Engagement/Marriage
#41
GEEZER
Originally Posted by amisconception
No offense, but you're an idiot and like a typical moron you're not rebutting a single argument I made.
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LOL..I have been married 11 HAPPY years..that pretty much says I have EXPERIENCE being married and all you have put down is what you assume it to be.
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Call me when you can speak from EXPERIENCE.
#42
GEEZER
Oh..and sorry she dumped you.
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#43
Originally Posted by 1killercls
No rebuttal required you dolt.
LOL..I have been married 11 HAPPY years..that pretty much says I have EXPERIENCE being married and all you have put down is what you assume it to be.
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Call me when you can speak from EXPERIENCE.
LOL..I have been married 11 HAPPY years..that pretty much says I have EXPERIENCE being married and all you have put down is what you assume it to be.
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Call me when you can speak from EXPERIENCE.
So just because it's working for Killer at the moment it therefor works for everyone else in this country?
You really are an idiot.
#44
Originally Posted by 1killercls
Oh..and sorry she dumped you. ![rofl](https://acurazine.com/forums/images/smilies/rofl.gif)
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That's mature.
It has nothing to do with being dumped. And no, I wasn't dumped. Even if I was it's irrelevant to the points I'm making.
#45
Hey everyone just wanted to tell about a guy that survived a 16-story fall from a building.
http://www.startribune.com/local/11586351.html
Just so you guys know it is now safe to jump from 16-story buildings.
http://www.startribune.com/local/11586351.html
Just so you guys know it is now safe to jump from 16-story buildings.
#46
GEEZER
Originally Posted by amisconception
Right so you're denying the divorce statistics just because you're happy? And you're calling me a dolt?
So just because it's working for Killer at the moment it therefor works for everyone else in this country?
You really are an idiot.
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#47
GEEZER
Originally Posted by amisconception
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That's mature.
It has nothing to do with being dumped. And no, I wasn't dumped. Even if I was it's irrelevant to the points I'm making.
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#48
GEEZER
Age Women Men
Under 20 years old 27.6% 11.7%
20 to 24 years old 36.6% 38.8%
25 to 29 years old 16.4% 22.3%
30 to 34 years old 8.5% 11.6%
35 to 39 years old 5.1% 6.5%
http://www.divorcerate.org/
Under 20 years old 27.6% 11.7%
20 to 24 years old 36.6% 38.8%
25 to 29 years old 16.4% 22.3%
30 to 34 years old 8.5% 11.6%
35 to 39 years old 5.1% 6.5%
http://www.divorcerate.org/
#49
Originally Posted by 1killercls
Well you were wrong on your # it is 37%.
"The National Center for Health Statistics recently released a report which found that 43
percent of first marriages end in separation or divorce within 15 years. The study is based on
the National Survey of Family Growth, a nationally representative sample of women age 15 to
44 in 1995. Bramlett, Matthew and William Mosher. "First marriage dissolution, divorce, and
remariage: United States," Advance Data From Vital and Health Statistics; No.323. Hyattsville
MD: National Center for Health Statistics: 2 1.
"Data in the Census report were collected from both men and women, age 15 and over, and a
different methodology was used than in the NCHS report.
"About 50% of first marriages for men under age 45 may end in
divorce, and between 44 and 52% of women's first marriages
may end in divorce for these age groups. The likelihood of a divorce
is lowest for men and women age 60, for whom 36 % of men
and 32 percent of women may divorce from their first marriage by
the end of their lives. A similar statistical exercise was performed in
1975 using marital history data from the Current Population Survey
(CPS). Projections based on those data implied that about one-third of
married persons who were 25 to 35 years old in 1975 would end their
first marriage in divorce.
"This cohort of people, who in 1996 were about 45 to 55 years old, had
already exceeded these projections as about 40% of men and
women in these ages had divorced from their first marriage. Current
projections now indicate that the proportion could be as high as
50% for persons now in their early forties."
http://www.census.gov/prod/2002pubs/p70-80.pdf
No I am saying that just because you suck at making it work does not mean everyone else will.
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#50
Originally Posted by 1killercls
Age Women Men
Under 20 years old 27.6% 11.7%
20 to 24 years old 36.6% 38.8%
25 to 29 years old 16.4% 22.3%
30 to 34 years old 8.5% 11.6%
35 to 39 years old 5.1% 6.5%
http://www.divorcerate.org/
Under 20 years old 27.6% 11.7%
20 to 24 years old 36.6% 38.8%
25 to 29 years old 16.4% 22.3%
30 to 34 years old 8.5% 11.6%
35 to 39 years old 5.1% 6.5%
http://www.divorcerate.org/
But from that same site (you noob):
What is the current divorce rate in America?
It is frequently reported that the divorce rate in America is 50%. This data is not accurately correct, however, it is reasonably close to actual. The Americans for Divorce Reform estimates that "Probably, 40 or possibly even 50 percent of marriages will end in divorce if current trends continue.", which is actually a projection.
"50% of all marriages in the America end in divorce."
The above statement about the divorce rate in America hides all the details about distribution, however.
It is frequently reported that the divorce rate in America is 50%. This data is not accurately correct, however, it is reasonably close to actual. The Americans for Divorce Reform estimates that "Probably, 40 or possibly even 50 percent of marriages will end in divorce if current trends continue.", which is actually a projection.
"50% of all marriages in the America end in divorce."
The above statement about the divorce rate in America hides all the details about distribution, however.
Jesus where did you learn about statistics?
#51
Suzuka Master
Originally Posted by amisconception
Hey everyone just wanted to tell about a guy that survived a 16-story fall from a building.
http://www.startribune.com/local/11586351.html
Just so you guys know it is now safe to jump from 16-story buildings.
http://www.startribune.com/local/11586351.html
Just so you guys know it is now safe to jump from 16-story buildings.
#52
Originally Posted by sasha
Sorry, but that's a bad analogy. You can't compare the laws of physics and human biology with human behavior.
One man survived falling from a 16 story building. Therefor it's OK to extrapolate that it will (not can, not maybe) work for everyone else.
Looks good to me.
#53
GEEZER
You sound totally jaded in your posts that's all.
Just because you dont like strong women doesn't mean they are all bad or have some agenda of entrapment.
Just because you dont like strong women doesn't mean they are all bad or have some agenda of entrapment.
#54
GEEZER
Originally Posted by amisconception
One man is married happily for 11 years. Therefor it's OK to extrapolate that it will (not can, not maybe) work for everyone else.
One man survived falling from a 16 story building. Therefor it's OK to extrapolate that it will (not can, not maybe) work for everyone else.
Looks good to me.
Me too.
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#55
Team Owner
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Originally Posted by amisconception
I don't really understand what benefit your marriage actually brought you, though. Other than self-induced happy feelings.
Also, if you really are afraid of the stats, then stay single. Don't get married. I never really thought about the stats. Never really cared much for it.
As for the financial aspect of it. I said before I probably won't have more cash, or maybe I would piss it away on cheap women, beer and cars like I did before I met my wife. I do make a lot more than my wife does, but if she didn't really care about being home with me and my son, she could make as much as I do. It's just not worth it.
I look at the fact that my parent were married for 26 years when my dad passed away and her parents have been married for close to 50 years. And a lot of my friends' parents are still married. I think the stats are what they are because a lot of people choose divorce over working out their problems. I hope to never have to make that choice. And if I do, then so be it. I'm just not going to live my life in fear of it.
#56
amis- it seems like you are saying that all divorces are because of the women, have you ever stopped and thought that maybe it could be the mans fault too? I know many friends where the girl actually makes more then her husband. You cant say that it is the girls fault, cause many could say that it is the mans as well. Women are not the route of all evil in a marriage. You have stereo typed all women to be money hungry and evil. It seems to me that Rav and Killer have found someone that they want the world to know they love and want to grow old with. That is what marriage is a sign of to me that you love and care for the other so much you want to tell everyone.
If you ever found the girl that treated you the way you thought she should and was with her and cared about her so much you would you think of marriage her? Or do you think you will forever be against marriage?
If you ever found the girl that treated you the way you thought she should and was with her and cared about her so much you would you think of marriage her? Or do you think you will forever be against marriage?
#57
GEEZER
Originally Posted by RaviNJCLs
I really don't think of it as self induced.
Also, if you really are afraid of the stats, then stay single. Don't get married. I never really thought about the stats. Never really cared much for it.
As for the financial aspect of it. I said before I probably won't have more cash, or maybe I would piss it away on cheap women, beer and cars like I did before I met my wife. I do make a lot more than my wife does, but if she didn't really care about being home with me and my son, she could make as much as I do. It's just not worth it.
I look at the fact that my parent were married for 26 years when my dad passed away and her parents have been married for close to 50 years. And a lot of my friends' parents are still married. I think the stats are what they are because a lot of people choose divorce over working out their problems. I hope to never have to make that choice. And if I do, then so be it. I'm just not going to live my life in fear of it.
Also, if you really are afraid of the stats, then stay single. Don't get married. I never really thought about the stats. Never really cared much for it.
As for the financial aspect of it. I said before I probably won't have more cash, or maybe I would piss it away on cheap women, beer and cars like I did before I met my wife. I do make a lot more than my wife does, but if she didn't really care about being home with me and my son, she could make as much as I do. It's just not worth it.
I look at the fact that my parent were married for 26 years when my dad passed away and her parents have been married for close to 50 years. And a lot of my friends' parents are still married. I think the stats are what they are because a lot of people choose divorce over working out their problems. I hope to never have to make that choice. And if I do, then so be it. I'm just not going to live my life in fear of it.
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#58
Re: your reply about living together..... Good luck finding someone who you've dated for a long time, whom you care about a lot, and who cares about you, but who will want to live in two separate homes for the life of your relationship. Does that mean you'd be willing to date someone for your lifetime, but still live apart?
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Just that most people learn from it but then don't paint everyone with the same brush. You make it sound like you'll never find anyone you'll truly be happy with cuz all women suck.
Re: your reply about living together..... Good luck finding someone who you've dated for a long time, whom you care about a lot, and who cares about you, but who will want to live in two separate homes for the life of your relationship. Does that mean you'd be willing to date someone for your lifetime, but still live apart?
Re: your reply about living together..... Good luck finding someone who you've dated for a long time, whom you care about a lot, and who cares about you, but who will want to live in two separate homes for the life of your relationship. Does that mean you'd be willing to date someone for your lifetime, but still live apart?
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#60
I don't like masculine women, however. If a chick busting your balls is your idea of a good time so be it.
#61
Earth-bound misfit
What I've learned from this thread:
Women are EVIL BITCHES!!
I should end myself now before I connive to steal all of some poor man's money and security because I don't know how to attain those things on my own. And if I don't watch it my vagina will go berserk and try to convince hapless heroes to marry me unwitting of their eventual doom. Poor, poor men.
Wait, stop.
I'm a woman, and I'm divorced...why don't I have all his money and assets? What did I do wrong??? Dammit, I knew I shoulda consulted the Women's Handguide to Screwing Over Innocent Men that I received as part of my vagina birthright. Damn. Guess I'll have to prime my girlyparts to try again...
Alright girlyparts, gather round, we need a pep talk!!
Women are EVIL BITCHES!!
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Alright girlyparts, gather round, we need a pep talk!!
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#62
And since when do you actually need to experience something to have an informed opinion of it? You don't.
I know you're too dense to understand that, but at least it's on the record here.
Therefore the man who says you are speaking with no experience in the matter of marriage who has experience with marriage says you are wrong.
Really, are you this stupid? Is this all you can? Try to disqualify my points without actually addressing them? You really are a small man. I don't give a shit how tall you are.
#63
What I've learned from this thread:
Women are EVIL BITCHES!!
I should end myself now before I connive to steal all of some poor man's money and security because I don't know how to attain those things on my own. And if I don't watch it my vagina will go berserk and try to convince hapless heroes to marry me unwitting of their eventual doom. Poor, poor men.
Wait, stop.
I'm a woman, and I'm divorced...why don't I have all his money and assets? What did I do wrong??? Dammit, I knew I shoulda consulted the Women's Handguide to Screwing Over Innocent Men that I received as part of my vagina birthright. Damn. Guess I'll have to prime my girlyparts to try again...
Alright girlyparts, gather round, we need a pep talk!!![Scrib](https://acurazine.com/forums/images/smilies/cheer.gif)
Women are EVIL BITCHES!!
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Alright girlyparts, gather round, we need a pep talk!!
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#64
Read people.
It has to do with marriage being a broken institution and only serviving (today) as a means of subsidiving a woman's lifestyle.
Men receive no concrete or legal benefits from marriage. ZERO.
Until you can show me a specific legal benefit to marriage FOR A MAN, my opinion stands.
Just because you don't like to hear it doesn't mean that you have to knock me for my opinion.
Re: your reply about living together..... Good luck finding someone who you've dated for a long time, whom you care about a lot, and who cares about you, but who will want to live in two separate homes for the life of your relationship. Does that mean you'd be willing to date someone for your lifetime, but still live apart?
Some real codependent people here.
#65
Earth-bound misfit
#66
Earth-bound misfit
Oh, and I'm sad that the
smilie is no longer animated. ![Frown](https://acurazine.com/forums/images/smilies/frown.gif)
And the frownie face is purple now. Wtf.
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And the frownie face is purple now. Wtf.
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#67
Gotcha. Marriage is all about legality and laws protecting men and women from the joys and downfalls of what may occur during that time. ....Loud and clear. Do you have potential GFs fill out contracts and read the fine print before dating you too...Just so that they know in advance just how pissed you'll be when they screw you over?
#68
Then who induced them? The happy Gods?
@ you thinking you've told me something profound. Obviously my default state is to NOT get married.
So you're saying were it not for your wife you wouldn't know how to manage your money?
My parents are both divorced. My mother was divorced, my step-father was divorced from his original marriage. I have friends in unhappy marriages. I have multiple friends of multiple families with themselves multiple friends with multiple familes who are divorced and/or miserable.
But I'm not using that as the only basis for my opinion. I'm using real statistics to infer that marriage is broken and ultimately really only beneficial for women.
Hence why the only people really defending marriage are women, and men who've accepted marriage blindly.
Also, if you really are afraid of the stats, then stay single. Don't get married. I never really thought about the stats. Never really cared much for it.
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As for the financial aspect of it. I said before I probably won't have more cash, or maybe I would piss it away on cheap women, beer and cars like I did before I met my wife. I do make a lot more than my wife does, but if she didn't really care about being home with me and my son, she could make as much as I do. It's just not worth it.
I look at the fact that my parent were married for 26 years when my dad passed away and her parents have been married for close to 50 years. And a lot of my friends' parents are still married. I think the stats are what they are because a lot of people choose divorce over working out their problems. I hope to never have to make that choice. And if I do, then so be it. I'm just not going to live my life in fear of it.
But I'm not using that as the only basis for my opinion. I'm using real statistics to infer that marriage is broken and ultimately really only beneficial for women.
Hence why the only people really defending marriage are women, and men who've accepted marriage blindly.
#69
#70
Gotcha. Marriage is all about legality and laws protecting men and women from the joys and downfalls of what may occur during that time. ....Loud and clear. Do you have potential GFs fill out contracts and read the fine print before dating you too...Just so that they know in advance just how pissed you'll be when they screw you over?
And I'm not worried about women screwing me over if there's nothing they can do TO me to screw me over.
And yes, marriage is a legal institution. Hence the need for divorce lawyers and marriage certificates. So while you celebrate it as this wonderful and divine establishment blessed by God (or whatever), without a prenup, the courts (who favor women in divorce settlements) run your life and establish how assets are broken up, etc.
#71
They sure can be. Do you disagree?
I should end myself now before I connive to steal all of some poor man's money and security because I don't know how to attain those things on my own. And if I don't watch it my vagina will go berserk and try to convince hapless heroes to marry me unwitting of their eventual doom. Poor, poor men.
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Wait, stop.
I'm a woman, and I'm divorced...why don't I have all his money and assets? What did I do wrong??? Dammit, I knew I shoulda consulted the Women's Handguide to Screwing Over Innocent Men that I received as part of my vagina birthright. Damn. Guess I'll have to prime my girlyparts to try again...
You should have gotten a better divorce attorney. It's your right afterall.
Maybe your husband had no assets.
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Maybe your husband had no assets.
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#72
Earth-bound misfit
It really has nothing to do with never finding anyone to truly be happy with.
Read people.
It has to do with marriage being a broken institution and only serviving (today) as a means of subsidiving a woman's lifestyle.
Men receive no concrete or legal benefits from marriage. ZERO.
Until you can show me a specific legal benefit to marriage FOR A MAN, my opinion stands.
Just because you don't like to hear it doesn't mean that you have to knock me for my opinion.
I don't NEEEEEEEEEEEEED one woman in my life FOR the rest of my life. I realize women are in abundant supply. If a girl doesn't want to be in MY life the way I want to spend it then she can find someone else. I don't have a problem with that whatsoever.
Some real codependent people here.
Read people.
It has to do with marriage being a broken institution and only serviving (today) as a means of subsidiving a woman's lifestyle.
Men receive no concrete or legal benefits from marriage. ZERO.
Until you can show me a specific legal benefit to marriage FOR A MAN, my opinion stands.
Just because you don't like to hear it doesn't mean that you have to knock me for my opinion.
I don't NEEEEEEEEEEEEED one woman in my life FOR the rest of my life. I realize women are in abundant supply. If a girl doesn't want to be in MY life the way I want to spend it then she can find someone else. I don't have a problem with that whatsoever.
Some real codependent people here.
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That said, the only thing that matters to YOU is what works for YOU in YOUR set of specific circumstances. If you don't ever want to get married, then don't. It's that simple, as far I can see.
I do think that some men seek the same intangible benefits from marriage that women seek. They like knowing that their woman wears their ring that was given as a symbol of the love they share. Maybe that sounds sappy to you because you haven't been there, or maybe you have been there and found you didn't care for it. Either way, to each their own, no?
Marriage also announces to the world, "hey, I'm taken - don't bother barking up my tree." And the ceremony itself is a rite of passage and a celebration of commitment that involves the family and loved ones of the couple in an event meant to further cement their relationship. Is it truly necessary? Of course not.
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#73
My parents are both divorced. My mother was divorced, my step-father was divorced from his original marriage. I have friends in unhappy marriages. I have multiple friends of multiple families with themselves multiple friends with multiple familes who are divorced and/or miserable.
Shocking!
I figured you couldn't have gotten THIS jaded about ALL women with only having been screwed over by a girl. You've had it all around you to help drill it into you.
I don't fault you for not wanting to get married, just like I don't fault people who don't want children. It's certainly not for everyone. I'm more curious as to why you think living with someone or marrying someone somehow announces weakness in your manhood, means you're co-dependent, can't think for yourself, can't work if both people want to work to make it work, and that statistics and previous experiences must dictate everyone around you and the rest your life.
There are a few people very close to me who I can't see ever wanting to get married, but are okay with long-term relationships. In fact, I'd be surprised if they ever wanted to marry. Some people just think it's easier to end a relationship rather than a marriage. I guess it makes them feel like they have an easier way out if things don't work down the road.
#74
Earth-bound misfit
Originally Posted by amisconception
They sure can be. Do you disagree?
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You should have gotten a better divorce attorney. It's your right afterall.
Maybe your husband had no assets.
Maybe your husband had no assets.
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#75
Senior Moderator
What I've learned from this thread:
Women are EVIL BITCHES!!
I should end myself now before I connive to steal all of some poor man's money and security because I don't know how to attain those things on my own. And if I don't watch it my vagina will go berserk and try to convince hapless heroes to marry me unwitting of their eventual doom. Poor, poor men.
Wait, stop.
I'm a woman, and I'm divorced...why don't I have all his money and assets? What did I do wrong??? Dammit, I knew I shoulda consulted the Women's Handguide to Screwing Over Innocent Men that I received as part of my vagina birthright. Damn. Guess I'll have to prime my girlyparts to try again...
Alright girlyparts, gather round, we need a pep talk!!![Scrib](https://acurazine.com/forums/images/smilies/cheer.gif)
Women are EVIL BITCHES!!
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Alright girlyparts, gather round, we need a pep talk!!
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#76
Wealth is key for marriage, study claims
A man's riches, not his looks, are most important if he wants to settle down, according to a pioneering study of the "marriage market" by psychologists.
Although there have been many lab based studies that have suggested that women are drawn to men of high status, power and wealth, rather than just looks, a new study provides hard evidence of the marriage market in action.
The survey of more than 20,000 American men, based on historical data from the turn of the last century, suggests how when men become in short supply, for instance in the wake of the First World War, women are happy to put up with poorer partners of lesser social sway.
And when men are commonplace, women are in the driving seat and become correspondingly more choosy, driving a hard bargain for the richest and most powerful men, with the marriage prospects of a male pauper being "drastically reduced".
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/earth/mai...cirmarr112.xml
A man's riches, not his looks, are most important if he wants to settle down, according to a pioneering study of the "marriage market" by psychologists.
Although there have been many lab based studies that have suggested that women are drawn to men of high status, power and wealth, rather than just looks, a new study provides hard evidence of the marriage market in action.
The survey of more than 20,000 American men, based on historical data from the turn of the last century, suggests how when men become in short supply, for instance in the wake of the First World War, women are happy to put up with poorer partners of lesser social sway.
And when men are commonplace, women are in the driving seat and become correspondingly more choosy, driving a hard bargain for the richest and most powerful men, with the marriage prospects of a male pauper being "drastically reduced".
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/earth/mai...cirmarr112.xml
#77
I hear what you're saying, and in YOUR case, perhaps that's true. I think of several couples off the top of my head, though, where the woman is the primary or ONLY breadwinner, and it's the man who has gained financial security from the marriage.
And don't forget other legal benefits/issues such as tax breaks, insurance, rights involving decision-making etc. You know, all the things discussed in the gay marriage thread. ![Wink](https://acurazine.com/forums/images/smilies/wink.gif)
That said, the only thing that matters to YOU is what works for YOU in YOUR set of specific circumstances. If you don't ever want to get married, then don't. It's that simple, as far I can see.
I do think that some men seek the same intangible benefits from marriage that women seek. They like knowing that their woman wears their ring that was given as a symbol of the love they share. Maybe that sounds sappy to you because you haven't been there, or maybe you have been there and found you didn't care for it. Either way, to each their own, no?
Marriage also announces to the world, "hey, I'm taken - don't bother barking up my tree." And the ceremony itself is a rite of passage and a celebration of commitment that involves the family and loved ones of the couple in an event meant to further cement their relationship. Is it truly necessary? Of course not.![Smile](https://acurazine.com/forums/images/smilies/smile.gif)
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That said, the only thing that matters to YOU is what works for YOU in YOUR set of specific circumstances. If you don't ever want to get married, then don't. It's that simple, as far I can see.
I do think that some men seek the same intangible benefits from marriage that women seek. They like knowing that their woman wears their ring that was given as a symbol of the love they share. Maybe that sounds sappy to you because you haven't been there, or maybe you have been there and found you didn't care for it. Either way, to each their own, no?
Marriage also announces to the world, "hey, I'm taken - don't bother barking up my tree." And the ceremony itself is a rite of passage and a celebration of commitment that involves the family and loved ones of the couple in an event meant to further cement their relationship. Is it truly necessary? Of course not.
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I will, though, mention that I am talking about general trends.
Women love to make all these points about themselves and their own experiences and about how unique they are. That still does not change either trends or statistics and the inferences that can be made from those statistics. As a young man, with a future ahead of me, not looking at those trends with a cold eye is foolish.
And just because there have been SOME good experiences, and I'm not talking about 3 generations ago when times were different, does not mean that it is SMART to go into marriage blindly (which is what some of you propose).
Here's a quick note folks: Love is not everything. Your happy feelings are not everything. Contrary to Disney and Hollywood fantasies that are shoved down our throats, that's not how it works. There are real, beneath the surface issues here that are a hard pill for some of you to swallow.
Don't attack me I'm just the messenger.
#78
You keep posting studies and statistics. The thing is, relationships (whether it be romantic or just friendships) are not based only on logic or studies....they involve people who have EMOTIONS. It makes a world of difference when you stop looking at numbers and think of it in terms of living beings.
#79
It's one reason why divorced men end up in relationships quickly after divorcing.
I don't fault you for not wanting to get married, just like I don't fault people who don't want children. It's certainly not for everyone. I'm more curious as to why you think living with someone or marrying someone somehow announces weakness in your manhood, means you're co-dependent, can't think for yourself, can't work if both people want to work to make it work, and that statistics and previous experiences must dictate everyone around you and the rest your life.
And again, what's the point of making a marraige "work" for a man if there is no sense in getting married in the first place? It's highly irrational if you consider not only the long-term potential consequences of losing a lot of $ in the process but the fact that putting on a wedding ring and signing a marriage certificate brings you absolutely nothing.
But that's why women use their vaginas. It's their most powerful tool into coercing a man into marriage. Women know that they have power in their sexuality. So they use it to snatch men.
Sorry if that hurts your feelings but it's part of your biology.
There are a few people very close to me who I can't see ever wanting to get married, but are okay with long-term relationships. In fact, I'd be surprised if they ever wanted to marry. Some people just think it's easier to end a relationship rather than a marriage. I guess it makes them feel like they have an easier way out if things don't work down the road.
I don't knock people for being married, though. I do however believe some people shouldn't be married.
#80
Originally Posted by amisconception
Here's a quick note folks: Love is not everything. Your happy feelings are not everything. Contrary to Disney and Hollywood fantasies that are shoved down our throats, that's not how it works. There are real, beneath the surface issues here that are a hard pill for some of you to swallow.
Don't attack me I'm just the messenger.
Don't attack me I'm just the messenger.
Every relationship of any kind (family, friendship, relationship) evolves and goes through ups and downs. Do you really think that's a shocking statement? Maybe you just run when that time comes, so you think that news should surprise us.