My ex and I have been apart for almost 6 months but I know that I want her back. We've been seeing each other lately because we have a child together but she knows that I want them both back. Right now she's not seeing anyone but she's out having fun with friends and just doing what she couldn't before with me. I want to tell her she can have me, our family, and do things with her friends whenever she wants. I never stopped her from seeing her friends but I know she felt guilty about doing those things because I'm a little older than her and I'd rather stay home with the baby and watch TV or invite some buddies over to just kick it at home. To make a long story short, I've been around her lately and I've been rubbing her back and I've been touching her legs just to put that physical part of me to her. We haven't kissed but I wanna try soon. She calls me for stupid reasons just to tell me something. Sometimes it has something to do with the baby and sometimes it doesn't. And last, she told a friend that she doesn't wanna be with me right now but she doesn't know if she ever wants me back. She said she can never say never and that she may want to make up her mind whether she'll ever be with me. I don't wanna push her because if I do I think I'll lose her for good. I hope you guys have good advice on how to get her back.

 

you have a kid with her? if so, you have custody?? she a part of the kids life?

 

wow,
i'd say play it cool for a while longer and see how things progress. if you make a move right now you might scare her. give it a couple of weeks of just being cool - be a good friend and lay back and wait for her to come to you

 

Just play it cool, dont push anything.. if she wants youll back, shell let you know

But I for one would think its great if the kid could have both his parents together and happy

I hope it works out for you (i had parents who stayed together for the kids and werent happy.. not cool. theyre seperated now ((yeah when im 19)) and theyre both much happier people)

 

Dude, if your SERIOUS, you both need to talk and YOU NEED TO TELL HER HOW U FEEL. Look her straight in the eye, grab her hand and tell this woman u want to spend the rest of your life with her.

If your doing it for the kid, that is cool, I understand but it may be a short term relationship.

BE REAL with your feelings and yourself. Do u really WANT HER BACK or u just haven't met anyone else??

Dr. Love-SICK

 

i'd be the first person to do that...

however, i'm gonna have to disagree here...

she may feel this to be a little too confrontational and lead into a sort of aggressive assimilation back into a relationship which may just scare her. just let things naturally take their course. keep doin what ur doin... let her non-verbally know that u still care about her. do things for her to keep things interesting. talk to her about what she enjoys doing. her re-learning to become comfortable with you will begin to affect her emotionally. remember, every girl learns to calm down and get back into reality after a certain point. good luck, just dont push the issue onto her...

 

First, the skid stays with her and I try to see her whenever I can. I wanna tell her but like SwClown said, I don't wanna scare her even though she knows I want her back. Everyone is telling me the same thing that you guys are sayin and to just take my time. I'm impatient with this and I'm kinda nervous that things aren't gonna go my way because if they were supposed to I think they should have by now. I haven't met anyone else but I haven't been really tryin. When I have the kid and her in my head its kinda hard to want someone else. Damn this sucks.

 

do ya pay your child support on time, all the time??? Thats important to them...shows you really give a shit IMO.

 

mike i get a funny feeling things will work out.
i get nervous EVERY time i see the ex, and it's been like 7 months since we broke up so it's not just you.
hang in there man

 

No child support involved. I do everything and anything for the kid. She doesn't hate me and she's not mad at me so she won't do that mess. I buy the little girl clothes, shoes, etc. I see her whenever she's at the grandmothers crib so she knows I got love for them both.

 

If she is cool like that...way to go..play it cool...slow and easy.

 

Slow & Easy is right...

Have to play it safe when there is a little person's life at stake also...

Good Luck!!!