Today, I haven't been feeling well cause I got a slight cold and bodyaches, but this situation made me more worried today. We have always been honest with each other cause that is the way we are. We've only been dating since Halloween, but she shared something with me that put a shock to my face. She told me that 2 guys before me, this guy she dated for a few weeks, she said that he went down on her and that's it, but the next day she found out that he was a convict and was sent to jail. Next, it was the shocking part, she told me that this guy's roommate called her and it was urgent stating that the guy that went down on her was HIV positive. I was shocked and she told me that they didn't have intercourse or anything else, she was just worried that the guy could have cuts in his toungue, cause that is the only way u can spread AID/HIV is through unprotected sex, needles, blood transfusions, if there is a live cut, but she didn't see any cuts in his tougue. She then told me that she got tested for HIV 3 months later, but came out negative, but the Doctor told her the chances are slim she could've gotten HIV/AIDS and that she has to go back for another HIV test at Jan. 30, 06. I told her that I was scared when she told me and I was speechless, but I told her I don't want to leave her cause of this cause she had a 1st test that came out negative, but I told her the most thing I was worried was the 2nd test in Jan. 30th. I'm afraid, but I don't want to leave her, I'm just hoping and praying and so is she that she doesn't have HIV. I haven't done it with her yet, just making out and stuff. Now, I have to delay even more for my safety and her. I'm confused.

 

take some chill/down time, if anything just be supportive of her during this tough time, I'm sure she's trippin harder if not as hard as you are.

 

i'm glad she told me, but now it's made me more worried and i told her the worst scenario is that it's 50/50 she may be negative again and positive. it just sucks that she can't get tested sooner cause of the 6 month period to detect the HIV.

 

shes probably fine. no point in worrying until you know for sure.

 

It's pretty much impossible she got any thing other than a good (?) lick job.
And the first test confirms 99.999999999% of that.

One of us in this thread has a better chance of hitting the PowerBall jackpot that the 2nd test coming out positive.

After this is behind...MAKE HER PAY FOR YOUR SUFFERING, i mean MAKE HER PAY !

(After that you gotta decide what to do with her, I dont want to use the word but seems she'as been around the rather rough block a fews time too many )

 

oh yeah what do u suggest?

yeah all she got was a good lick job. i'm just feeling i need to vent and have a worry in myself.

 

fxck the shit outta her = sex toy until you find wife candidate then

 

Okay, so you're worried that you contracted HIV and about her status? I take it you have had unprotected sex with her? If I were you, I wouldn't be too concerned. First of all, I'll cite the same study that I cited in the previous thread that demonstrated that the rate of HIV transmission in receptive oral sex if 0-0.4%, and the rate for mucosal membrane exposure is about 0.1% (Euro-NONOPEP Study).

Second, she tested negative at 90 days. The CDC considers a 90 day test conclusive. Obviously her doctor wants her to take another test for some reason, and I suspect that it is because there have been a very few cases of individuals who haven't seroconverted to HIV positive until up to six months post exposure. This is exceptionally unlikely. You really have very little reason to be concerned Getting a test at 90 days might help to allay your fears, however.

 

 

no, i haven't had sex with her, 2 guys before me, she had just oral sex, like he licked her vaginal area with his tongue that it's. she said that he wasn't bleeding or didn't have any cuts on his tongue, but they didn't sleep together or anything. all, i've done is makeout with her, play with her titties, and some tongue to tongue action that's all.

 

Then you didn't get HIV from her, and chances are INCREDIBLY unlikely that she is infected either. In fact, your more likely to get run over by a 737 while driving down the road in Chicago.

 

I will have better chance of winning the PowerBall Jackpot and bump into Osama in LA.

 

thanks typesaddict.

u're wise beyond ur 19 yrs

 

Thanks, and best of luck with the six month follow up test. It can be very stressful even when you're nearly certain you're healthy.

 

That's a scary situation, but the probability of it happening was very low. I know because I felt the same way back in my wilder days when I found out that I got oral sex from someone who was positive a few years ago. I nearly lost my mind; I got tested 6 (yes SIX) times since it happened back in 2002. Each one was negative (thank God), but for the first 3 tests I was scared. Especially since the tests take a week to come back. It's a terrible feeling waiting like that. I didn't believe that the test was really right, I thought they could have made a mistake. This scare can drive someone out of their mind. The only thing to do is wait for the second test to put her mind (and yours) at ease.

 

Well, I had a speaker from AIDS center in class the other day. He said it takes 6 months for HIV to show up. So that means if you got infected today, you wont get tested postive till 6 months from now. Maybe the reason the doctor told her to get back in Jan is to wait for that 6 months period?

I heard the testing process is very simple now. All they have to do is take a swipe from your mouth and you will see your result in 30 mins.

 

After all this crap is sorted out, asker what the hell she was doing with a convict... Chicks really know how to pick their guys these days...

 

LOL that was the first thing I thought. Plus the fact he got thrown back into jail probably means by the looks of him and the way he acts he probably wasn't a winner.

 

He's like a young Dr. Drew :ghey:

 

I was wondering about this too but didn't want to bring it up

 

Yeah... this girl has to go. I've been down a similar road. A girl I was dating had a scummy "friend" and I just didn't like it one bit. I wasn't going to take the chance that in ten years when there's a ring on her finger and she cheats on me. I got rid of her. Some people think thats selfish. Maybe they're right. Sometimes it pays to be selfish.

 

Dr. Drew is a hack.

He's constantly trying to satisy both parties which doesn't work. SOmetimes two people just have to throw in the towel anf find a better match.

 

I'm having confused thoughts right now. She told me that she has dated 6 guys before me including her ex-bf. the first thing that troubled me more was that the fact that she had a guy friend since high school and she told me that i have nothing to worry about, i asked her that 3 times. then, she made well she told me that she didn't know that this guy was from an ex-convict cause she told me that she can't do background checks on every single guy she dates. Why does this have to happen to me, and to think all the stuff I paid for her on 9 dates, all the restaurants and i bought her a dozen roses and asked her if she would be my gf. now, i feel betrayed and have a broken heart kinda.

 

Truthfully I would bounce.
If guy was an ex con for something stupid then he would have gotten out and did right then not gone back in. I can't picture an ex con being a stand up guy trying to clean up his life enough to fool a chick then getting tossed back in prison.

This shit would be a deal breaker for me seeing as you are not in a deep relationship and such.

 

i told her that why didn't she tell me sooner, like on our 3rd date, i dunno. i let her know now that she should've thought more with brain instead of her emotions and heart with the past guys.

do u think the reason i got is is from her? all i did on sunday was make out with her, we sucked each others tongues, and i played around with her boobies. nothing else occurred.

 

 

Has she made any attempt to verify what this roommate said? Seems that I would want to find that out before I drove myself and every one around me crazy.

 

you got plenty good feedbacks now how about some pics

 

Id say drop her & this is coming from a girl. She's been with more then she is saying.. To much mind games occuring there... How old is she??

 

23 yrs old

 

Drop her, she's clearly not trustworthy.

Secondly, you let her use you. You went on NINE dates, and she didn't even pay once? Sounds like a selfish bitch to me.

 

agreed. Could've at least offered..

 

This MAY make you feel better....I went for an STD test and my doctor told me that even if you had unprotected sex with a person with HIV, there is still a 1000 to 1 chance that you won't get it. I got the works done about 2 months ago...blood test and the "scrape". If he only went down on her...I would think about it...but not worry too much!

 

Well, all I'm waiting for is Jan. 30th.
To make that test thing. The mistake is that when I went back to visit my folks cause i needed to grab some stuff for my apt. and went back to my old room and I was talking to my gf, my folks overheard what I was talking about and I know they're giving me a hard time about it and told me that maybe I should move on. I said that I will wait out until Jan. 30th I told them. My folks have no clue about HIV, I don't think. They think I can get it from saliva and kissing and I'm like no, or it's rare.

 

+1 to the fact that she told you.
-1 that she told you late. She should've been very up front with you before ANYTHING.
+50,000 to the fact that you didn't make a rash decision and just running without thinking things through

In canada, it constitutes to assault with a deadly weapon (or something like that) if she knew ahead of time and had sex with ya. There's a high-profile case involving a football player having sex with some women however whether or not he knew about being HIV +ve is what needs to be proved.

At 23 and that many mates I'd be concerned but I mean if it were a guy we'd call him a stud so... Really, I think you're doing the best thing by just waiting it out. Once you have the results you can then proceed depending on the outcome. It's highly unlikely she's +ve but with that said I'd see if she's got anything else. HIV isn't the worst STD out there.

Anyway, the upcoming result will be a new start for you both. Don't go running now or making any rash decisions as you may end up regretting them.

 

I'm still now why she didn't tell me right away, but i forgot to say is that she has paid for things too when we've gone out. For instance I paid for the dinner and she paid for the movie, or I paid for dinner and she paid for bowling. But, is it true that if my gf gets tested at the end of Jan and she tests negative then is it safe sailing or she needs to get tested again after a full yr?

That was actually the last girl before this one I went out with who never paid squat for anything for 5 dates, that was horrible. I'm glad she said she felt like there was no romantic chemistry there cause I was about to tell her she was annoying that she didn't even offer to pay for anything.

 

Oh okay, comment rescinded then.

It's very disconcerting that she didn't tell you earlier. She still doesn't strike me as trustworthy. I wouldn't be surprised if she cheated on you at some point in the future. That's why I recommend you use a condom every time for the rest of however long you're dating her, AND you be careful and get tested together every 6 months if you're going to be dating. Unless she can prove beyond a doubt that you can trust her. But I still believe in using condoms for 100% of intercourse.

 

my suggestion to you, and it may be harsh, RUN MOTHER FUCKER RUN.... who cares how nice she is, she's got the HIV (maybe) and she let a ex con go down on her...

 

Damn, where do you find these girls??? And how long ago was this "2 guys before you"? ........a convict, .......this girl jumps in bed easily,......hope you are not thinking about a committed relationship because it sounds like she jumps from dog to dog like a flea,.......you might want to think about upping your standards..............

ANyway, highly highly doubtful she is HIV positive, I wouldn't touch her till the 2nd test came back though just in case.

 

what the fxck, still no ho pic !