My fiancee has bipolar disorder but she doesnt like to take any medication for it. She worries that she will become dependant on them. Her mood swings happen about once a week but if she has been drinking she turns violent. I love her for who she is but i know i should just stay away from her if she is going to drink. Did any of you guys date anyone with this condition and if so how did it affect your relationship?

 

I dated a bipolar girl, for around 3 years. She was smoking hot so that probably made me keep her around that long. She caused too much grief blowing up on me/my friends/my family where it just wasn't worth the stress. Plenty of other girls out there at your age and do you really want to bring kids into that kinda situation if you don't HAVE too?

 

Since you are marrying this girl I think at a min. you need to insist that she not drink since it makes her violent.

Believe me when I tell you this, things that annoy you now will make you angry/upset/depressed once you are locked in. You need to ask yourself if you can put up with this for the rest of your life. If the answer is no, then end it.

If you think that you have a high chance of having normal kids, think again. Are you prepared to handle kids that may have similar issues?

 

my GF's sister is bipolar and she is off the wall crazy. Mood swings are there, but like the OP said, she turns violent when she drinks. She tried to commit suicide a bunch of times and she attacked some guy with a knife once. She's taking her meds now so she's a little better

 

I love this girl a lot and i never felt the way i feel for her for anyone else before. Its almost like knowing the road you are walking down on is not a smart choice but you will do it anyway before of your love for her.

 

She probably SHOULD be dependent on them if she has Bipolar (at least for the timebeing). Some of the basis behind the disorder IS the fact that your chemistry is out-of-whack and needs medication to normalize.

 

Has she been properly evaluated and diagnosed and has she been in treatment before?

 

I would consider making an agreement with her that the only way you will support your relationship is if she continues and is willing to participate in on-going treatment of her disorder. If she's not game, I would think long and hard about the challenges you WILL face ahead. If you are still willing to be by her side through all of those rough times even IF she does NOT seek any treatment, then be prepared for a long road!! Slip ups and difficult times will be ahead even if she has things under control, but that's a very different prospect than living with someone and spending your life with someone who refuses all help.

 

Yes.

It did not end well.

She, too did not want to take her meds, and drinking (and other things) made it worse. A lot.

 

i've dated 2, if she won't take meds, I would re-evaluate where you are in life and if you want to marry this girl. "not being around her when she drinks" doesn't work. Especially when you live together, wait till she comes home drunk at 4 am and unloads on you. Trust me, I was there for years.

 

I would walk away when I still can....bipolar is a serious medical condition and shouldn't be taken lightly. Plus, she should be taking her meds. If she turns violent, you never know what she may pull on you or your kids (if you two decides to marry and have kids). You're with her just because you feel bad for her won't cut it!

 

You're a glutton for punishment just dating her...and you're thinking about marriage?

 

My only contribution is that you love her the way she can be, not the way she is. While it may feel very rewarding to be with that potential someone and possibly know that you are why they are as great as they are, there is always the risk that they will become the person they really are.

 

 

Psych meds are the one type that it is probably OK to be dependent on.

I have dated a girl that was likely bipolar. She had the same violent mood swings when she was mixed with alcohol. I couldn't stay with her. She was pulling me down as well. The difference is that I was not in love with her.

You need to be honest with her and tell her that this is an issue for you. It is not going to go away. I hate to say it but this is a glimpse of what you are probably going to deal with. The only good thing is that she has a treatable condition.

 

Yes.
Lasted about a month. She had too many problems.

 

I dated one and almost married her, we were living together (almost had a kid together... she aborted on a whim one day).

I would get things thrown at me, name calling, violent temper (with or without drinking). One day she just walked out the door and never spoke to me again. Never answered my calls, nothing. It fucked me up for a long time because I loved her. I know now that I am much better off for not getting hitched to her, but at the time is blew chunks.

Like these peeps have been saying, I would strongly re-evaluate your situation if she isnt willing to take meds. Oh and another thing, who cares if she becomes dependant on meds (its not like the bipolar will go away one day, she is gonna have it the rest of her life)...

 

your marring a ticking time bomb man.. with no time in the front to tell you when it will go off and how many times it will go off.. for the rest of your life..

do yourself a favor. have her evaluated, and take meds if neccessary.

if not, ditch her and move on with your life.

There is always something better over the rainbow.

 

That sucks. She must have been hawt for you to put up with that and almost marry her.

 

thats what started the whole asian girl thing for me

 

 

If she doesn't want to take meds, at the very least she should not drink.
If she's not willing to treat herself, you have to think long and hard if you will be able to deal with it for the rest of your life. I would hate for you to make concessions now and years down the line you find yourself regretting your decision. Good luck with it, hopefully you two can come to a compromise.

 

I hate it when they just make a thread a disappear..no updates??

I hope she didn't off him..

 

2 different bi-polar chicks, does that account for 4 crazy bitches by whiskers standards?

 

double

 

 

She has not killed me YET. She acts very nicely when she is not drinking but almost turns into a different, violent person when she drinks. However she is not an alcoholic.

 

She needs to stop drinking or you leave her..You know the problem and how to solve it but you choose to live like this..man up.

 

So you are going to wait for the day she kills you first for you to realize what you're fighting against?

 

 

Lulz, same story with me. I dated a hot bi-polar asian girl and lived with her for nearly 3 years. Was considering popping the question (had close to 5k saved up), but then said no too risky. Ended up supercharging my old car instead.

Now all I tend to date are asian chicks. God damn yellow fever.

 

I have since, however, found a cure for my yellow fever. latin chicks... damn those thick juicy latin asses... yup, I'm drooling right now

 

Never, ever. I am allergic to drama.

 

I'm 1/2 Latino and grew up in a very Spanish community during my first 20 years. Nevermind being bipolar, they were naturally nuts.

 

I get it now.

 

I was a drama junkie in my 20's. Every chick I dated. Then I found my wife.

 

Yea man, latin women are nuts; but so are those asians!

 

Mine is Bolivian. Hispanic women in my experience do have a bit of a temper in general but in her case its very different.

 

Im married to asian and I don't thinks she's bi polar but perhaps ODD rather. I do love her and were going on 3 years married 6 years total. I got the yellow fever as well, better than a lazy, non trusting american women.

 

My brothers ex wife was extremely bi polar. It ran in her family. Her mom tried to commit suicide multiple times and finally succeed last year, she had a knife fetish. Anyways my bros ex tried to OD on pills while he was serving in Iraq. My bro went on a 2nd tour in iraq to find divorce papers on the table when he got home. She is def fucked up, she is not allowed to drink or do drugs. She does take her mess and it helps. They have a 7 year old daughter whom she has big problems raising on her own. She put the kid in the psych ward@ age 5. Also put her on meds because she cried and complained alot. The daughter doesn't even want to live with her mommy, my parents were recently easing her for a year then sent her back with her mommy. I feel really bad for my niece she's I a bad situation and she's growing up fast. Were in Pittsburgh the moms in cinch and the dads in Seattle. ... we just need to get full custody, the moms is a hugh risk because of her bi polar