Here's the quick back story. Girl I am crazy about, she thinks we're just really close friends. I've told her many times I want to be with her but she just doesn't feel the same way. I couldn't concentrate on things with talkin to her all the time (sometimes for 4 hours on end). So I decided that for 1 month I wouldn't pick up the phone. Its been a month and she's hella pissed.

Does she have a right to be mad? I mean I'm not her bf, she can't expect me to respond to her every time. I was busy, so why is she getting pissed?

My guess is she secretly has feelings for me in the back of her head but doesn't realize it. She says she's still stuck on her ex which is fine, but I dont want to be wasting my time right now if she's not ready to come around.

 

Well, put it this way, would you be mad at your best friend if he/she consciously ignored you for a month?

 

one of my friends, a female, i haven't talked in over a month, i've called her a few times, but i know she's busy, she's in dental school... i'm not mad or stressed, she'll call me when she has time. So no I wouldn't be

 

Maybe this girl knows you are ignoring her. That would piss me off.

 

ya i think she knows your purposely doing it, so i can see why she would be mad. has she said anything in her voicemails?

 

just "hey, haven't talk to you in a while, give me a call when you get a chance"

2 weeks in I even texted her that I was buy and out of it, she said ok, take care of yourself, and so I thought everything was cool...

 

ignore game is gay, grow a dick accept it, leave it alone, and if its gunna happen it will, if it dont move on.

 

As a girl, I definitely know if the guy is purposely doing it. For goodness's sake, you didn't pick up her calls for a month! Any girl in her shoes would figure what you are doing. I myself would get the signal after 1-2 unreturned calls. My belief is, if the guy really likes me, he will call me.

If you have decided that she is indeed just a friend, you should not be doing this on purpose. She knows you like her so she surely knows by now what you are doing. Seems like you are just trying to get back on her (which she has also probably figured out by now).

 

Nothing wrong with what you're doing. You need to cut off contact with her. You said you want to and she said . No reason for you to be in that friendship anymore - you were in it to get laid, she said no you're just a friend.

Go read www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html. It'll explain a whole lot to you.

 

Yo...I'm going through a similar situation. I was talking to this that I met at the gym as friends, but I knew that we both had feelings for each other. Well we decided about 2weeks ago to hangout on a friday. My mistake was bringing her to my house. We chilled and saw a movie after that we made out for about 1hour and affectionaly carressed her skin as she did the same. She ended up leaving my crib at around 3am and told me that she was liking me a lot. Then the next day she didn't call me (we had plans to chill that day, which was saturday) until 12pm. I wasn't upset just wondering what happened. She told me that her mom had a conversation with her about her and guys.....blah, blah,blah. The following day on Sunday I called her twice and she did not respond or even bothered to call back. I didn't hear from this girl for 2 weeks. what happened. I'm not sweating her so I haven't called her either. There's no need for me to catch feelings for this chick so soon. Even though she is gorgeous. I know, I know
I'm sorry when I get the chance I will post pics of her. In conclusion I talked to this girl in the begining for hours at time, made out with her, she told me that she liked me a lot, and then I get ignored by her. What the hell is going on? I'm clueless guys! This chick has dissed me nasty IMO. What do you guys think?

 

You can't ignore girls, that's playing games.

 

well Sasha, apparently she didn't get it, because in the first 2 weeks, she tried to contact me 10 times. Yes 10 TIMES!

I can basically say i'm in love with the girl, but talking with her is pretty painful, cause I know she doesn't feel the same say. I mean I get along with her so well, like I said we talk for HOURS, once we went for 8 hours straight, thats how well we get along! But I can't be having this interaction with just a friend. Talkin to her less is actually easier cause I can slowly forget her without having her as a constant reminder or how I care about her. Its a real shitty situation

 

"Hey, we've been on the phone for half an hour and I have some important work to do. I'll catch up with you next week when I have some free time."

How hard is that?

Even in the absence of the aspect, it's just plain rude to not return phone calls.

 

A big thanks from your cellular phone company is in order here.


Instead of backing off slowly which sometimes causes hard feelings and misunderstandings, it is probably better to break it off completely right away. If you don't, inevitably something will happen that will bring you right back into it full tilt and you'll have to start all over again trying to back out of the relationship. She's not going to end up returning your feelings in the long run. You'll get over her mostly in about 4-6 months and in a year, year and a half later, you won't even remember this. My 2 cents.

 

hgead games beet is all it is. females head games are like the special olympics only the retards need apply

 

I guess i'm retarded...not! It's not my loss but hers, so I could care less. I was
just wondering what the hell is wrong with this chick. I know she has drama in
her life but dayum...not to call the guy that you opened up too and made out with.
Like I said, "it's not my loss".

 

Yep.

 

yes she has the right to be mad... and u also have the right to not answer the phone

 

the ignoring game is a girly way of handling things...you told her straight up what you wanted, if she ain't down with that, move on

 

free for me, free nights and weekends!





i agree, but its almost hard to forget someone when they are calling you all the time, if i cut off the frienship, that won't fly with her either...

 

oye sala show us the pics of her.

 

and becareful getting feelings for someone who is still hung-up on their ex. you could be setting yourself up

 

i agree and I know. Problem is I need to find someone else or something else to get my mind over it so I can move on...

 

Have you TOLD her you love her? I know you said you want to be together but that and "I love you" are two differnet thiings. You can help her get over her ex, if you do it right. Ignoring her is not the right way. Call her, tell how you REALLY feel and let things happen the way they happen.

 

she already has a boyfriend.

 

What you need to do is keep ignoring her and move on man, if this is the same girl that we've talked about before then you already know how I feel about it.

If she just wants to be friends and you want more it's either/or. If you can't handle friends then she needs to be out of your life, if she doesn't want you as more than friends then you need to be out of her life.

Quit wasting energy on this chick, it is almost never worth it to try and convert platonic relationships.

BTW, I don't think she has a right to be angry, she knows how he feels about her so she should expect him to manifest the negative feelings of her rejection in some way.

 

move on, if she wants to know why tell her you wanted something more then a friendship and since she didn't want that its not going to work out

 

female or not...

if your best friend ignored you for a month straight, would you be pissed?

 

It's not his "best" friend.

It is "a" friend. One who knows that he has more than friend feelings for her.

Fuck her she hurt his feelings and he is trying to find a way to deal with it, she should understand. Girls act like they can stomp on dudes heart, kick him in the nuts, and then he is supposed to go back to the status quo, thats fucked up.

 

oh man, Chad, you made my fricken day! I knew you would see eye to eye with me and exactly where I am coming from. I knew I was thinkin the same thing, just needed someone to throw it at me so I knew it made sense... thanks playa