OP, have you dumped her yet? I'm waiting for pics.

 

Thank you.
I can positively influence some one, by leading a healthy lifestyle.
I dont eat fast food, I exercise daily. Which means, when crafting a date, I pick wise choices that do not include unhealthy things. If the woman is smart, she'll pick up on these cues.

 

There are two kind of overweight issues. One is I love to eat. I love hamburgers and I eat too much. But it's yummy. The solution to that is easy. Turn on and turn off. Eat more, eat less. Exercise more, exercise less.

The 2nd kind is psychological. Those are the tough ones. IMO, most overweight people suffer from that. It's more than just a food or exercise issue. And most don't change, because it's in the head.

 

^ Nominate for the Acurazine Quote of the year

And for all that don't understand genetics and life know this.... No matter how slim, how fine, eventually all women with an "Hour Glass figure" will have it turn into a "SHOT GLASS"....... don't believe me..... Just Keep Living!!! LoL

 

Nothin for nothin but maybe she looks at you and says " ... nice guy... kinda ugly but a real nice guy and ugly or not I want him". So stop worrying about what she looks like, if you can get along with her and she with you then you got it made... what's the issue other than the fact that you might be a bit insecure about what others may say or think ... and if that is the fact then the issue is not her weight but rather something else right? Don't get me wrong my GF is a chubby lady no doubt but she is a great lady lots of fun and cooks like you could not believe so what the hell do I care if somebody else thinks she is chunky or whatever. I am skinny and could hide behind a broomstick and she accepts that as well. Get over the opinions of others and stop living for others.

Jens

 

What about the guy picking up the cues?

My wife exercises and doesn't eat fast food or generally unhealthy stuff.
I eat fast food, unhealthy stuff and don't exercise. I haven't followed my wife's lead yet.




Oh, and life is unfair, because my wife has an extra 15 lbs around her tummy/hip area while I look pretty fit, but I probably can't lift more than 80lbs on a bench press and can't run more than 100 yds without stopping and taking a nap.

 

qft

 

plus a pic of the food bill he had to pick up, please.

 

No personal interest. Just think people are entirely superficial these days and don't value what's truly important anymore.

 

This thread needs pics

 

I would like an update on the situation...

Anyhoo...my wife has a great shape that she is working on making even better... I turned her onto running.. now I don't run but she does.. I encouraged her to get fit for public appearances and pagents ... She did... all that and more... she is almost 40 and She Looks 10 years younger ...

I agree that you should always go for the personality firsthand but make sure you want to wake up to her in the morning too... sexy is as sexy does... sexy is in your mind... not ours... sexy is part personality... part looks ..part chemistry... you may never be able to put your finger on it exactly... that's what keeps you coming back...

 

I would like an update on the situation...

Anyhoo...my wife has a great shape that she is working on making even better... I turned her onto running.. now I don't run but she does.. I encouraged her to get fit for public appearances and pagents ... She did... all that and more... she is almost 40 and She Looks 10 years younger ...

I agree that you should always go for the personality firsthand but make sure you want to wake up to her in the morning too... sexy is as sexy does... sexy is in your mind... not ours... sexy is part personality... part looks ..part chemistry... you may never be able to put your finger on it exactly... that's what keeps you coming back...

 

Double post fail...

 

Lol..woowww!!!

 

Ihhts Funny Because you stole the texts right off of my fingertips!!! I was jus about to post that same thing!! i couldnt of explained it any better. Im gonna shoot from hip on this one and i know you got this skin!!! you jockin her wayyy too hard bro...shes not your type to begin with...let them choose you...youll be better off that way...dont change for nobody..and dont change anyboy for youself...

 

English??

 

yeah that was pretty much explained in KLINGON LOL but im sure my point was made...I was on the phone with a chick talkin about this and multitaskin at the same timee... It was supposed to be in response to "fuzzy02CLS" post (You care what others thing about your relationships? Sounds like you have some self esteem issues too. Never expect to change anyone to start a relationship. She's sounds like she's not your type of person to get involved with. Move on & find someone who is.) Agreed....Yeah the guy's gotta tighten up and be more selective with his choices of women..there are so many out there that are soooo your type and ready for you without having to change them...IMO.

 

 

I'm guessing he went for the fat chick and she got on top and smothered him, that's why we haven't heard back.

 

OP update with pics:

 

IMO I think everyone is a bit superficial. There's people out there who're more superficial than the rest, and think they're too good for anyone, and then there's the rest of us. Technically, preferring a woman who bathes and doesn't always look like she just got out of bed at 6 PM makes me superficial, by definition.

and honestly, you can't really control who you're physically attracted to. Yeah there might be a great person underneath all that, but at the end of the day a physical attraction needs to be present or else it won't work.

 

good advice coming from everyone here, thanks all!

I'm going to see her again this Friday, which will kind of be the first time I'll get to spend time with her alone without our friends around. I'll let you guys know what happens, haha

 

if you bang her, its all over

 

I have to agree with many things said here, people usually pursue a relationship based on attraction and looks first, but it's a wonder that 50% of marriages end in divorce once people get to know each other better. You truly have to be attracted and accepting of WHO the person is as well. However like others said you have to be OK waking up next to that someone. I was not happy waking up next to my ex and seeing her, and realizing that I wasn't attracted to her, but I did like the person that she was, just not her looks, but I tried to make it work until I realized that I wasn't attracted to WHO she was anymore either. You certainly can encourage her to lose weight, but be prepared that she may gain instead of lose, especially if you're putting pressure on her. Also, if you're worried about what your friends might think, then you may need new friends. If you and this girl tried it out and are truly happy, real friends would be happy for you that you are happy, not judging you for having given a bigger girl a chance. In the end, only you can determine how you'll be happy and if it's worth it, but if the girl is a sweetheart and has a great personality, realize that those qualities are harder to find these days.

Still would like an update also...

 

I once when I was about your age I dated a girl who was quite a bit bigger than usual for me. She was actually very cute and sexy in her own way. I have no idea how much she weighed but it might have been as much as me

It did make me a little self conscious...I eventually broke it off with her. Her personality irritated me too...not very good self confidence and that's never a turn on whether you're a guy or a girl.

 

fat chicks are gross...fat dudes are gross....take care of yourself and understand that someone's heart is really what's important when building a meaningful relationship that will last

 

and their

 

 

^very.

 

Trolling?

 

^how deep is the water?

 

I should have looked at the filename. I also came up with a whole bunch of other possibilities, but I like trolling.

 

sheesh. Sorry but if she is 160-165 at 5'3" thats a little more than overweight. My girlfriend is 5'10" 150.

As far as bringing up how to lose weight to a girl your barely know (and no, talking for a week about things here and there with your life doesnt count as knowing someone), thats a good way to push her off you. NOT something you want to bring up to someone you might want to start a relationship with...just a though

 

Agreed, she does not fit what you like or look for in a woman/lady. So move on to the next one, find someone else that does. Why try to change who/what she is to fit what your preference’s are..

 

How'd it turn out?

 

 

Nom nom nom

 

It totally depends on how you want to take this, you can either tell her straight up, or if you are into health/fitness get her to go running with you, put her on a bike with you make it romantic, now I am a skinny 6' 2" 165lb black guy and yes I likes me some thick womenz, but you have to see if she WANTS it as bad as you do, you don't have to mold her, just a slight nudge I call it.

I used to train my squadron for those that failed their fitness exams and they honestly wanted to get better so I made them come out with me after work and I started them out with walking and first and foremost made them put down them big ass 40oz pops from the gas stations and the candy as well, you know just tell em stay away from that shit you can have some every now and then but can't be the only thing you snack on.

My former girlfriend all she did was eat out till I started cooking for her then gradually got her to make our "dates" into fitness dates, we would go on a bike trail then upgraded her to running cause I like watching big booties jiggle, after a while she started shedding the pounds, then of course when she found out how good she looked she started hanging around with douchebags and what not and left me, and she gained all the weight back.

 

But what I find ironic is now she wants me back because she thinks she is ugly and wants to lose weight again, just told her remember everything I did for you their is your answer.

but the real thing is if you are close enough to the girl ask her if she wants to take a walk or ride a bike from time to time, then bring up the question if she wants to lose the extra padding but not exactly how I worded it, women always (for me that is) take it the wrong way.