First time posting here...sorry if this sounds n00b-ish/stupid

what do you profession-daters talk about on a first date? I recently went on one, and couldnt believe how boring I was...usually I am a very social person, but for some reason I could not get the girl to laugh at any jokes, or get her genuinely interested in something i was talking about

 

I think you may have been trying so hard to keep things moving that you neglected to find something that interested her.

You say, "for some reason I could not get the girl to laugh at any jokes, or get her genuinely interested in something i was talking about." From this I believe you may have been randomly throwing things out in hopes that she'll eventually bite. Next time try starting with an interesting but open ended question about something you know she is interested in (ie: not yes/no Q) and then build off it until the conversation is self sustaining.

Ex: you know she moved all alone to NY to pursue a job post grad. (From that, you have a million question you can ask to start a conversation she will be interested in. ) So you can say. "wow, so you moved to NY all alone huh? Thats sounds amazing! I'd love to do that! What was it like? scary? fun? etc."

Anyway, dumb example but my point is, if you can find an open ended question that shes interested in/will allow her to talk about herself, the convo will take on a mind of its own. Once the conversation is off and running, you can throw in your jokes and charm or whatever to hopefully bring her home for the afterparty

 

The best thing about a first date is that you dont know much about the other peopson so with that in mind just ask things about her find out what she likes and dislikes things of that nature. you dont have to go all DR. Phil just little tidbits of info.

 

sounds like you were trying too hard and/or were nervous. and it also didn't "click". don't worry about it.. you'll get better.
Just keep going on more "1st dates".

 

The first rule of conversation is: People like to talk about themselves. Ask her about things she likes, has done, would like to do, etc. And make sure you ask her open-ended questions, nothing she can respond to with a simple yes or no. Remember, she's as nervous as you are.

 

assuming she isn't sally the town bicycle...cause then she's wasted, just did a line in the bathroom and is already taking your pants off in the restaraunt...

otherwise, she's probably just a nervous as you

 

bingo, always let the talk about themselves. And then let them talk about themselves some more.

 

thx guys appreciate the input

yes I probably need more practice...maybe i'll see if she wants to go out again, and take another shot

 

well normally I'd end with "had fun, lets do it again some time" and then call within a few days and setup another date.

I like to set something for the week night, less pressure. She could be one of those damned "rules" women and you'll quickly figure out if she is. If so, then run for the hills.

 

x2342355 run like a mutha

 

maybe she's just not that into you.

one thing that pisses me off is if I ask questions about someone and they suck at conversing or they just don't care and don't bother putting an effort to ask me about my day or something.

 

could very likely be it...i met her at a club, started dancing, and she insisted that i take her cell # and call her the next day...but she was pretty drunk that night, so i didnt even think she would remember me. WHen i took her out she was sober, and quite a different person...real quiet...maybe she didnt really remember much from teh club at all...

Oh wellz no biggie...plenty of fish out there