)... one night I went out with mutual friends of ours, one of whom was her roommate. ended up hooking up with her over the next couple months.

so while we were hooking up I guess they weren't technically roommates, since my first girl was out of town. she ended up finding out eventually and flipped out on me though.

 

nice, rep pts added. and as promised, pics are here, (just for a short time)

the ex is the blond on the left, roomate is the tan brunette to her immediate right:

 

Not true. Hooked up with teh ex bf's suitemate at college. Was def. worth it.

 

Sorry doesn't count no but seriously it's different for guys and girls.

 

does not apply to girls.

 

i went from dating my buddies sister to my other buddies ex. niether if them cause any issue i still talk to both of them.

 

You're using the wrong analogy, though. Imagine if you kicked the first girl to the curb, you'd already started hooking up with other people, and then your roommate went after her. Would you be pissed? I think every situation is different, so if you wouldn't, then you probably weren't that serious with the first girl and it wouldn't be a big deal.

But I wouldn't do it anyway if you ever even want to have a hook up thing with the first girl. You've already had your hand stamped with the first girl, she should be a reliable drunk dial booty call. If you try to hook up with the second and the first one gets pissed then you won't have that with either one of them.

 

why not give it a try, can't hurt. Only problem might be that they probably talked alot about you while you were dating, so she might have told her all that stuff about you being needy and obsessive. so here is your chance to prove her wrong. good luck.

 

well she coulda told her about how good/bad you are in bed too... so youll just have to find out.

 

ive had... still having my ex room mates ex gf she said one day she saw me go into the room w my ex gf and we were in there for hours gettin it on and she got jealous kux her man(my ex roommie) was a 5 min man. and she always wondered wut it would be like to be with me. well one day she hit me up on aim and it was on. 2 days later i was all up on that.. and she said i was 100x better than he was.

 

Damn, Mike! You like em on the thick side, don't you?

 

Haha, I keep tryin to tell myself i like skinny girls, but it seems i always end up with the thicker ones (read: not fat, just with ghetto booties). It's not all bad though, more cushion for the pushin Also i swear she gained 5-10 lbs throughout the time we were seeing each other, which i wasnt thrilled about.

 

Is that you being sandwiched?

 

Oh hell no. I'm like 5'8 170 lbs that's me on the right:

 

Unfortunately, due to my missteps, this is no longer an option. Yeah i wouldnt mind hookin up with her again, but im not gonna hold out for something that probably wont happen

 

From the previous pic, your ex girl looks a lot better than her roommate so I don't think you should bother. Your gf might have some meat on her, but you can still see her facial structure, where as her roommate looks like the pillsbury dough boy. Don't do it, Mike, your x gf is a better piece of ass.

 

I see your point, but like I said, it's pretty much a lost cause now with the ex (i mean if something happens with the ex it does, but im not gonna be too optimistic). Here's some better pics of the roommate...I know the ex is pretty, but maybe it's just me, but ive always been more attracted to the roommate since like freshman year, "diff'rent strokes for diff'rent folks" i guess.

 

Unlike others who couldn't produce, you get points for putting pics up.

 

One more thing: the deal with that Tiffany's shit. When i first noticed it i was like "damn, tiffany's.....damn" haha, but then i did some research and realized a)all her junk isn't that expensive, like $150-200 or so per item b)it's fucking ugly IMO, c) everyone else and their sister seems to be rockin it now and it seems to be played out. I mean i didnt mind her having it, i would just always hear "damn your girl has tiffany's" and i was like "yeah, so what, who cares"

 

someone drank a little too much.

 

What's that red shit in her eye?

 

It was just red eye, i looked at some other pics in the album and, well, someone doesn't know how to use a digicam haha. (Some are a lot worse)

 

Well get this shit: i havent heard from the ex in 3 weeks or so and all of a sudden last night she IM's me to say hi then gets to "what you up to playboy...come drink with me!" i could tell she wasnt wasted, but definitely buzzed. if i had nothing better to do, i honestly dont know what i would have done, but I did have homework to do plus i had to get up in 5 hrs. So i told her that and she was like 'well whatever.' So i asked her what she was drinkin, etc. and she said 'stop asking questions unless youre gonna join me.' then i said i had to go and i'd talk to her later Her response: 'later on i guess, bye.'

I thought all the confusion was over, and we were both moving on, but apparantly she's still confused. I dunno what to think, i guess ill just play it cool and milk that shit for what its worth.

Oh im gonna have to take the pics down tonight, just to be safe

 

sounds like the ex was just lookin for play. and she got all pissed when u didnt jump all over it.

 

Now today she says this: "um dont worry about what i said last nite, that was dumb. it wouldnt have been a good idea anyways." I haven't responded yet, and I think i might not, but geezus what do you say to that? I would like to say 'what the hell is going on in your head, get your shit together.' Or maybe 'youre just embarrassed cuz i didnt jump all over it.' I still wanna keep the upper hand here, since i kinda won it back by turning her down (even though i HAD too, i didnt have a choice this time).

 

Don't stress, Mike. Where's my points, man?

 

You're aiming to low, dude! Try for a 3 way with your ex and the roomates ex!!!!

 

HAHA i asked for that a long time ago, and she got pissed off, REALLY pissed off, i.e. "look, if you wanna be w/ someone else, then be w/ someone else," so it has been tried before.

 

I say you hook up with the roomate. She's pretty cute and has nice ta tas.

 

Well the ex decided she wants it again for some reason. She came to my 21st bday party and it's been on since then haha....but im not gonna get all caught up again so im just chillin with that for now.

 

She wants "it" again...? What's the "it"???

 

Well besides my c*ck just being around me, chillin, and talking to me. I guess she forgot what she was missin out on when we saw each other for the first time in a while. I act a lot differently around her now too, she knows im not comin on too strong.