if you had a former "friend" backstab you and steal a woman you wanted to go out with, would you forgive him like half a year later and want to at least have a civil friendship at best?? kinda sux holding grudges against people who are weak and don't know any better, ya know?

 

I always forgive but I never forget. :shakehd:

 

Just toke up. Then you'll forget all about it and still maintain your manhood since you won't have to forgive or anything like that.

 

nope. i never forgive nor forget.

if they do it once, they will do it again. if they had no problem hurting you the first time.. they wont have a problem again.

i tried the forgive and forget method. ended in me being the idiot.

 

Yup.....life is to short...forgive them...dont forget it...

 

I totally agree with her, if they do it once, and see that you'll forgive them, they'll just do it again. Mikey's also right in that life is short. Because of that, you don't need to deal with that kind of drama and bullshit. Drop em and move on/find better friends.

 

yea... a girl is a girl.. if she went with him tahn she prob didnt want you ... its fawked up of him to disrespect you but it is survival of the fittest to some degree... FORGIVE... BUT NEVER FORGET!!!

 

exactly. life is too short.. mikey is right.. but he thinks along the aspect that life is too short to lose friends.

fuck that.. spend the time you would be spending fretting and getting upset at someone and the time wasted on trying to forgive them and find some new friends.

 

i'd rather hold a grudge, it makes me feel better - i don't really care what's right or wrong in this type of thing... i'd just be too mad about the fucker taking my girl, even if she was just a disloyal slut

 

Playa rule #1

Never show your friends a girl you want to date.

Don't talk about her, don't go near her when your friends are around, don't show her off. Following rule #1 has made me a successful playa over the years so just read and learn from the best.

 

why?

 

Look what happened to scooter. It's not that easy to meet girls in public places, so when you do, you have to make the most of it. If you introduce your friends to a girl you had to meet yourself, it saves a lot of time and effort for your scheming friends. They are taking the fruits of your hard work. I'm not saying you should never let them meet, but you have to establish a relationship with her first, not just a friendship, otherwise, she's open game. If your friends decide to scheme on a girl you're banging, then you have the perfect excuse to kill them, but until you are bangin her, keep those scheming friends away.

 

heh... we have different definitions of "friends"...

but i got your point and it's a good one

 

West coast friends you might trust, but I'm east coast buddy, and these scheming bastards will even go after your ex-girlfriend if she's hot.

 

dirty jerz

 

Actually, I grew up in NYC.

 

No way. A dog is a dog.

 

Would have a lot to do with how much history you've had with your friend. IMO.

 

HAH, I've learned even history doesn't matter to some backstabbing asshats.

I agree with Batin Dean, I do not bring a girl I am interested in anywhere near male friends. "I found her first, stay out of it"

 

at the same time, you can't be TOO mad at your boys for trying to hook up with a girl you're just seeing...

if you guys are all about just hooking up... well whatever, the girl's a disloyal heifer anyway... no biggie

 

It's all about respect though

 

You don't know how right that is.

 

If you were a true playa nobody would be able to take a girl away from you.

I never had a problem with it.

 

That's great. I wish every guy had friends like yours so keep showing your raps to all your male friends and I hope you keep up your string of good luck.

 

Bad experience(s) I presume?

 

Not luck at all buddy.

 

personally don't believe in being a playa and dealing with the bs games in order to "have fun"...i'm just a straight-up boring guy who's always been too idealistic

 

Not bad enough for the schemers to be successful, but when they couldn't get the rap, there was a lot of cockblocking going on. Eventually, nobody got the rap. See my point?

 

No female you haven't even had sex with is worth losing your friend over. Unless she's rich
It's too many women out here to waste time being concern about one.

 

Let me give you an analogy then. You don't want to get into a fist fight, but you go out to various trouble spots where you know a lot of assholes hang out. You go out wearing your new Rolex and some cheesy looking gold chain and say to yourself, "noone's gonna mess with me, I'm a great fighter". Chances are, you'll walk away unscathed, but then again, you might not have your Rolex in the morning. You don't want to fight, but you're asking for trouble at the same time. You show "confidence" in your skills by daring people to snatch your chain and watch off of you. Now back to your friends and girls they haven't met yet. You don't want to make this girl an easy target for someone else, but that's exactly what you're doing. You want to be confident enough to know you can scoop her up before your friends do, but by showing her off, you're daring your friends to take her away from you. My point is, avoid trouble and save yourself the headaches.

 

batin makes a good point

save yourself the headache, you never know who really IS scheming...

that's the problem with betrayal, you never know when it's coming

 

Thank you, amisconception, that's what I've been trying to say all along. Don't test your friendship by tempting your friends. I've seen one of my best friends take away his friend's wife because he was just too tempted to say no. Now, the 3 people involved don't talk to each other at all. Don't bring your friends into a tempting situation, especially if you're not established with her yet because as you can see, even a wedding ring won't stop some "friends", so why would they stop out of "respect" for friendship when you haven't even made your move on the girl yet?

 

so yer saying if i get married, i still can't introduce my wife to my friends???

 

I didn't say that, but under no circumstances should you let your wife hang out with your friends. That's how my friend and his friend's wife hooked up; they got drunk one night and fooled around. She left her husband, hooked up with the other guy, and were engaged to be married. She got drunk another night, got into a fight with her fiance, and left him too. What goes around comes around, but the point is, don't let your friend(s) and wife hang out under any circumstances, Intros are ok after marriage.

 

gee dont trust your wife much?

I hang out with my bf's friends sometimes and i dont go around fucking them

 

Everyone has a price.

 

BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

 

in the group of friends i chill with, we have rules...if one of them is to break a rule...the person who it affected gets to kick their ass and then they are excommunicated from the group...we've lost 2 already

me personally...i'd beat the fuck outta my friend and everyone that says violence isn't the answer is a vagina.Even if its not the answer it sure feels good doing it

 

everyone gets old, and bored, and frustrated, and stressed, or depressed... etc


temptation can be avoided. but it is hard to overcome.


given the time, the opportunity, and the slightest reason... nobody can be trusted. even yourself.

 

in other words..... ya got no balls!


get out there and experience some things man! christ!