Help...Need advice. Soooooo Hurt.
05-30-2004, 09:18 AM
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Help...Need advice. Soooooo Hurt.
Help Guys.. I need some advice. This story might be pretty long but if anyone has time to read im desperate. I don't know what to do and I can barely breathe right now. I'll tell the story first and then pose the problem.
Ive been dating a guy for 5 months now (were friends for 5 years prior) and aside from the occasional fight things seemed to be going pretty well. I had watched him cheat on girlfriends in the past so I went into this relationship with very little trust although he assured me that he loved me and would never dream of hurting me. We hang out every single day and have sex every single day so I pretty much thought that cheating was non-existant. Until Friday when he got a phone call from a girl and was acting real real shady like saying "who is this" and "you have the wrong number" when I could hear her saying his name repeatedly. He hung up on her and she called back and i grabbed the phone and asked who was calling. She asked who I was and said "i didnt know he had a girlfriend he never told me. We talk once in a while and he comes over and we have sex. We talk a few times a month and maybe hang out once a month" How is this possible when i see him every day? He last called her on sunday after we just watched the sopranos like we do every sunday and then i went home and went to bed because i have work in the morning. She told me he called her at 12 o clock and said I'll be at your house in a half hour. He went to her house and had sex with her. He denied everything. I asked her to prove what she was saying and she told me to look at his call phone bill. I will see that he called her numerous time in the month of may alone. He denied everything. Said he never saw her, never called her etc. Next day we went online looked at the records and everything she said proved to be true. After getting caught in enough lies he admitted to everything. I dont even know what to do with myself. I know i should tell him to go fuck himself but Ive grown so close to him from hanging out every single day that I actually miss him and want to still hang out. He says he will do anything possible to make it up to me and prove how sorry he is and that it will never happen again (not that I believe it) but i dont think that there is anything he can do. I still want to hang out and see him all the time and I want him to keep calling because we have so much fun together.
Do I forgive him and continue to date him?
Tell him he is a piece of shit and he can go fuck himself?
Or stay friends because theres no chance hes ever having sex with me again and I have fun hanging out with him?
Does anyone know anything that he or I can do to justify this?
If anyone replies to this long ass thread I really really appreciate it. And if i used this forum a little more often I would probably know how to post a poll.
Ive been dating a guy for 5 months now (were friends for 5 years prior) and aside from the occasional fight things seemed to be going pretty well. I had watched him cheat on girlfriends in the past so I went into this relationship with very little trust although he assured me that he loved me and would never dream of hurting me. We hang out every single day and have sex every single day so I pretty much thought that cheating was non-existant. Until Friday when he got a phone call from a girl and was acting real real shady like saying "who is this" and "you have the wrong number" when I could hear her saying his name repeatedly. He hung up on her and she called back and i grabbed the phone and asked who was calling. She asked who I was and said "i didnt know he had a girlfriend he never told me. We talk once in a while and he comes over and we have sex. We talk a few times a month and maybe hang out once a month" How is this possible when i see him every day? He last called her on sunday after we just watched the sopranos like we do every sunday and then i went home and went to bed because i have work in the morning. She told me he called her at 12 o clock and said I'll be at your house in a half hour. He went to her house and had sex with her. He denied everything. I asked her to prove what she was saying and she told me to look at his call phone bill. I will see that he called her numerous time in the month of may alone. He denied everything. Said he never saw her, never called her etc. Next day we went online looked at the records and everything she said proved to be true. After getting caught in enough lies he admitted to everything. I dont even know what to do with myself. I know i should tell him to go fuck himself but Ive grown so close to him from hanging out every single day that I actually miss him and want to still hang out. He says he will do anything possible to make it up to me and prove how sorry he is and that it will never happen again (not that I believe it) but i dont think that there is anything he can do. I still want to hang out and see him all the time and I want him to keep calling because we have so much fun together.
Do I forgive him and continue to date him?
Tell him he is a piece of shit and he can go fuck himself?
Or stay friends because theres no chance hes ever having sex with me again and I have fun hanging out with him?
Does anyone know anything that he or I can do to justify this?
If anyone replies to this long ass thread I really really appreciate it. And if i used this forum a little more often I would probably know how to post a poll.
05-30-2004, 11:08 AM
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Leopard's & Cheeta's don't change their spots. You should have known from the beginning if you have seen him do it before. Drop him like a hot potato, let him skank around somewhere else. You deserve better.
05-30-2004, 12:28 PM
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im thinking you like to make yourself feel like this. you even admitted that you knew in the past what he has done to other girls, but yet you ignored the fact that it can happen and you didnt think about your feelings.
once a cheater, always a cheater, didnt anyone ever tell you that. dont like some sweet dude talk you into shit. its all sweet talk baby.
you put yourself in this position, now its time to get out. seriously, now if you stay with him, the trust part is going to be much harder now then it was before, and sad to say, he will prob most likely do it again.
i would drop his ass like a bad habit. youve prob been crying alot and you said it yourself, it is hard to breathe. do you wanna feel like this when your with some guy that did this to you. i dont care how many fun times you have had, no guy should cheat, but it will never happen that way.
i say get out, cool down a bit, and just stay kind of friends. its sad to say he would even do this to one of his friends and not some randoms. he has no repect for you, DONT LET HIM TALK YOU INTO IT.
if you need anything more, hit me up on IM unc0808.
once a cheater, always a cheater, didnt anyone ever tell you that. dont like some sweet dude talk you into shit. its all sweet talk baby.
you put yourself in this position, now its time to get out. seriously, now if you stay with him, the trust part is going to be much harder now then it was before, and sad to say, he will prob most likely do it again.
i would drop his ass like a bad habit. youve prob been crying alot and you said it yourself, it is hard to breathe. do you wanna feel like this when your with some guy that did this to you. i dont care how many fun times you have had, no guy should cheat, but it will never happen that way.
i say get out, cool down a bit, and just stay kind of friends. its sad to say he would even do this to one of his friends and not some randoms. he has no repect for you, DONT LET HIM TALK YOU INTO IT.
if you need anything more, hit me up on IM unc0808.
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Re: Help...Need advice. Soooooo Hurt.
Originally posted by KissHis Type S
Help Guys.. I need some advice. This story might be pretty long but if anyone has time to read im desperate. I don't know what to do and I can barely breathe right now. I'll tell the story first and then pose the problem.
Ive been dating a guy for 5 months now (were friends for 5 years prior) and aside from the occasional fight things seemed to be going pretty well. I had watched him cheat on girlfriends in the past so I went into this relationship with very little trust although he assured me that he loved me and would never dream of hurting me. We hang out every single day and have sex every single day so I pretty much thought that cheating was non-existant. Until Friday when he got a phone call from a girl and was acting real real shady like saying "who is this" and "you have the wrong number" when I could hear her saying his name repeatedly. He hung up on her and she called back and i grabbed the phone and asked who was calling. She asked who I was and said "i didnt know he had a girlfriend he never told me. We talk once in a while and he comes over and we have sex. We talk a few times a month and maybe hang out once a month" How is this possible when i see him every day? He last called her on sunday after we just watched the sopranos like we do every sunday and then i went home and went to bed because i have work in the morning. She told me he called her at 12 o clock and said I'll be at your house in a half hour. He went to her house and had sex with her. He denied everything. I asked her to prove what she was saying and she told me to look at his call phone bill. I will see that he called her numerous time in the month of may alone. He denied everything. Said he never saw her, never called her etc. Next day we went online looked at the records and everything she said proved to be true. After getting caught in enough lies he admitted to everything. I dont even know what to do with myself. I know i should tell him to go fuck himself but Ive grown so close to him from hanging out every single day that I actually miss him and want to still hang out. He says he will do anything possible to make it up to me and prove how sorry he is and that it will never happen again (not that I believe it) but i dont think that there is anything he can do. I still want to hang out and see him all the time and I want him to keep calling because we have so much fun together.
Do I forgive him and continue to date him?
Tell him he is a piece of shit and he can go fuck himself?
Or stay friends because theres no chance hes ever having sex with me again and I have fun hanging out with him?
Does anyone know anything that he or I can do to justify this?
If anyone replies to this long ass thread I really really appreciate it. And if i used this forum a little more often I would probably know how to post a poll.
Help Guys.. I need some advice. This story might be pretty long but if anyone has time to read im desperate. I don't know what to do and I can barely breathe right now. I'll tell the story first and then pose the problem.
Ive been dating a guy for 5 months now (were friends for 5 years prior) and aside from the occasional fight things seemed to be going pretty well. I had watched him cheat on girlfriends in the past so I went into this relationship with very little trust although he assured me that he loved me and would never dream of hurting me. We hang out every single day and have sex every single day so I pretty much thought that cheating was non-existant. Until Friday when he got a phone call from a girl and was acting real real shady like saying "who is this" and "you have the wrong number" when I could hear her saying his name repeatedly. He hung up on her and she called back and i grabbed the phone and asked who was calling. She asked who I was and said "i didnt know he had a girlfriend he never told me. We talk once in a while and he comes over and we have sex. We talk a few times a month and maybe hang out once a month" How is this possible when i see him every day? He last called her on sunday after we just watched the sopranos like we do every sunday and then i went home and went to bed because i have work in the morning. She told me he called her at 12 o clock and said I'll be at your house in a half hour. He went to her house and had sex with her. He denied everything. I asked her to prove what she was saying and she told me to look at his call phone bill. I will see that he called her numerous time in the month of may alone. He denied everything. Said he never saw her, never called her etc. Next day we went online looked at the records and everything she said proved to be true. After getting caught in enough lies he admitted to everything. I dont even know what to do with myself. I know i should tell him to go fuck himself but Ive grown so close to him from hanging out every single day that I actually miss him and want to still hang out. He says he will do anything possible to make it up to me and prove how sorry he is and that it will never happen again (not that I believe it) but i dont think that there is anything he can do. I still want to hang out and see him all the time and I want him to keep calling because we have so much fun together.
Do I forgive him and continue to date him?
Tell him he is a piece of shit and he can go fuck himself?
Or stay friends because theres no chance hes ever having sex with me again and I have fun hanging out with him?
Does anyone know anything that he or I can do to justify this?
If anyone replies to this long ass thread I really really appreciate it. And if i used this forum a little more often I would probably know how to post a poll.
05-30-2004, 05:47 PM
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Get rid of him. You do not deserve to be treated like that. Trust me, I just found out that my boyfriend of almost a year cheated on me last weekend.
He basically showed you that he has no respect for you. You've got to move on, you are way too good for him. There are soo many other guys out there, and I'm sure there will someone that deserves you.
He basically showed you that he has no respect for you. You've got to move on, you are way too good for him. There are soo many other guys out there, and I'm sure there will someone that deserves you.
who is it?
05-30-2004, 06:56 PM
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KissHis Type S is/was the girlfriend of
KissMy_Type_S.
KissHis Type S is/was the girlfriend of
KissMy_Type_S.
05-30-2004, 10:33 PM
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Re: Re: Help...Need advice. Soooooo Hurt.
Originally posted by KissMy_Type_S
Well I kinda figured this would be here... Its me the guy shes talking about and Im ashamed to admit to it. All of your posts are 100% accurate. Erin was the love of my life and I did the stupidest thing possible. Im truly sorry and I dont deserve you. I would however still also like to be your friend and I want to see you too, but I also understand if that isnt possible. Again Im sorry for all the hurt I caused you, I know words cant help you heal now but hopefully time will.
Well I kinda figured this would be here... Its me the guy shes talking about and Im ashamed to admit to it. All of your posts are 100% accurate. Erin was the love of my life and I did the stupidest thing possible. Im truly sorry and I dont deserve you. I would however still also like to be your friend and I want to see you too, but I also understand if that isnt possible. Again Im sorry for all the hurt I caused you, I know words cant help you heal now but hopefully time will.
interesting to hear the other side.
well.. All I can say is if youre truly sorry for hurting her, let her go..
if you try to remain friends youre just going to remind her of the hurt and if she still has feelings shes going to want you back. just cut if off and let her go, let her heal, and let her be with someone who wont tear her heart up
05-31-2004, 01:10 AM
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Originally posted by KissMy_Type_S
Well I kinda figured this would be here... Its me the guy shes talking about and Im ashamed to admit to it. All of your posts are 100% accurate. Erin was the love of my life and I did the stupidest thing possible. Im truly sorry and I dont deserve you. I would however still also like to be your friend and I want to see you too, but I also understand if that isnt possible. Again Im sorry for all the hurt I caused you, I know words cant help you heal now but hopefully time will.
Well I kinda figured this would be here... Its me the guy shes talking about and Im ashamed to admit to it. All of your posts are 100% accurate. Erin was the love of my life and I did the stupidest thing possible. Im truly sorry and I dont deserve you. I would however still also like to be your friend and I want to see you too, but I also understand if that isnt possible. Again Im sorry for all the hurt I caused you, I know words cant help you heal now but hopefully time will.
05-31-2004, 09:32 AM
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Re: Re: Re: Help...Need advice. Soooooo Hurt.
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interesting to hear the other side.
well.. All I can say is if youre truly sorry for hurting her, let her go..
if you try to remain friends youre just going to remind her of the hurt and if she still has feelings shes going to want you back. just cut if off and let her go, let her heal, and let her be with someone who wont tear her heart up
interesting to hear the other side.
well.. All I can say is if youre truly sorry for hurting her, let her go..
if you try to remain friends youre just going to remind her of the hurt and if she still has feelings shes going to want you back. just cut if off and let her go, let her heal, and let her be with someone who wont tear her heart up
05-31-2004, 01:20 PM
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Re: Re: Re: Re: Help...Need advice. Soooooo Hurt.
Originally posted by KissMy_Type_S
We've had such a past and have known each other for so long I cant just throw that away. I understand time is needed and thats fine and your all right I dont deserve her. She was the greatest thing to ever happen to me and I will regret this for the rest of my life knowing NO ONE will ever measure up to her. I am sick to my stomach everyday knowing the hurt I caused Erin and I cant even stand that I did it. I just pray for the day when she can forgive me enough to talk to me because I already miss her so very much. All of you can continue with the "yea right heard that before" but if you all knew what I had and lost you would genuinely feel the same.
We've had such a past and have known each other for so long I cant just throw that away. I understand time is needed and thats fine and your all right I dont deserve her. She was the greatest thing to ever happen to me and I will regret this for the rest of my life knowing NO ONE will ever measure up to her. I am sick to my stomach everyday knowing the hurt I caused Erin and I cant even stand that I did it. I just pray for the day when she can forgive me enough to talk to me because I already miss her so very much. All of you can continue with the "yea right heard that before" but if you all knew what I had and lost you would genuinely feel the same.
Man.... how come ppl never ever appreciate until they lose it?? dude, if you really love her, i guess let her go... Erin.... i wish you the best.. it will be hard at first...really really hard.. but time will heal everything...
that's why you gotta learn to appreciate the man/woman next to you and no do things to ruin it and later regret.... treatt hem the way you want to be treated!!
05-31-2004, 02:46 PM
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Originally posted by KissHis Type S
I hate you
I hate you
Besides, we are all human and it is normal to make mistakes. You obviously care for him and love him. So why not, Kiss His TypeS and make up?
If he fucks u over again, then you can hate him. Sometimes we just gotta be the bigger person and learn to forgive. you will be suprised, people CAN change.
Just keep your hopes up.
05-31-2004, 02:50 PM
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Originally posted by mr. big
Dont say that erin, u know its not true.
Besides, we are all human and it is normal to make mistakes. You obviously care for him and love him. So why not, Kiss His TypeS and make up?
If he fucks u over again, then you can hate him. Sometimes we just gotta be the bigger person and learn to forgive. you will be suprised, people CAN change.
Just keep your hopes up.
Dont say that erin, u know its not true.
Besides, we are all human and it is normal to make mistakes. You obviously care for him and love him. So why not, Kiss His TypeS and make up?
If he fucks u over again, then you can hate him. Sometimes we just gotta be the bigger person and learn to forgive. you will be suprised, people CAN change.
Just keep your hopes up.
i mean.. its gotta be true that she loves him, otherwise she wont be hurt so much........... but its gonna be hard to work on the trust issue............ no trust = no relationship
05-31-2004, 03:14 PM
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Yeah if someone cheats on you they don't truly love you. Or if they break up with you, and you find out they are seeing someone right away then they really don't love you. I guess it depends on each different couple but if you go from happy to thinking they loved you to them breaking up with you, and you find out their friends are setting them up with new people left and right and they are going for it then their heart was never true to begin with. I love the ones that tell people that they still love them, but break up with them. What a cowardly cop out.
06-01-2004, 11:09 AM
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Originally posted by mr. big
So why not, Kiss His TypeS and make up?
If he fucks u over again, then you can hate him. Sometimes we just gotta be the bigger person and learn to forgive. you will be suprised, people CAN change.
Just keep your hopes up.
So why not, Kiss His TypeS and make up?
If he fucks u over again, then you can hate him. Sometimes we just gotta be the bigger person and learn to forgive. you will be suprised, people CAN change.
Just keep your hopes up.
No, move on. He cheated on his last girl, He cheated on you. He will cheat on his next one. Let someone else deal with him, you know better now.
06-01-2004, 09:13 PM
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Originally Posted by Chinisimo
try to stay in good terms w/ her so you can still get a chance for the occasional booty call 
06-01-2004, 09:18 PM
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yo erin...he's only sorry because he got caught. he didn't seem too broken up about it the whole month he was bangin that ho. If it happened once cuz he was drunk and he told u about it on his own and apologized to you profusely the next day, then yeah I'd accept the apology. but this shit's been goin on for a while and you have every right to be selfish here and only worry about your feelings because you will get hurt again if you continue to hang out with him. good luck
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Originally Posted by Mike97 3.0P
yo erin...he's only sorry because he got caught. he didn't seem too broken up about it the whole month he was bangin that ho. If it happened once cuz he was drunk and he told u about it on his own and apologized to you profusely the next day, then yeah I'd accept the apology. but this shit's been goin on for a while and you have every right to be selfish here and only worry about your feelings because you will get hurt again if you continue to hang out with him. good luck
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06-01-2004, 10:22 PM
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^^^more like let some psycho woman go off and kill him or hurt him for doing it, that will be the day the lesson is learned.
Darren's a cool guy he just obviously made a mistake in the relationship department. I wouldn't wish some to get physically hurt over this stuff though.
