God I hate this feeling.
12-02-2005, 03:08 PM
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Well its been almost 2 weeks without her. I dunno if I made progress or not. I have been keeping myself busy with school and work. But still every morning I still wake hoping she is next to me. I truly lost the most important thing to me.
12-02-2005, 03:39 PM
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Originally Posted by dnd2984
Well its been almost 2 weeks without her. I dunno if I made progress or not. I have been keeping myself busy with school and work. But still every morning I still wake hoping she is next to me. I truly lost the most important thing to me.
12-09-2005, 04:49 PM
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hey man ,
I can relate 100%. to your situation. I just had the samething happen to me with my ex of 3.5yrs( this happened about 5-6months ago).... let me tell you I know how hard it is to let go and get over ...but you have to or else you will be hurt even worse man
I don't know if you have ever heard this song by R Kelly called "when a womans fed up there is nothing you can do about it " check it out and listen to the words I think it will be helpful to you as it was for me
other than that man don't talk to her out of site out of mind and try to meet new ppl,as my mom always says there are always more fish in the sea, you live and you learn just don't make the same mistakes with the next gir ....those are just a few things that I am doing to cope with everything
oh and stop blaming yourself even if it is your fault
BE STRONG YOUR A MAN
if you want to talk more pm me
I can relate 100%. to your situation. I just had the samething happen to me with my ex of 3.5yrs( this happened about 5-6months ago).... let me tell you I know how hard it is to let go and get over ...but you have to or else you will be hurt even worse man
I don't know if you have ever heard this song by R Kelly called "when a womans fed up there is nothing you can do about it " check it out and listen to the words I think it will be helpful to you as it was for me
other than that man don't talk to her out of site out of mind and try to meet new ppl,as my mom always says there are always more fish in the sea, you live and you learn just don't make the same mistakes with the next gir ....those are just a few things that I am doing to cope with everything
oh and stop blaming yourself even if it is your fault
BE STRONG YOUR A MAN
if you want to talk more pm me
12-09-2005, 09:17 PM
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some of you people are so stupid....
if he wants to be with her...he should compromise....just b/c she got fed up w/ BULLSHIT
doesn't mean he should burn all her stuff and find a NEW WHORE...
if he wants to be with her...he should compromise....just b/c she got fed up w/ BULLSHIT
doesn't mean he should burn all her stuff and find a NEW WHORE...
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12-09-2005, 09:19 PM
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good luck getting her back then...and for the record, i am the youngest out of 5 and 23 and not married...all of my other siblings were married at this age...
12-09-2005, 09:22 PM
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Originally Posted by abp02type s\\
I don't know if you have ever heard this song by R Kelly called "when a womans fed up there is nothing you can do about it " check it out and listen to the words I think it will be helpful to you as it was for me
other than that man don't talk to her out of site out of mind and try to meet new ppl,as my mom always says there are always more fish in the sea, you live and you learn just don't make the same mistakes with the next gir ....those are just a few things that I am doing to cope with everything
oh and stop blaming yourself even if it is your fault
BE STRONG YOUR A MAN
if you want to talk more pm me
other than that man don't talk to her out of site out of mind and try to meet new ppl,as my mom always says there are always more fish in the sea, you live and you learn just don't make the same mistakes with the next gir ....those are just a few things that I am doing to cope with everything
oh and stop blaming yourself even if it is your fault
BE STRONG YOUR A MAN
if you want to talk more pm me
good lord......don't listen to this guy if you want her back..only you can decide that....
12-12-2005, 08:27 AM
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Don't just go for a walk, go for a run.....exercise will create more energy for you. I am thinking you need to get up and around. For heavens sake shave! It will make you feel better. Go out and get with the public. Do some Christmas shopping or something. At least you will be around people.
12-12-2005, 09:00 AM
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Don't listen to Andrea. That's my ex's name and people with that name are always wrong. Go out, have some fun. She is just messing with your head. The sooner you forget about her, the better...speaking from experience. Sitting at home and crying is not gonna help much.
12-12-2005, 12:32 PM
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Don't listen to Andrea. That's my ex's name and people with that name are always wrong. Go out, have some fun. She is just messing with your head. The sooner you forget about her, the better...speaking from experience. Sitting at home and crying is not gonna help much.
To dnd2984, you HAVE to let her go. She wants to leave. You have to stop trying to get her back. Stop hoping that she will come back. Just take a break from dating for awhile.
12-12-2005, 12:47 PM
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Originally Posted by youngTL
After what a girl did to one of my good friends (mindfucked him for over 3 years and then kicked him to the curb, bringing out some suicidal thoughts), I have nothing but distrust for women when they are indecisive. If she can't say to his face that she wants the relationship to continue, in plain English, then she's mindfucking him. Having a close friend of mine go through this gives me no sympathy for the girl's position.
To dnd2984, you HAVE to let her go. She wants to leave. You have to stop trying to get her back. Stop hoping that she will come back. Just take a break from dating for awhile.
To dnd2984, you HAVE to let her go. She wants to leave. You have to stop trying to get her back. Stop hoping that she will come back. Just take a break from dating for awhile.
I really dont understand girls anymore i think. No wonder all my Gay friends are so happy
12-13-2005, 05:15 AM
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Originally Posted by dnd2984
I really dont understand girls anymore i think. No wonder all my Gay friends are so happy
Suppose I talk to 100 guys in a year. Suppose 1/6 are gay. That leaves me with 16 or 17 guys I can even consider. Then, probably at least 75% of those are undateable (ugly, stupid, no goals in life, etc), leaving me with maybe a choice of 3 possible dates. Maybe 1 of those might be a good date (from past experience).
So next time, remember that at least you have a greater than 3% chance of finding a date!
When you look at it that way, it's not so bad if you get a crappy girl the first time. Just try again.
12-13-2005, 09:34 AM
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3 years is a long time, i cant tell you that i wouldnt be fucked up also. But the only thing you can do now is hang out with friends and do shit to keep your mind off her.
12-13-2005, 09:37 AM
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Originally Posted by youngTL
Are they really? At least when you find a bad girl, there's always a lot more to choose from. Only about 1 out of 6 guys are gay (according to the Brits), and that seems like a reasonable figure to me, but it's completely unreasonable to land a date. At least you don't have to ask a girl if she's really a girl. I have to pretty much be certain a guy is even gay before I say anything about liking him. Here's the odds:
Suppose I talk to 100 guys in a year. Suppose 1/6 are gay. That leaves me with 16 or 17 guys I can even consider. Then, probably at least 75% of those are undateable (ugly, stupid, no goals in life, etc), leaving me with maybe a choice of 3 possible dates. Maybe 1 of those might be a good date (from past experience).
So next time, remember that at least you have a greater than 3% chance of finding a date! When you look at it that way, it's not so bad if you get a crappy girl the first time. Just try again.
Suppose I talk to 100 guys in a year. Suppose 1/6 are gay. That leaves me with 16 or 17 guys I can even consider. Then, probably at least 75% of those are undateable (ugly, stupid, no goals in life, etc), leaving me with maybe a choice of 3 possible dates. Maybe 1 of those might be a good date (from past experience).
So next time, remember that at least you have a greater than 3% chance of finding a date!
When you look at it that way, it's not so bad if you get a crappy girl the first time. Just try again.
12-13-2005, 10:36 AM
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Originally Posted by youngTL
Are they really? At least when you find a bad girl, there's always a lot more to choose from. Only about 1 out of 6 guys are gay (according to the Brits), and that seems like a reasonable figure to me, but it's completely unreasonable to land a date. At least you don't have to ask a girl if she's really a girl. I have to pretty much be certain a guy is even gay before I say anything about liking him. Here's the odds:
Suppose I talk to 100 guys in a year. Suppose 1/6 are gay. That leaves me with 16 or 17 guys I can even consider. Then, probably at least 75% of those are undateable (ugly, stupid, no goals in life, etc), leaving me with maybe a choice of 3 possible dates. Maybe 1 of those might be a good date (from past experience).
So next time, remember that at least you have a greater than 3% chance of finding a date! When you look at it that way, it's not so bad if you get a crappy girl the first time. Just try again.
Suppose I talk to 100 guys in a year. Suppose 1/6 are gay. That leaves me with 16 or 17 guys I can even consider. Then, probably at least 75% of those are undateable (ugly, stupid, no goals in life, etc), leaving me with maybe a choice of 3 possible dates. Maybe 1 of those might be a good date (from past experience).
So next time, remember that at least you have a greater than 3% chance of finding a date!
When you look at it that way, it's not so bad if you get a crappy girl the first time. Just try again.Hey man if u need a "friend" I can introduce you yo peps at my school. Or take you to work. I work at Macys.
12-13-2005, 10:37 AM
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Originally Posted by youngTL
Are they really? At least when you find a bad girl, there's always a lot more to choose from. Only about 1 out of 6 guys are gay (according to the Brits), and that seems like a reasonable figure to me, but it's completely unreasonable to land a date. At least you don't have to ask a girl if she's really a girl. I have to pretty much be certain a guy is even gay before I say anything about liking him. Here's the odds:
Suppose I talk to 100 guys in a year. Suppose 1/6 are gay. That leaves me with 16 or 17 guys I can even consider. Then, probably at least 75% of those are undateable (ugly, stupid, no goals in life, etc), leaving me with maybe a choice of 3 possible dates. Maybe 1 of those might be a good date (from past experience).
So next time, remember that at least you have a greater than 3% chance of finding a date! When you look at it that way, it's not so bad if you get a crappy girl the first time. Just try again.
Suppose I talk to 100 guys in a year. Suppose 1/6 are gay. That leaves me with 16 or 17 guys I can even consider. Then, probably at least 75% of those are undateable (ugly, stupid, no goals in life, etc), leaving me with maybe a choice of 3 possible dates. Maybe 1 of those might be a good date (from past experience).
So next time, remember that at least you have a greater than 3% chance of finding a date!
When you look at it that way, it's not so bad if you get a crappy girl the first time. Just try again.Man start converting more guys to be gay. So we have a better chance of finding women.
12-13-2005, 02:31 PM
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Originally Posted by dnd2984
Man start converting more guys to be gay. So we have a better chance of finding women.
Edmonton sucks for dates. But I digress.
Seriously, this girl is mindfucking you SO bad. I've seen this happen! When you go on that Vegas trip, try your hardest NOT to think about her! That means getting your friends to keep you busy. That means having so much fun that you don't give a shit about her not being there anymore.
12-13-2005, 05:42 PM
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Originally Posted by youngTL
Wow I wish that were possible.
Edmonton sucks for dates. But I digress.
Seriously, this girl is mindfucking you SO bad. I've seen this happen! When you go on that Vegas trip, try your hardest NOT to think about her! That means getting your friends to keep you busy. That means having so much fun that you don't give a shit about her not being there anymore.
Edmonton sucks for dates. But I digress.
Seriously, this girl is mindfucking you SO bad. I've seen this happen! When you go on that Vegas trip, try your hardest NOT to think about her! That means getting your friends to keep you busy. That means having so much fun that you don't give a shit about her not being there anymore.
Her sisters coming but me and ehr are really cool
12-13-2005, 05:44 PM
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YoungTL: I told her my mistakes and I promised her I would work on them. I told her as long as it takes look at all the good. I totally Spoiled her. I did that cause I wanted to not casue she asked me. I mean I treated her like a queen. When I got mad I usually apoligized the same night to her to.
12-13-2005, 06:08 PM
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Originally Posted by dnd2984
Her sisters coming but me and ehr are really cool
Older? Younger? As long as your ex didn't put in a bad word for you, you might get lucky
12-13-2005, 06:10 PM
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Older? Younger? As long as your ex didn't put in a bad word for you, you might get lucky
Older, naw my ex didnt put in a bad word. Her sister hottt, but no i cant get lucky with her becasue she is like my sister.
12-13-2005, 06:31 PM
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Originally Posted by dnd2984
The worst part is I miss all the little things. In the morning especially when she is not there. I am totally mindfucked right now. Cant wait till my vegas trip with the guys. Going Jan 2nd to the 5th.
But it does get easier, I still hurt - and any human will, but it just is easier to think about other things after a while.
Eh...idk what I'm trying to say. Just know that you aren't the only one to feel like this....
12-16-2005, 01:56 AM
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OK so me and my roomate and couple of other friends went out, and I didnt have the ability to approach a single girl, there was this one chic that kept passing by me and lookin at me. And still I did nothing. I think I lost the touch. I miss thinking with my penis.
12-17-2005, 12:28 AM
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Originally Posted by dnd2984
Guys its 5:40 am and I am really really shaky and I cant stop thinking about her. I tried. ITs like now I have no one to talk to. She was my bestfriend to.
Should I start seeing a doctor?
Should I start seeing a doctor?
12-17-2005, 10:59 AM
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Originally Posted by Andrea25
some of you people are so stupid....
if he wants to be with her...he should compromise....just b/c she got fed up w/ BULLSHIT
doesn't mean he should burn all her stuff and find a NEW WHORE...
if he wants to be with her...he should compromise....just b/c she got fed up w/ BULLSHIT
doesn't mean he should burn all her stuff and find a NEW WHORE...
I would say if anyone is stupid it would be you....it is not up to him I think it is obvious that he wants to be with her but he is not the one to make that decision
He is beating a dead horse if he is trying to be with her and it is not recipricated
12-17-2005, 12:20 PM
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Originally Posted by dnd2984
Guys its 5:40 am and I am really really shaky and I cant stop thinking about her. I tried. ITs like now I have no one to talk to. She was my bestfriend to.
Should I start seeing a doctor?
Should I start seeing a doctor?
12-17-2005, 07:41 PM
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Originally Posted by youngTL
Your problem is that you became "enmeshed" with her. The fact that you have nobody to talk to now IS A PROBLEM! Where are your friends?
My first 2 years I went to school in Gaineville FL. Thats wher my X lives, and everyfriend I have lives there or orlando.
This semester I move to Tampa FL becasue UF does not offer my major. So its Kinda lonely here in Tampa but I got a couple of guy friends I made that I hang out with,
12-17-2005, 07:53 PM
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Originally Posted by abp02type s
I would say if anyone is stupid it would be you....it is not up to him I think it is obvious that he wants to be with her but he is not the one to make that decision
He is beating a dead horse if he is trying to be with her and it is not recipricated
He is beating a dead horse if he is trying to be with her and it is not recipricated
how the hell do you know all the details of what went down? there's 2 sides to every story and also..
Originally Posted by dnd2984
She thinks that I always get mad at her and cant take it anymore.
if she's THAT important to him, he should try to work it out....whatever, it's his decision....
is she worth it or not?
12-19-2005, 05:05 PM
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Originally Posted by Andrea25
how the hell do you know all the details of what went down? there's 2 sides to every story
