amisconception

Guys: OK So, at what point do you say enough is enough with words and actually beat the shit out of someone who's being aggressive?

Ladies: would you want a guy to defend you by beating the shit out of a guy who was maybe, let's say, grabbing your arm, being inapproriate or not leaving you alone in general?

So let's assume that you watch something like this happen to your girlfriend. This is Scenario A. And in Scenario B she tells you about something that happened not long ago and you can find the guy if you wished.

Opinions please

As for me, I have a short fuse, so it doesn't take too too much. I guess I'm possessive. With the girl I'm with, there's only been one real situation that has drawn me to want to beat the shit out of someone. But, it was too late, she told me after the fact.

p.s., this topic was on the radio, nothing happened, i'm just curious what AZ had to say about

BEETROOT

I don't understand the question. What is scenario A? A guy grabbing her arm?

amisconception

Sure, or being overly aggressive in general. Not letting up, etc.

Scenario B being your girl telling you after the fact, but being able to confront the guy if you wished. For example, what would you do if you were at a bar, some guy grabbed your girls ass, arm, whatever but was really aggressive and it was out of her control but you don't see it. She comes and tells you about it and he's 30 feet away from you.

Feel free to speak generally

doopstr

A) You shouldn't be taking your girl to places where shit like that can happen, or you being the man should make it obvious that she is there with you.

B) If your girl is getting herself in trouble then she has a big mouth.

Crazy Bimmer

I would first try to get him to say sorry but if that didnt work...

Fighting is a last resort for me. 90% of the time i can talk myself out of it but still get what i want.

amisconception

Oh, and as a side-issue, to what degree do you believe it would ACTUALLY be her fault. Meaning, she instigated it somehow, or tried to provoke you to react.

I think a girl has some sort of obligation, if she's not single, to put up some sort of cold/bitchy/indifferent attitude to guys she really doesn't know because of the potential b.s. guys seem to assume when a girl is nice to them.

BEETROOT

If a guy is hitting on my girlfriend, I generally don't care at all. If he is being aggressive and I see it, I'll walk up and put my arm around her and escort her away. I've never been in a situation where the guy didn't give it up at this point.

If she came up to me and told me about situation B I would probably let it go as long as she wasn't upset. If she was actually upset about it, or he did something blatantly inappropriate, I'd confront him about it and take it from there.

I'm not a jealous guy at all so I'm pretty tolerant of guys hitting on my girl. If they show disrespect I'd get angry pretty quickly though. I've never even come close to this situation before though, maybe I've just been lucky.

amisconception

Agreed. But let's say she went to the restroom, and some numbskull from out of town decided he didn't give a damn if you were with her or not.

Big mouth? What if she was just walking by and that same numbskull did what he did? At least she told you right? What to do then?

amisconception

So you would definitely defend your girl by confronting the asshole who did something she was upset about? And you would also do that if the act upset you enough, even though it might not have upset her at all?

BEETROOT

Places where a guy could hit on her? Thats pretty much anywhere. And if I'm somewhere with my girlfriend I'm not going to go out of my way to 'make it obvious she is with me'. She can do what she wants, shes not on a leash.

If a guy is aggressively hitting on her its her fault? WTF are you talking about? You sound like the kind of guy who would say its the girls fault if she gets raped.

amisconception

How would you try to get a guy to say sorry for grabbing your girls ass or aggressively hitting on her? haha, i'd like to hear this one.

Crazy Bimmer

Im a talker.
Or i would slip him a $100 to say sorry so I would look good

amisconception

I think he meant places where riff-raff hang out... like shitty dives and dirty clubs

at least I think

Crazy Bimmer

If your girl is acting upset just for you to fight some guy... i think its then time to punch her in the cooter.

amisconception

lol, can you please describe one situation where this asking him to say sorry thing actually worked?

Oops, I just saw the white text

BEETROOT

If she was upset, and it was rational for her to be upset, then yes 100% I would confront the guy. I'd probably ask for an apology, if he refused I would not be able to let it go, so I could see things possibly getting physical. I've never started a fight in my life but this would probably be enough to change that.

If my girl was ok with whatever happened, chances are I would be ok with it too. So long as she is cool I don't really see a reason to get worked up about it.

amisconception

maybe so, but what girlfriend doesn't test a guy to see if he "reallllly" cares about her? especially in the beginning.

Time For Sleeep

I don't think any of those scenarios is worth getting into a fight over. There's other ways to deal with shit like that then to get into a scuffle.

BEETROOT

"Excuse me. My girlfriend says you _______. Is this correct?"

wait for reply...

"Thats pretty rude, I think she deserves an apology"

Crazy Bimmer

Well it only worked once with me in the past. The guy had no idea she was taken so once i walked up he said sorry since he didnt know.

Most guys arent looking to fight. IMO

amisconception

Because it was dissrespectful to you?

Maybe I'm just too possessive/jealous or something...

amisconception

Care to describe some of those ways?

I really do want to know, I'm not trying to be a dick.

amisconception

So simple, but it sounds effective

Crazy Bimmer

Trust your girl nigga.

BEETROOT

I can't think of anything that would be disrespectful to me, but not to her. Chances are if he is hitting on her, he doesn't know she is with me, so you can't blame the guy. If he is trying to hit on her knowing that she is with me, I'd probably tell him to chill out.

amisconception

ok. but what about the type of guy who doesn't give a shit about you or apologizing for what he did?

BEETROOT

It helps to be wearing a shirt like this with the sleeves ripped off

Crazy Bimmer

Thats the last resort then

Game on! But dont think i ever ran into that type before, of course my buddies are HUGE.

amisconception

I do, nigga!

And I know it sounds cliche, but it's not her I'm having issues with. It's overly aggressive dickwads that I worry about.

Guys can hit on her all day long, that's not what bothers me, it's guys that don't give up or take it to another level by, for example, grabbing her inappropriately.

BEETROOT

Insult his mother and punch him in the nuts.

amisconception

phat shirt

Crazy Bimmer

Also somtimes its ok to be a pussy and just walk away. Last thing you need is to confront him and get your ass beat.

amisconception

OK good. That's what I was thinking. That's what I'm talking about.

*phew* I feel much better now

amisconception

The only thing worse than getting your ass beat is getting your ego/pride destroyed... well at least for me. I can get over the physical pain, I've been in fights before, but the damn memory of just feeling like pussy would kill me and feel worse in the long run... I wish I could just be a pussy!

Crazy Bimmer

Your ego wouldnt be shot if you started a fight and got your ass beat?

BEETROOT

I think you're a pussy

BEETROOT

I dunno man, I'd rather walk away safe than try to take on some drunk linebacker size guy or something. Don't be too proud to walk away, not every jackass is worth getting upset about.

Crazy Bimmer

Bottom line is that YOU are the one shes going home with.

blktl1

I know what he is saying. I was in a club with my girl when I was holding her and hooking up with her and I had my arm around her when he walked up to her and pushed my arm off and put his around her and tried to talk to her. I gave him no chance to say sorry or to walk away. I just broke his fingers and pushed a pressure point in his fore arm and told him that if he disrespected me again he will not be walking. So I have to say that in most cases I would not care but there are those that you have no choice.

amisconception

Wanna fight tough guy?