is it just me or do you guys (and girls) find yourselves in situations where you have not the slightest clue what your doing or what your supposed to be doing?

i hang out with a lot of girls but i still have no idea what im supposed to do sometimes, does that go away?

shold i just do whatever is impulsive?

 

That can come and go, it depends on the girl...

I generally know what to do, but when I have a hard time getting a read on a girl, or there is too much competition, I can choke.

I also find myself in situations where I could (and probably should) go over and open up conversations with women...but don't.

 

Never choke, and if you do, don't ever show it. play hard to get also. Keep your true intentions a secret and keep them guessing. This develops interest and pulls them in.

Also, if you are a good looking dude like me, then just sit back and let them come to you.

Don't EVER EVER EVER act desperate. This will get them running for the hills faster than anything.

 

Just remember those 5 key words.

 

keep the confidence up i guess is the answer, and go with your gut feeling w/ you all

 

well... you can't know what to do in all instances

it's ok to not know or to not have everything planned

 

Actually it's probably better to not have much at all if anything planned.

For instance today I planned to run into this girl i have class with like i normally do at time Y and ask her if she wanted to study later for a test. Well it turned out I saw her earlier at time X across the street and didn't go over and talk to her because that's not how i had it planned in my head. And naturally i never saw her at time Y. So now i gotta study alone tonight. And i find myself already plotting out my next convo with her

Point is planning and thinking is bad because it looks like you rehearsed and it sounds out of place usually....spontaneity and acting on instinct are good...now i just need to learn to take my own advice.

 

I can