Divorcing my husband
04-15-2008, 07:58 PM
#1
Burning Brakes
Thread Starter
Divorcing my husband
Hi all...it's been months since I've been here and I just wanted to say a few things about why I've been gone and since the title of the post is "divorcing my husband" I'm sure you can figure out that it's because I have been though a very big change.
I have posted here about trying to save a failing marriage several times before and in other peoples posts who were having similar problems. Well, we finally decided to throw in the proverbial towel and call it quits. It was a long time coming.
I wish I had some great advice to give or some important anecdote, but I don't. It sucks and I wish it on no one, but it was a very necessary step in the right direction.
So, gentleman (and all two ladies..lol J/K!) I am now a single woman in a forum full of men so I'm sure you will find me picking your brains for some advice on navigating the wonders of dating since it's been over a decade and I'm seriously out of practice!! I did recently start dating and, let me tell you, being a car fanatic has done wonders for my stock
Guys do love a girl who can drive stick, if ya know what I mean..wink, wink. 
Oh yeah, and you KNOW I kept the TSX...
I have posted here about trying to save a failing marriage several times before and in other peoples posts who were having similar problems. Well, we finally decided to throw in the proverbial towel and call it quits. It was a long time coming.
I wish I had some great advice to give or some important anecdote, but I don't. It sucks and I wish it on no one, but it was a very necessary step in the right direction.
So, gentleman (and all two ladies..lol J/K!) I am now a single woman in a forum full of men so I'm sure you will find me picking your brains for some advice on navigating the wonders of dating since it's been over a decade and I'm seriously out of practice!! I did recently start dating and, let me tell you, being a car fanatic has done wonders for my stock
Guys do love a girl who can drive stick, if ya know what I mean..wink, wink. Oh yeah, and you KNOW I kept the TSX...
04-15-2008, 07:59 PM
#2
Senior Moderator
Sorry to hear that it did not work out with you and your soon-to-be ex-husband...But, g'luck in the singles' scene! 
04-15-2008, 08:07 PM
#4
Senior Moderator
Join Date: May 2003
Location: Better Neighborhood, Arizona
Posts: 45,641
Received 2,329 Likes
on
1,309 Posts
:ibmizouse:
04-15-2008, 08:09 PM
#5
Senior Moderator
Join Date: May 2003
Location: Better Neighborhood, Arizona
Posts: 45,641
Received 2,329 Likes
on
1,309 Posts
On a more serious note though, I'm sorry to hear about your divorce. I hope its relatively amicable and that you both emerge unscathed from it. Maybe you can meet someone from an AZ meet.. 
04-15-2008, 08:10 PM
#6
I miss my 03 CL-S :(
Yikes. I've felt like utter crap after breakups.... I can't imagine a divorce 
So sorry, but you seem to have as good an attitude as you can by recognizing it as a necessity. You don't mention kids, so that's good.
So are you gonna get half his stuff? Are you rich now? Pics?
So sorry, but you seem to have as good an attitude as you can by recognizing it as a necessity. You don't mention kids, so that's good.So are you gonna get half his stuff? Are you rich now? Pics?
04-15-2008, 08:11 PM
#7
Life is too short to waist it being unhappy and/or miserable. I'm not up to speed on the details of past threads, but I wish you the best. Are you sure you want to get advice from a bunch of hornballs on azine about dating after divorce??
Trending Topics
04-15-2008, 08:38 PM
#9
I feel the need...
Originally Posted by SaraWI
I wish I had some great advice to give or some important anecdote, but I don't. It sucks and I wish it on no one, but it was a very necessary step in the right direction.
) in you posts. You'll find the right guy someday. 
Oh yeah, and you KNOW I kept the TSX...
04-15-2008, 08:46 PM
#10
Burning Brakes
Thread Starter
Originally Posted by blueracer17
Life is too short to waist it being unhappy and/or miserable. I'm not up to speed on the details of past threads, but I wish you the best. Are you sure you want to get advice from a bunch of hornballs on azine about dating after divorce??
To answer some questions, yes he and I are still friendly and mostly I suspect, because we don't have any kids to fight over. So it's a clean slate and I'm looking forward to some new adventures. Thanks to all for the supportive posts.
to hear.. Best of luck and Keep your head up..
04-15-2008, 09:25 PM
#13
Needs more Lemon Pledge
Everyone is so supportive!
.
PM me the noodz....
J/k
.
Sorta.
.
PM me the noodz....
J/k
.
Sorta.
04-15-2008, 09:34 PM
#14
Team Owner
04-15-2008, 10:25 PM
#15
Earth-bound misfit
I feel you, Sara - got my papers in the mail this Saturday. Not a good day. We separated 6 months ago, but there's a mandatory wait period in VA before you can finalize the divorce. Even though it was something I sought out, and a decision that I still feel is the right one, it was still a very difficult milestone. Feel free to PM me if you need to talk.
Oh, and I hadn't dated in 13 years (yikes!)...it's been an adventure.
But, honestly, it hasn't been as difficult to get back out there as I thought it would be.
Oh, and I hadn't dated in 13 years (yikes!)...it's been an adventure.
But, honestly, it hasn't been as difficult to get back out there as I thought it would be.
04-15-2008, 10:33 PM
#17
~Da Nocturnal Cheetah~
Originally Posted by wndrlst
I feel you, Sara - got my papers in the mail this Saturday. Not a good day. We separated 6 months ago, but there's a mandatory wait period in VA before you can finalize the divorce. Even though it was something I sought out, and a decision that I still feel is the right one, it was still a very difficult milestone. Feel free to PM me if you need to talk.
Oh, and I hadn't dated in 13 years (yikes!)...it's been an adventure. But, honestly, it hasn't been as difficult to get back out there as I thought it would be.
Oh, and I hadn't dated in 13 years (yikes!)...it's been an adventure.
But, honestly, it hasn't been as difficult to get back out there as I thought it would be.You better watch your back...nah, that's my job sugar! Hey Sara, I think with a little practice between the three of us, I can whip both of ya'll back into dating shape!! You know how I do!
04-15-2008, 10:36 PM
#18
Earth-bound misfit
Thanks for the grin.
04-16-2008, 01:18 AM
#20
Moderator
Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: Not Las Vegas (SF Bay Area)
Age: 40
Posts: 63,248
Received 2,787 Likes
on
1,987 Posts
Originally Posted by Ken1997TL
:ibmizouse:
04-16-2008, 01:22 AM
#21
Senior Moderator
iTrader: (1)
Originally Posted by SaraWI
Hi all...it's been months since I've been here and I just wanted to say a few things about why I've been gone and since the title of the post is "divorcing my husband" I'm sure you can figure out that it's because I have been though a very big change.
I have posted here about trying to save a failing marriage several times before and in other peoples posts who were having similar problems. Well, we finally decided to throw in the proverbial towel and call it quits. It was a long time coming.
I wish I had some great advice to give or some important anecdote, but I don't. It sucks and I wish it on no one, but it was a very necessary step in the right direction.
So, gentleman (and all two ladies..lol J/K!) I am now a single woman in a forum full of men so I'm sure you will find me picking your brains for some advice on navigating the wonders of dating since it's been over a decade and I'm seriously out of practice!! I did recently start dating and, let me tell you, being a car fanatic has done wonders for my stock Guys do love a girl who can drive stick, if ya know what I mean..wink, wink.
Oh yeah, and you KNOW I kept the TSX...
I have posted here about trying to save a failing marriage several times before and in other peoples posts who were having similar problems. Well, we finally decided to throw in the proverbial towel and call it quits. It was a long time coming.
I wish I had some great advice to give or some important anecdote, but I don't. It sucks and I wish it on no one, but it was a very necessary step in the right direction.
So, gentleman (and all two ladies..lol J/K!) I am now a single woman in a forum full of men so I'm sure you will find me picking your brains for some advice on navigating the wonders of dating since it's been over a decade and I'm seriously out of practice!! I did recently start dating and, let me tell you, being a car fanatic has done wonders for my stock
Guys do love a girl who can drive stick, if ya know what I mean..wink, wink. Oh yeah, and you KNOW I kept the TSX...
pm noods. lol
sorry to hear about your lost. things happen for a reason. although it wasn't ment to be maybe something might be coming to you very soon.
04-16-2008, 01:29 AM
#22
Go Giants
Sorry.....
Hopefully you and wndrlst will hook up and make a video...
Hopefully you and wndrlst will hook up and make a video...
04-16-2008, 06:31 AM
#25
Suzuka Master
Join Date: Jul 2003
Location: Cincinnati, OH
Age: 48
Posts: 7,594
Likes: 0
Received 4 Likes
on
3 Posts
Hey Sara... met you both at the Chicago meet (if you recall) back in 2003. Sorry to hear about the divorce, but someone put it well above, it wasn't meant to be and sounds like you gave it a go for saving it. Being married can be great, but its gotta work for both folks and there isn't any sense in staying unhappy. I must admit, I'd be way lost if I had to back into the single life again. Dating now isn't like it was some 12 yrs ago when I was in college, so I wish you all the happiness and luck b/c I don't have one piece of relevant advice.
04-16-2008, 08:31 AM
#26
04-16-2008, 08:52 AM
#29
אני עומד עם ישראל
Sorry to hear about the recent events ladies. It will all work out for the better. Time to take a vacay to Vegas; I'll meet you guys there. We can have an AZ singles meet.
04-16-2008, 09:14 AM
#31
Go Giants
Originally Posted by RaviNJCLs
Took him 40032 posts to finally say something good. 
04-16-2008, 09:55 AM
#32
Engineer
i hope things work out well for both of you girls...
04-16-2008, 10:09 AM
#33
Suzuka Master
I feel your pain and I'm pretty much in the same boat- except we were only engaged but we have 2 kids together. She asked me to leave the house Monday night
04-16-2008, 10:22 AM
#35
Three Wheelin'
Join Date: Jul 2003
Location: Short Pump, VA
Age: 48
Posts: 1,989
Likes: 0
Received 6 Likes
on
6 Posts
Why do people get divorced and then immediatly jump back out in the dating scene looking for another relationship. If I ever get divorced, I will not be getting married again.
04-16-2008, 10:26 AM
#36
Team Owner
iTrader: (1)
Join Date: May 2003
Location: Leesburg, Virginia
Age: 41
Posts: 36,474
Received 249 Likes
on
175 Posts
Originally Posted by darksom1
Whaaaa???? You split too? You know you right in my backyard girl! Hold up, let me sniff the air real quick and see if I smell some fresh meat out here! AAHHHHHH!!! Hahahahaha!!
You better watch your back...nah, that's my job sugar! Hey Sara, I think with a little practice between the three of us, I can whip both of ya'll back into dating shape!! You know how I do!
You better watch your back...nah, that's my job sugar! Hey Sara, I think with a little practice between the three of us, I can whip both of ya'll back into dating shape!! You know how I do!
Dude you're fucking creepy.
04-16-2008, 10:28 AM
#37
Go Giants
Originally Posted by mrsteve
Dude you're fucking creepy.
04-16-2008, 10:34 AM
#39
Earth-bound misfit
Originally Posted by gsi00154
Why do people get divorced and then immediatly jump back out in the dating scene looking for another relationship. If I ever get divorced, I will not be getting married again.
I'm 31. I'm really supposed to be alone the rest of my life? No partner, no sex, no potential to have a family, no companionship?
And who said anything about immediate? I've read some of Sara's posts on here - they've been working on things for a very long time.
And if you're referring to me when you say immediate - my marriage effectively ended September 12, 2006 when that horse handed me the traumatic brain injury. It just took a while for the dust to settle and for us to realize (and then admit to) the consequences.
Life goes on - why would you speak of throwing in the towel that way? The lucky ones will have the fortitude to make the best of what's in front of them at any given moment.