ok there's this girl i am kinda seeing..and i like her and i she likes me..but more in a friendship manner..how do i get it across to her that i wanna date her..she doesn't drink so i'm like lost as to what to do and where to take her as well.. cuz hmm yah, alcohol is the best icebreaker cuz it loosens you up and shit..but with her, well she doesn't drink so would be retarted to go to a bar or something and drink solo while she's there..ideas?

 

yeah just take pills or get some rock... that will loosen her up too j/k if u dig her and all, just go for it. work with what u got. do something ur both into... if she is into sports. maybe take her to a game or somethin.... just an idea. gotta find another ice breaker.. goodluck

 

Coffee shop? Movie?

 

Do you like to drink? If so, her non-drinking policy may get in the way along the road somewhere. Some guys think they can get past it, but it's a huge obstacle.

 

but an easy one to drop, esp if you want to be with her

 

Right, but I'm just saying be prepared.

 

that's not retarded. at the very least she is the designated driver. :thumsup:

 

Ether on a rag will also loosen her up..... If not, I think Killers idea of a coffee shop is a good thing.

 

Wow, I never took a first date out for drinks. Mainly because I would turn into a drunken idiot. There is plenty of stuff you can do.

 

Ice skating, then go somewhere warm like a coffee shop. Obviously you're going to have to use your best game during ice skating since there are so many ways to make her laugh when skating. After you both have a great time skating, then go warm up somewhere with coffee or hot cocoa. If she doesn't get the fact that you're interested after that, then you are platonic man or she only wants to be friends.

 

when in doubt, whip it out?

she'll get the message

 

Si Senior. Even if it never comes to her asking YOU not to drink or drink less or less often it STILL becomes a problem. Trust me. And its lame to be having a great time drankin with friends but have this sober sitter girlfriend. It's like lugging around an un-fun rock everywhere and she'll get angry or annoyed when you get wild and are having fun... but I digress. I'm not saying don't date her - just watch out and consider the implications of a teetotaller gf.

 

take her to your parents house?

 

Absolutely NOT!

 

911

 

batting cage? driving range? mini golf? coffee (or other non booze drinks, like tapioca)? pool hall? bowling? watch a game?

those are just things that i would do, should i ever get a chance to

 

well we always hang out at coffee bean out here..and we went out to dinner with a few other friends last night..but i had to leave at 3 to go to work (stupid microsoft and there ADS)..anyways she smokes..but when i asked her about it, she said if she had a boyfriend who didn't want her to smoke she would stop..i just dunno..i can't read her at at all, and i can usally read most other girls..so i'm like totally lost..shes into cars, so maybe i can find one of those crazy driving events that they have every now and again..but with my luck, there won't be one till mid next year..so maybe golf? i dunno how to iceskate as someone else mentioned before, and i don't think she does either..

 

I just saw the movie "just friends". This topic is so like that movie.

on another note, you need to just be up front. Dont dilly dally for to long b/c u could miss your chance. Go out to dinner, buy her some flowers & just tell her how ya feel. If she is into that mushy shit, you may have it in the bag..

 

I don't understand the alcohol business....what's the point...??? Loosens you up??? :wtf:

Coffee shop sounds like a good idea....starbucks.

Then again, I've never dated...so I dunno.

 

ehh how old are you?

 

see the thing is i dunno how to approach her..like it's kinda complicated but my friends are all friends with her too (my guy friends) and i know she has some interest in one of my other friends, so on one hand, i don't want to cock block, and on the other hand i like her..so i'm like stuck as fuck..

 

She smokes!

Have your friend informed you that he has interest in her? If yes, he told YOU before you told HIM. He would probably feel betrayed if you asked her out before he got the chance to.

On the other hand, if it was HER that told you that she has the interest in your friend, then she isn't interested in you (unless she's just being female and doing that to make you jealous because she really likes you? The way to tell is by her body language towards you.)

But if you really wanna get with this girl, stop waiting around. Maybe start talking to her about what she likes in a guy. If she keeps describing your friend, forget her.

 

Don't get me wrong, I love booze, but if you can't take someone out on a date without drinking, you've got more serious problems than just where to go on a date.

Also, if you like to drink and your gf doesn't... that definitely poses a problem too. She probably won't want to put up with your drunken antics later on down the road.

And if you do end up taking her to an alcohol-serving establishment, ask her if she's ok with you drinking if she doesn't at all. Be considerate.

 

Holy shit I don't even remember the last time I went on a date w/ having drinks... I think i went to the movies "sooooo boring"...

 

If I wasn't married already...

 

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