visuelz

It's been 4 years since I broke up with my ex and I am still single. So what should a 20 year old guy like me do?

CL FWD SPEED

mingle and put yourself out there and you would probably meet someone....I wouldn't recommend escorts......

CUNextTuesday

You lookin for a relationship?

I mean if you're just lookin for some play it's really not that difficult at our age, you just gotta get out there.

visuelz

I do get out there but I don't like to go drinking nor clubbing so I guess I'm not so lucky. I am pretty shy too when it comes to talking to girls. Relationships or fun is good! =D

michimonster

Stop trying. Thats when things happen. Cliche? yes. Truth? double yes. youre in ny. there are chicks everywhere

CUNextTuesday

There's plenty of other ways to meet girls...kind of just randomly anywhere really. The shy thing is tough though, maybe you should start to like drinking so ya come out of your shell a lil bit? haha

visuelz

I'm really picky though. I prefer an asian chick at least 5'5" with long straight hair who look decent. Yeah, it's pretty down to the list...I tried to be more open but I can't stand that a lot of asian girls are short.

I've tried that and I think it works for the night but the next day is like...what the hell happened?

michimonster

most asian chicks all look the same

CUNextTuesday

ha I guess you're lookin for a lil more than a one night thing...go with what Michiraces2much says. Just being yourself and not coming on too strong always seems to work out well.

michimonster

mr. wu,
the best thing you can do for yourself is to be open to new things and let your guard down. the shy thing will just fall away. be yourself.

visuelz

Haha please call me Kevin...I feel old being called that. When I am with friends, I am such a party animal. I usually go bowling at Hudson on Saturdays. Lots of asian chicks there but the thing is that it is usually hard to meet girls. A lot of them are usually with guys. At the bar, it's hard to just walk up to a girl and talk to her because the guys and girls with her would be like what the heck.

michimonster

Bowling wow. rock out with your cock out. those shoes are sure to score some worthy poonanie. seriously stop trying, but if you must make it that random cute girl you see at the store or the library, etc

visuelz

Haha you're pretty darn funny. I'll be at the club this friday to see what's going on.

michimonster

If youre looking to stick it in a gas station bathroom ont he way back to her place, then yeah try the club. Bitches look probably 30 times better in daylight though.

visuelz

Mainly the reason why I try is that the college I am in is a male dominated college. It's 80% male and 20% female.

michimonster

i see. you dont leave the school grounds ever? see what i mean. dont try to date people you work or go to school with. then it gets awkward whensomething goes wrong or she gives you herpes and you have to be lab partners or something

visuelz

Oh gee that really sucks...it was a really big change. I went from a 85% female high school to a 20% female college.

Actually, I do leave school once it's over because it sucks there. Nothing fun to do.

Split_TL

I think you should move to Hawaii, alot of nice asian chicks

thatguy

hang out with titand19

CUNextTuesday

hahahaha

Yeah I don't know if meeting girls while bowling has ever been the way to go.

Just don't try to hard n see what comes your way.

Whiskers

Trade places with me....

Ken1997TL

Best advice IMO

stic2it

iTrader: (1)

Lol, my philosophy is, you don't put in only one application when you're in need of a job. Get out there and put in as many applications as possible. You're sure to get at least one call back. I use this everytime I'm out looking for some girls. It works if you're looking for a one night stand or a good girl to take home to mom.

sasha

Kevin, you are still young so focus on your studies. There will be a lot of opportunities for you to meet other people especially once you graduate and you can easily expand your social circle. Just continue to do what you like to do during your free time and be friendly. As some people already pointed out, you'll find someone when you least expect it.

RaviNJCLs

iTrader: (4)

What do you enjoy doing? Forget about what you think you should be doing. I hated clubbing. IMO, it's way too expensive. As far as drinking, you can still hang out in places without drinking. Also, never met a single woman at a club.

Here's an idea....I joined a pool league. I met a ton of cool people, men and women. Dated a couple girls I met through leagues and met my wife through it. You do not have to be a good player to join. If for nothing else, it will get your out there.

Also check out http://www.zogsports.org if you're interested in sports. The teams are usually co-ed.

And if all that doesn't interest you and you don't want to hang out with titand19, then try a dating service.

visuelz

Who's this titand89 guy I've been hearing about? It seems like he's can get a lot of girls...haha. I love sports by the way so I'll look into that.

RaviNJCLs

iTrader: (4)

He's a NYC man whore.

Zog Sports was cool. I played indoor soccer through them. It's a really cool way to meet people. Not sure you'll meet a ton of Asian women, but it will at least get you out there.

IMO Asian women = Pool hall.

visuelz

Oh...haha I will see what kind of skills he has. I am actually pretty decent in pool. Maybe I'll start going to the pool halls again. Does anyone in NYC want to go too? I usually go to ones in Brooklyn named Ovington.

RaviNJCLs

iTrader: (4)

I'm out of the NY area, but I know of a couple guys that have teams out there. I can see if they are looking for new players.

If you head into Manhattan, I can recommend a couple places to play, and also may be able to see if I can hook you up on a team. The only problem is your age. Since these are mostly bar leagues, you need to be 21. But, they never check ID to sign up.

visuelz

Thanks a lot! I'll be willing to go to the city since it's only a 15 min drive from Brooklyn at night or I could take the train.

whynot

So you're asian, shy, don't like drinking or clubbing... I don't see what the problem is then, any woman looking for a door mat would be happy to use your services

visuelz

Oh gee doc, is the diagnostic really that bad?

whynot

it doesn't have to be... and I wasn't really trying to insult you. it just seems you have a very conservative lifestyle for a 20yr old...

visuelz

Haha I didn't mean to bite. I was just kidding with you. I guess one reason I am living this way is because my parents are chinese!

BustedJack

Are you a funny dude? By that I mean humorous. Chicks dig funny dude...... of course being good looking helps. If you have neither of them,......... then I hope you're super rich.

visuelz

I may not have other qualities but one thing that I do have is that I am really funny. there is hope!

Ken1997TL

Is the home life that bad?

RaviNJCLs

iTrader: (4)

Seriously.

visuelz

Recently something happened to me that just leaves me breathless.

A couple of months ago, I was walking down the hallway of my work place and I saw this really cute asian chick I was interested in. I saw her go into the Equity across across from my office (Treasury). So I was thinking about her for the rest of the day. The week after I saw her again as I left the room and she was in the same elevator as me. I saw her look at me a few times and I think she's interested. Then after that she disappeared and I haven't seen her till yesterday when I went for lunch. I walked to the HSBC that was 3 blocks away from my work place to get money to buy food. Once I was done with the ATM machine I turned around and she was right there looking. I froze for a second because I didn't think I would see her again. Surprises just happens to happen all the time for me.

CUNextTuesday

Hey, asshole, all those chances and you never said a word?