Excused yourself? You're a gentleman. I'd have shouted, "Look behind you" and then ran when she turned around.

Anyone devoted enough to pray before a meal will most likely clash with a non-believer. We do pagan witch dances before eating.

Of course, what we object to isn't that you are religious but that you will sooner or later try to talk us into it. It's the number 1 most annoying aspect of having a friend or dating someone who is a religious nut. They talk about it and try to convert you all the time. Most people who take it seriously try to convert others so that's why it wouldn't work out for me. If a girl asked me What Would Jesus Do, I'd say, "I don't know but I'm gonna get the f out of here."

 

kids use to be a biggie for me till I moved to WA and found out I was in the SINGLE MOM CAPITAL OF THE WORLD!

BTW- if you are religious enough to say a prayer before you eat every time, then religion will be a huge issue in the future. I say stay away unless you want to compromise your religious beliefs!

 

I'm an atheist. My last GF was Catholic. We lasted two months and she thought she could keep religion out of our relationship. When she started saying things like "God wanted us to meet" I decided it was time we break up. After the breakup we talked frankly about why I had my beliefs and why she had hers. There's no way it could have worked out, and I'm glad we broke up when we did, rather than later down the road.

She may not be an atheist. Perhaps she's agnostic, or just spiritual in her own way. Just because someone doesn't believe in your god doesn't mean there's something wrong with them. Unfortunately many religious people think otherwise. You seem pretty open minded enough to realize non-religious is not equal to satanist baby eater.

 

You're a religious dude, you need to date people who are religious like you.


Hey, now there's a Super Thought~


"Similarities MAKE a Relationship"

I know lots of girls who Admire a Guy who leads them closer to the Lord

 

Differences make relationships just as much as similarities.

As obvious as it may seem, religion is one of those things that can SERIOUSLY divide people and sabotage a relationship.

 

Yeah, as in he likes rock, she likes opera, and they learn to enjoy each other's hobbies, but NOT - he thinks God is the reason for living and she thinks religion is the cause of all evil.

I seriously think all good long term relationships have to share basic common beliefs in what's important in life, how to handle and use money (maybe #1), how to raise children, what they want to live and work toward, etc. Opposites may attract sexually, but not a basis for a long term relationship.

 

that's a stupid thing to say. because i'm sure my mother enjoys sex with my father and that does NOT make her promiscuous.

back on topic: praying in public freaks people out. when in rome...

 

mmm catholics are hot.

<--- non-practicing catholic

 

Just because shes not religious doesn't mean shes an athiest. I know alot of young adults who believe in God, but don't believe in organized religion. I'm sure shes spiritual in her own way. But your relationship will never work in the long term unless a) you can live with the fact that shes not as religious as you, or b) you convert her. Either way, if you consider yourself to be a pretty religious person, then I think you'd be better off dating women who have similar beliefs

 

Your Fun to Hang > ME Fun to Bang

 

 

Yeah, the organized religion part is more of what I don't fully agree with. I'm not the person to try to convert anyone. Differences make the world go around.

Thanks, I try to be. Who can say what is right.

 

And, you know, depending on how strong your relationship is, sometimes the non-religious party DOES 'come around.' Trust me, I know.

I converted to Catholicism last May (2004)... in the months preceding my baptism, I was reading all sorts of books, doing a lot of homework, praying a lot, spending a lot of time with church groups and the priest and all sorts of other religious-y things to prepare myself for the Big Life Change. Scott was practically atheist (although he did agree that there was SOMETHING out there). I think his big concern was that I would try to convert him, which I did not. In fact, a lot of my new Catholic friends expressed disbelief that I would continue a relationship with someone who so clearly disregarded my values, and questions like, "How will you raise your kids?" and "What kind of marriage ceremony will you have?" came up all the time.

But I knew that the surest way to scare him off would be to say, "hey, honey, I want you to come to church with me," or in any way try to convince him that what I felt was right. I did make a lot of changes in my OWN life, but I never once pressured him to join me. I knew that his vague belief in "something" would eventually develop into something greater in his life, and guess what? I was right!

Shortly after I moved out here, he started reading some of the books I had left in our apartment. When we got engaged, he is the one who first suggested that we have a Catholic wedding, and he even asked me if I would like for him to be baptized prior to the ceremony so that we could both take communion. I said, uh, sure!

So yeah, we wound up getting legally married in Vegas, but he just met with the priest yesterday to talk about our upcoming catholic ceremony next May.

I guess what I'm saying is that people come into their spirituality at different times, in different stages. It all depends on how strong the relationship is. To be honest, he and I are the poster children for a successful relationship against all odds (one a college student, one not, meeting on the internet 3000 miles apart, living together before marriage, carrying on a long-distance relationship after living together, one religious, one not...) but I think the differences are what make us interesting. There's never a dull moment between us!

 

Your mom goes to college

 

remember, just because she is "not really" religious doesn't mean she is an athiest. She may simply be an agnostic, or maybe she is a gnostic. Or maybe she doesn't wave her cross in people's faces. If you like the girl, flat out ask her, if it is really that important. I am sure that if you wish to continue to go to services and she does not, that she will not insist that you not go anymore.

But remember; an issue, that isn't an issue, isn't an issue.

 

OMG!! Another female Jedi mind trick! She just leaves some books and WHAMO! he's religious. Beware of the evil eye!!!

 

Thank for the input Gary. I was waiting for you to chime in on here.

 

It's not so hard for a woman to get to you if you're in love...

 

thanks. I would have chimed in sooner, but this little thing called "being banned" stopped me.

but good luck to you anywah, dood. I have been in successful replationships with religious people, and they respected my opinion too (I am a recovering Catholic). The key is respect, in any relationship, and hoping that someone "sees the light" and becomes religious is, to me, crazy, as this implies that they were defective before their "enlightenment". That is not respect. That is a crusade.

 

I agree with you 100%... "seeing the light" is a bunch of BS. To me, it was more about finally accepting something I had always known, but had always denied because accepting it isn't very fun. I'll be honest, it's not fun being religious... it's even less fun converting to a religion as an adult, because you constantly face opposition, so that you not only have to remind yourself why you're doing it, you also have to remind curious onlookers, which is a pain.

I'm not enough of a bible thumper to know the exact books or people who said these things (although I'm fairly sure it was Jesus and St. Paul), but to me, there's a fine balance between spreading the faith (as we are told to do), and keeping our prayers quiet and unobtrusive (also an instruction). I think it was Paul that said the loud, obnoxious pray-er who shows everyone how pious he is isn't doing God's work, he's trying to prove to men how great he is, when really it's between you and God. I guess what I mean is that I would rather let someone come to me than try to convert people on my own steam, especially in this day and age, when evangelism is seen as psychosis.

 

Shit man, catholic school girls are freaks. Believe me, I know

 

Still very few things hotter than a catholic schoolgirl. bad thoughts, bad thoughts

But i went on to say in a later post that the religious girls who turn out to be freaks tend to be in HS or college. Past that if they are still religious (and not married) then they are pretty much only sleeping with the lord.