ive been with her for bout 4 months, shes damaged goods from her last relationship and has major trust issues. whenever i go out with my friends on a weeknight, she thinks im lyin and goin out with other girls or my x. is there a future to this, or should i just give up.

 

Sounds like you answered the question yourself with the damaged goods statement.

She needs to move on or else she'll drive every one of her boyfriends crazy. You are not going to fix these issues. Is it worth waiting for her to fix them herself? I doubt it.

 

If you care about her a lot, work to gain her trust. If you dont see any signs of improvement, find someone else.

 

No trust = No relationship!

Simple as that.

 

just tell her theres no reason for her to trust you.
if she doesn't trust you, then whats to stop you from actually doing something in the first place?

 

 

Next her.

 

 

Maybe take her out with the guys on a weeknight to see if she changes, if not, kick her out the door

 

one of my old roommates (a guy) always used to say that as soon as a girl starts having "trust issues" it's over.

but then again, this was the same guy who was banging our nasty 36-year-old neighbor who had 5 kids... so yea, i don't have any advice for ya there :P

 

Get rid of her.

 

Give it a little time, sometimes trust must be built. I don't know anyone who just trusts someone right off the bat. If you feel that 4 months is too long of a time to wait then "give her the brick" as someone on the board said in another thread. Its all about how much more time you are willing to invest in it.

 

If you're willing to put up with the trust issues, give it time, she should get better as time passes. Also keep in mind you may be the rebound fool that she just wants to abuse because she can't abuse the last guy who fucked around on her.

 

if she's worth it, give her time.

 

yea i think ill try the time thing, cuz its actually gotten better, first month it was accusations every week, now its once a month, hahaha.

 

and shes worth the trouble so....

i dont think there's complete trust in any relationship i have seen, you always have to keep your eyes open.

 

no trust, no future. Its that simple. Move on.

 

can anyone here say they can completely trust their partner, no doubts or suspicions?

 

I do implicitly.

 

i guess you a lucky guy, unless of course your chick is ugly...jk.

 

she isn't.:-*

 

i suspect everyone all the time. im just paranoid.

i trust him more than anyone else i know though..

but im still paranoid about EVERYTHING

but never about him cheating on me..

 

(but make sure to give her "The Method" a few times beforehand!)

 

Hey wazz up...First of all, theres no point to a relationship when theres no trust. Trust me I know. In a way I understand what you are trying to explain as well as her. But what u need to make her understand is that every single person in this world is differend. Just because someone lied to her or cheated on her doesn't mean you are going to do the same. Tell her to give her self the opportunity to trust you. 'cause I mean you guy's been together just 4 a couple of months, and if she keeps been like that, she is going to make you lie to her because of no trust. All I got to say is sit down or take her somewher nice like the park or the beach in the night and just the of you guys and discuss this issues hear her point of view and let her know that u want her to trust you for the good of the relationship!