about last december my girl and i broke up. it didn't really occur to me what had happened for about a month and i felt nothing. i almost immediately got into another relationship, which hasn't really worked out, but that's another story. anyway, after that first month, i hit me hard - i tried to get her back to no avail and she started seeing someone else - that didn't work so she came back to me one day crying - but just wanted to be friends ( i stupidly said ok) this was like march. now we email maybe once a month and i've seen her like twice
problem is i STILL have feelings for her and can't let go
we met when she was working for the planning dept in the city - she got another job for the state while we were still dating, but now she just got a job for the Mayor's office where i work. She starts in like two weeks and i'll have to see the bitch all the time now
why can't i just let it go
hate women

 

GIrls suck man...everyone know's it...

 

I feel for you Stef...chicks are a giant pita!!

 

thanks pete,
i'm pathetic bro - this is the same chick i had issues with back in the day when you were having issues - SEEMS LIKE YEARS AGO

 

Ask her if she still want to be f*ck boddies... Works for me...

 

Gonna have to deal with it. You can't avoid her forever. I'd at least see her and just kick it with her. Maybe flirt with her a little. Look at it this way, you've already lost her so what else do you have to lose? Nothing. But you potentially have a lot to gain. Plus regret is a mutha.

 

I love women.

 

very true - tanks bro

 

ditto!

but realize that if you hardly ever see her now and you still have feelings...seeing her everyday is going to be worse. i beleive everything happens for a reason...somehow she got thrown back into your life, if you ever had a chance to get her back...now is it!

The fact that she came to you crying and still wants to be friends means that she trusts you and feels comfortable around you, which might not mean much to you, but it's better than her never wanting to see you again.
While being "friends" might suck for now...it's a great way to form a new relationship with her.

good luck!!

 

wow, i was in the same situation. look at the bright side. at least u still talk to her. i wish i still talked to my most recent ex. i truly thought she was THE ONE. i'd give up so many things just to be with her.

my advice in your case is to maintain the friendship yet be there for her moreso than any friend would. she'll notice that and maybe come around to appreciating you again. what are her feelings towards you? do u even have a shot in hell according to her?

 

This only sounds good in words but in reality it'll backfire.

He already has problems getting over her, so flirting and whatnot will only make her want more. If flirting led to them being together again, than great... but chances are his feelings will only get stronger cos he'll REALLY start reminiscing and missing 'those' moments they once shared.

 

I think this is true to an extent, just in the beginning of this whole scenario. I believe he would eventually just get so tired of it, he'd completly get over her with frustration, although it may drag on for a while...

 

thanks for all the advice guys and katie (-:
i'm such a retard: she started yesterday and i've been a mess and i haven't even seen her - i just think about her and get all nervous and stupid at one point i thought i was crazy, but now i realize i just really loved her a lot and still do
we've sent a couple of simple emails, but just welcome back and hi sorta thing
i really think that i need to just let go of this and move on but everytime i think i'm ok, she shows up again. and then i start thinking, like Katie suggested that it's fate, and there have been a lot to make me think that, but i think i'm retarded....it was December when we broke up and I'm about as sure as can be that she does NOT want to get back together- i even get the feeling she's seeing someone

i just don't know wtf to do

 

and please i know someone's going to suggest it, but i can't imagine telling her any of this - all i need is to be rejected ONE MORE time and i'm done - i can hear it now - well i'm sorta seeing someone...............

 

nah... no need to tell her. its actually better for ur situation that u dont.