my fiancee and I've been together about 2 years. and everything great. well Friday night we met with her Parents. I know her parents pretty well. we went out to dinner. everything seems to be going fine. then Amy and I ran to Wal-Mart to get some stuff. her parents ran home.
so we back to her house because her Dad wanted to "talk with us" about something(i thought i or we did something)
so we get back there Amy's mom and dad go for a "walk"and he says can you guys start cleaning. which i didn't mind because he paid for dinner. so Amy and I cleaned the house.I know Amy's mom doesn't like to walk because her ankles are weak. so a good hour goes by. I said to Amy "Something going down." she said " I don't think so it's a nice night" so they come back her mom PIIIIISSSED. I thought maybe he said something I shouldn't have. so i didnt' say anything. just kind of kept quiet. Amy's mom said "this involves you two, you guys better sit down." i thought maybe he or she got fired or laid off. so we sit down. she said
"Amy we're getting a Divorce."amy starts crying(which i understand) she says "why?"(they been together for about 25 years.) "I've had another woman from work for about 1.5 year. and been sleeping with her for over a year." Oh god i thought amy was gonna kill her dad. I had to hold her back. what the worst part she's married too.

her dad a scumbag i think. last weekend we all autocrossed. her drove his buddy's RX-7,I drove the Mustang, and his "friend from work" aka his other lover came and drove her stock Focus (she was slow as sh!t) but anyhow we all went out to dinner afterwards. she came along with us. I thought that's nice. maybe she's the one in the work group left out He's trying to help her out. well he's more than helping her out. that takes balls to take your family(including your wife, daughter and her fiancee,brother, and his mistress) all out to dinner together. what's more bullshit his brother body shop (which sponcers my CRX autocross car) he'd "claim" he was was working on the mustang or the RX-7 when he was over banging this other chick. I guess I'm also disappointed in his brother because I'd talk to him and his brother and when they'd work on the Mustang they'd make it sound major like they worked on it 7-8 hrs on a saturday or sundays.when he'd work on it 15-20 mins just enough to get his hands/shirt dirty then go over to his girlfriend's house. I thought something was suspious because like they havs a WICKED CP Mustang(they take it to nationals almost every year) and i've honestly worked on it before. i guess the tachometer was messing up. Brian(which owns the body shop and the Mustang) and his brother i figured could fix in maybe a hour. they have a race dash in that.(to reduce weight) they got a Jeg's store about 15 mins up the road. so even if he had to run and get parts(like a whole new tach)maybe 1.5 or 2 hours. he was over there 8 or 9 hours working on a tach. I wanted to say what the hell did you do make the tach yourself but i didn't because it did work and it wasn't my car. so i kept my mouth shut.so his brother covered for him. So I guess I'll be looking for a new sponcer on the CRX once it gets repaired(blown engine).

 

sounds complicated

 

Yep. Those types of situations are nothing but cluster fucks.

 

that sux

your girl is gonna need a lotta attention/help from you now

 

You can't blame him for being honest. If he doesn't end up marrying her then the divorce was useless, plus, he is going to lose everything he has to her. I think they should try to work things out, and maybe he can keep his girlfriend, she probably isn't leaving her husband for him.

Also, your fiance` will need more and more attention. It could also make her feel insecure and think you're going to do the same thing to her.

 

sorry to hear, my sympathies are with your fiance, her mom, and you for being caught in the middle of it. stay stong for her and be patient, she'll need you support.

 

i don't think it's being honest. I think the other chick pregnant. he's been banging her for over a year now. he didn't say anything about a possiblely having a kid.

 

damn....thats some messed up stuff

 

i don't understand sometimes why people do sh*t like that?
just be there for your fiance

 

Breaking up after 20+ years? That's messed up. :shakehead

 

I have two thoughts on the matter. In terms of staying married till death do you part, in sickness and in health is all powerful well intentioned stuff. But a friend of mine made a very interesting point the other day(he himself is going to a marraige counseler). He said that the whole theory came from way way back when the "oldest guy in the village was 35!!" This means that people were only married for like 10 or 15 years. Nobody lived that long to ever encounter really and profound changes in relationships. Now you have people married for 30/40/50 years, and its a whole new ballgame. Just some food for thought.

It reminds of the older couple I see sitting next to me in a restaurant, just sitting there for like an hour just staring at each other without uttering a single word!! It amazes me. I feel like giving them a conversation starter or something.

 

man, u cant stay on topic

 

that was very painful to read.
You started off about your fiancee's parents getting divorced and then ended up rambling about cars and needing a new sponsor..

anyway. isnt your girlfriend pregnant? that kind of stress isnt good for her.

 

Why do I attempt to read this stuff.

 

it hurts to look at that text, i can't read it.

 

Water...ever heard of Adderall???

 

In the new issue of Playboy they say that 92% of men will stay married to their spouse even if they are not sexually attracted....

I would feel bad for his soon to be ex-wife since she probably never worked in the marriage and will have to find a way to support herself somewhat. I am sure she'll be getting a load of money from him.

 

never heard of it my sister's a pharmasist and owns a drug store so i can ask her. I can get mad discounts on behind the counter and over the counter crap.

 

You READ playboy?

So do I

 

Funny that Killer not only has heard of it, he even knows how to spell it.

 

You might need two bottle Water-s

 

yup, pretty funny. Funnier thing was about the guys with 35lbs of excess stomach fat....

 

I just found it interesting that he seems more upset about needing a new sponsor than the fact that his beloved's family is falling apart.

 

That's water for you. What amazes me is how can you be so clueless about cars and be looking for a sponsor



On a side note, how long has the mother known? Did she know that was the mistress when they went out to dinner? Some families are like that. A kid I grew up w/ father is gay. He's had a male lover for about 15 years now. The whole family is fine w/ it

 

Seriously man, you've got some growing up to do before you get married and god-forbid procreate.

 

sorry to hear that, hope it works out for you.


(I admit I only read about the 1st half then gave up)