Dating out of my "league"
#41
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Confidence is king. Just be yourself, if she doesn't like you for who you are it's her loss, not yours.
or bust a nut before you pick her up (Ben Stiller in "There's Something About Mary")
or bust a nut before you pick her up (Ben Stiller in "There's Something About Mary")
#43
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Tell her you're still not over your ex and you're just looking for some angry revenge sex at the moment.
seriously tho, the first thing to do is stop thinking like she's out of your league. If she thought so, she wouldnt be going out with you.
Dont talk about your ex. Talk about her.
seriously tho, the first thing to do is stop thinking like she's out of your league. If she thought so, she wouldnt be going out with you.
Dont talk about your ex. Talk about her.
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All that mental stuff's easier said than done though. Otherwise this thread wouldn't exist.
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Still needs to be said though. Women arent always as shallow and superficial as us. It's not always about looks for them. He may think she's out of his league but she probably sees some other mysterious stuff in him, who knows.
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Now the question becomes do I take my usual 4mg dose of xanax in the morning as per usual or at night before the date? The other thing, I open up way more easily when I've had a drink in me...
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I was in a similar situation a little over a year ago. Met a girl for a first date at a sushi place. She's beautiful, a semi regular marathon runner, has her MD, and a few weeks later was accepted to Stanford Medical for a fellowship. I, on the other hand, can barely make it through a 5k, have a job that doesn't require a college degree. I'm a bit overweight, not the best looking guy in the world for sure. But, I have a good heart and I treat her right. We're still together, and I couldn't be happier.
What I'm trying to say is, its up to her to decide if you're in her league or not. Don't be so preoccupied with her looks. In the long run, looks don't matter nearly as much as personality and common interests. If that's all she's got going for her, take those borderline NSFW pictures, post them here so you'll always know where to find them, grab the crusty sock from the bottom of the hamper and let nature take its course. If there's more to her and you find some common interests and stuff to talk about then tell her you've had a great time and you'd like to do it again. And definitely be yourself. If the two of you spend enough time together she's going to learn the real you anyway. You can't hide who you really are forever. And that's who you want her to fall for, not some trumped up image designed to impress her.
What I'm trying to say is, its up to her to decide if you're in her league or not. Don't be so preoccupied with her looks. In the long run, looks don't matter nearly as much as personality and common interests. If that's all she's got going for her, take those borderline NSFW pictures, post them here so you'll always know where to find them, grab the crusty sock from the bottom of the hamper and let nature take its course. If there's more to her and you find some common interests and stuff to talk about then tell her you've had a great time and you'd like to do it again. And definitely be yourself. If the two of you spend enough time together she's going to learn the real you anyway. You can't hide who you really are forever. And that's who you want her to fall for, not some trumped up image designed to impress her.
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i forgot where i heard this(possibly a movie). never make the decision that a girl is too good for you. enough girls do that themselves, they don't need you to help hahaha. be you, and don't put her on a pedestal. if bored, go watch "she's out of your league"
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PM the nudes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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OMG...get some god damn self esteem. A hottie is a girl, is a lady, is a fat chick. They are all women inside. If she wants to date you, she'll decide. Stop worrying and whining and give 'um a shot. Just remember, never go full retard!
#57
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If you don't keep it simple you'll over think it, and that's when things will go bad.
Relax. She said yes to the date, so she wants to be there. Be confident in that.
Don't act like you don't deserve her, don't treat her like she deserves you.
Ask lots of questions, listen to the answers. Aside from that, be yourself.
Hope it goes well!
PS. Log OFF of Acurazine before she comes over. Unless she's into reading about herself on the internet. Yeah, that's happened.
Relax. She said yes to the date, so she wants to be there. Be confident in that.
Don't act like you don't deserve her, don't treat her like she deserves you.
Ask lots of questions, listen to the answers. Aside from that, be yourself.
Hope it goes well!
PS. Log OFF of Acurazine before she comes over. Unless she's into reading about herself on the internet. Yeah, that's happened.
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So, aside from the request for nudes, which will happen if I get them (I have plenty of topless pics), she texted me today to tell me how excited she is for Saturday...
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Carry on then
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Seriously though, you'll be fine. Have a drink and have fun.
But those toplesses...
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Tit pics nowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
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Great news man, sounds like you have nothing to worry about. Other than sharing the love with your AZ brethren
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btw.. "Borderline NSFW" means SFW
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lol this thread is full of win! just be cool like so many others have said she said yes already and you want her to like you so don't be somebody else. and good luck score one for the team
#73
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You have a few negatives coming into this that you should be wary about:
1) Your attitude. As others have said, the fact she agreed and is excited about the date is all you need to know. Banish the "league" thinking and treat her like you would any other girl. I know quite a few very attractive women and a lot of them have the most messed up relationships ever. Only the supremely cocky guys get the guts to ask these girls out and the relationships predictably suck. You will be different than these guys because you are different. Those guys don't make threads about pre-date jitters. Different is good because whatever she's been looking for previously hasn't worked out for her.
2) Your recent relationship. Be careful talking about ex's. As a matter of fact, specifically do not mention anything about your ex except to acknowledge you are indeed single. Nothing turns off people faster than hearing about ex's. You may find this comes out in strange ways, for example "Oh you know my ex didn't like shrimp either." You may think this is innocent commentary, but for the other party they will just hear "my ex my ex my ex" all night long. But if she wants to talk about her ex's then let her talk. A girl's favorite topic is herself. The more she gets to talk the more she feels like she's bonding with you even though you aren't really doing anything. You also get to learn more about her. It is a win/win.
Finally, some general dating pointers I have racked up:
1) Have some backup ideas of what to do or where to go. Then if something doesn't work out or you two decide to extend the date, you're not stuck desperately trying to figure out where to go. Don't plan in minutia but at least walk through some options mentally. And then if it does go to the backup plan, you seem like a guy who is in charge and connected with the town/scene/life.
2) Self-deprecating humor is good if used sparingly. It can be a turnoff if it goes too far though. Women like confident men who are well planted in their situation.
3) Watch your drinking. You said you loosen up after some drinks. Some mild to moderate alcohol could help. But take it from a teetotaler who observes a lot of drinking (comes with the profession), a lot of people THINK they loosen up after some drinks but they're really just making idiots out of themselves. So don't go overboard.
Have fun. Good luck. In for pics.
1) Your attitude. As others have said, the fact she agreed and is excited about the date is all you need to know. Banish the "league" thinking and treat her like you would any other girl. I know quite a few very attractive women and a lot of them have the most messed up relationships ever. Only the supremely cocky guys get the guts to ask these girls out and the relationships predictably suck. You will be different than these guys because you are different. Those guys don't make threads about pre-date jitters. Different is good because whatever she's been looking for previously hasn't worked out for her.
2) Your recent relationship. Be careful talking about ex's. As a matter of fact, specifically do not mention anything about your ex except to acknowledge you are indeed single. Nothing turns off people faster than hearing about ex's. You may find this comes out in strange ways, for example "Oh you know my ex didn't like shrimp either." You may think this is innocent commentary, but for the other party they will just hear "my ex my ex my ex" all night long. But if she wants to talk about her ex's then let her talk. A girl's favorite topic is herself. The more she gets to talk the more she feels like she's bonding with you even though you aren't really doing anything. You also get to learn more about her. It is a win/win.
Finally, some general dating pointers I have racked up:
1) Have some backup ideas of what to do or where to go. Then if something doesn't work out or you two decide to extend the date, you're not stuck desperately trying to figure out where to go. Don't plan in minutia but at least walk through some options mentally. And then if it does go to the backup plan, you seem like a guy who is in charge and connected with the town/scene/life.
2) Self-deprecating humor is good if used sparingly. It can be a turnoff if it goes too far though. Women like confident men who are well planted in their situation.
3) Watch your drinking. You said you loosen up after some drinks. Some mild to moderate alcohol could help. But take it from a teetotaler who observes a lot of drinking (comes with the profession), a lot of people THINK they loosen up after some drinks but they're really just making idiots out of themselves. So don't go overboard.
Have fun. Good luck. In for pics.
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Now PM the good ones
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Moar!
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I was actually in this movie
#79
Yes, she is sooo out of your league man... Forget it. Better luck next time!
What's her number?
What's her number?
#80
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If she owns reptiles or wears hats, then get all up in that on the first date then run. Hats, rats and reptiles = crazy.
If none of the above applies then let that Xanax do its job and enjoy the evening. She's out with you to have a fun time. You've already won half the battle, just keep doing what you're doing.
If none of the above applies then let that Xanax do its job and enjoy the evening. She's out with you to have a fun time. You've already won half the battle, just keep doing what you're doing.