I agree.. and in my situation, my friend is helping me a lot. She tells them what she thinks to be my strong characteristics and attractive stuff.

 

Upon another look, i have to say that this whole situation either has to go really good for you (as in you nail the whole house eventually) or very badly (as in Girl A living with your good friend causing irrepairable jealousy issues).

 

Could you guys go to a football game together maybe? That's 3 hrs she's forced to be around you, and if roomate B isn't around, all the better.

 

You can keep roommate B busy, but the question is, for how long? If she's negative about men, I highly doubt that she's gonna be receptive to any male suitors. So, setting her up won't do the trick.

I think the only thing you can do in this situation is to remain a nice guy. Don't say or do anything that will make you look like an ass to both of them. Remember, just be yourself and hope that the girl you're interested in will see you for who you really are and not care about what her friend thinks of you. And that's hoping you're really a nice guy! HAHA

Good luck

 

Oh yes, we definitely can tell most of the time when a guy is interested in us. I sometimes try to play it cool and try to feel out if the guy is really interested in me, and if there are signs that he really is, then I give him a little hint that I'm intersted in him too. Sometimes guys need a green light to help them out on their macking skills. HAHA The ones who aren't as agressive are the ones most girls tend to fall for and the ones who are overly agressive are the ones we don't care for.

All I gotta say is, it's all in the approach. Your best bet is to proceed with caution.

 

is roommate B fat and/or ugly? That's seems to always be the case in my personal experience... being cockblock'd by the fat and/or ugly fat friend that's jealous or something

 

Yohan.. good luck bro. How old is roomate B?

 

For you, yes.

 

Um not :ghey: but :incest: Get your facts straight.

 

Ok for a serious response, why don't you just take out the girl you like since one of the roommates backs you up. If the mean girl gets in the way, then it is up to the girl you like to decide if she is going to continue "dating" you or let the mean roommate influence her decisions.

If she lets the mean roommate influence her decisions then it isn't worth pursuing the girl you like. I know you said you have feelings for her, but if a girl gets influenced that easy, then IMO it is a waste of time.

So, take her on a date, and see what happens.

 

 

roommate B is skinny and not ugly.. she's not really my type, but my friend told me guys find her attractive

roommate B is 22.. thanks Donald

 

I was going to ask the same thing.


Now that we know she isn't a cow, there must be something that happened to her in the past to make her bitter. Ex-boyfriend cheat on her or something...?

 

I always remember meeting these 2 Australian chicks visiting California, one was hawt (and nice) the other one was fat (and a bitch)... they didn't have a car... came up to ask about the local hot spots... so I started talking to them (with other intensions of course) the cute one was totally going with the flow... but the fat one got all weirded out and started interrupting and saying stuff like... ...yeah, yeah... we got it from here, we'll find our way around, thanks They walked away, and I caught the cute one turning around giving me a look... as if she had no saying in it

 

yes, do not put the pu$$y on a pedestal as per 40 year old virgin...btw, in regards to is300eater's post, is chick b nasty? is that why she's a hater?

 

he said no...

 

ah..missed that post.

 

I think the longer you discuss this and not act in some way, you are moving further and further into the friend zone.

You need to be a bit more up-front on how you feel. If the girl likes you then it will work out, even with Roommate B blocking you. And if she goes ahead and listens to her roommate, then do you really want to be with someone that easily influenced and not able to form her own decisions?

 

with Ravi, every day that goes by without action is a HUGE chunk out of your manly credibility...

 

my friend told me that roommate B has a super high standard on guys...

it's been only one day since I posted this... so No, I don't think we'll fall into the friend zone anytime soon




maybe I didn't say this before... but it hasn't been that long since I met my friend's roommates.. so the rommate B hasn't gotten in my way yet since neither of the rommates know what's going on.. they just know me as a friend of their roommate.. it's just that my friend warned me once I make my move to roommate A, roommate B might be the biggest obstacle

 

High standards? She sounds like a giant coutlangus if you ask me.

 

That's how one of my friends is with girls....and he's bitter, hates life, and shocker hasn't been laid in over 2 years.

 

honestly, man, i don't think it's really this will be that big of a problem for you.

1. your friend is working for you
2. roommates A and B already know you and so far, they think you're a pretty cool guy, no?
3. like what ravi said, if and when roommate B finds out that you like roommate A and heavily influence A's decision, you're probably better off not pursuing her.

i think you're in a good spot right now. at this point, i don't think your chances are slimming just because you haven't done anything yet. but time is wasting, which i'm sure you know already.

do you know when the last time roommate A was in a relationship? just asking because that may influence her decision too.

 

what I would do is, when hanging out with the 2 girls... actually give a little more attention to roommate B, this will do 2 things... 1) Roommate B will (or should) drop her guard at least a little bit.
2) Roommate A might get a little jealous

 

here is what you do get an a-z-er to run interfierance and you suggest a double date with both roomates to say a movie or something to where the focus wont be conversation or staring at eachother then you and roomate A ditch roomate B for a solo date while the a-z-er running interferance shows her a good time and takes one for the team. of course you should cover the a-z-ers expensises in percentage of thier liking of roomate B ie feels like the morning after but its the night before then you pay for booze food gas and morning after pill if need be but hey if a-z-er likes B then a simple "hey thanks" should suffice.

 

I was told that it's been a while...


That's what I did last time. I almost thought roommate B was interested in me...

 

so do i send roommate B to Italy or do I send you the flight ticket?

 

Buy the new kanye west album, "Graduation", and jam to it with her.

 

yea what he said.

but tell me afterwards what he said with appropriate commas and periods.

 

so I went out with my friend and the girl today.. yes, roommate B was home, because she needed to fix her computer (some guy came over to help)

cliff notes:
-we went to Japan town in SF
-we ate dinner, some crepe, and took pictures around
-we went to ocean beach and walked

I wanted to keep today casual and friend-level hang out since my friend was there. It'll probably the last one like this, because I'm going to ask her out next week. Overall, today was a fun time.

 

good for you.

now let's see pictures!

 

dam u move fast, lol... glad u had a nice day man.. pics of roomateB plz =)

 

 

and friend and roommate A please.

 

That's good. And yes, ask the girl out next time because you have to make it clear that you are interested in her and not in the roommate. If you show genuine interest and appear like a nice guy, you might get a stamp of approval... unless the roommate thought that you like her all along, will get pissed, and cock block you.

 

I don't think it's possible for the girl to think I'm interested in roommate B. At the current status, the worst situation is that she sees me as a nice guy/friend. She seems to see me as a nice, genuine, and humorous guy. A big thanks to my friend. Let's just see where it goes when we actually go on a date next week.



Regarding the pictures, I'll think about it later when she actually becomes my gf or when I totally ruin this somehow.

 

Now seal the deal on your date

 

Smooth as a jewel, Yohan. Now continue the initiative with honor and diplomacy, slow and steady wins the race. (crossed fingers for ya)

P.S. Say hi to Japantown, S.F., for me next time you're there. Used to go to the sushi bar with the boats allllll the time (many years ago, now that I think of it).

 

it's almost 3am. and i'm writing to update my fellow aziners >.<

today, i had a first one-on-one date with the girl (her name is Joyce by the way).

(saturday night over messaging)
-i asked her if she's free for dinner
-she replied she'll ask her roommate (my friend, her name is "Ju")
-i told her, No, I want to meet just me and you
-she said ok

(sunday night)
-we had dinner at some casual eating place/restaurant
-a lot of talk during this time. no awkwardness whatsoever
-we drove around to get some coffee and to find a nice view area where we can park and i can fix her laptop (yes, one of the purpose of seeing her is to help her fix her laptop)
-spend 30 minutes fixing (and talking at the same time.. she looked at my eyes when we were talking i noticed) unfortunately, i couldn't fix her computer, but we decided to reinstall OS
-we head back to give her ride home, and found out she has a desk and a chair she bought from Ikea to set up. i told her i could help, she said ok
-spend some time doing the man work, while talking/having fun with all 3 girls

(after coming home, found out from conversation with Ju)
-it's apparent all of them knows i'm trying to get joyce now
-roommate B (her name is Nina) and Ju talked about me while Joyce was out
-Nina agrees I'm a good person and she is almost becoming a supporter like Ju


I asked her let's go to Stanford coming saturday. She first said okay, but later, she said she has a lot to study, so she may not be able to go. She told me she'd let me know in the mid week.

(Ju told me Joyce asked Nina to come alone [doh] and Nina told Joyce maybe. Ju will try to talk to Nina carefully. let's just home Joyce will still go alone with me)



I hope this one is a good update =)

 

Sounds good....If she had a Mac, you would have been worse off.....