...telling someone that you "love them" and telling someone that you're "In love" with them?

 

Love is versatile.. you can love many people.. friends, family cars, money, etc....... But being IN LOVE with someone is totally different. It's a feeling that you could never have for anyone or anything else. I thought I had that feeling, but I broke up with the bitch cause she kept pressuring for a ring and marriage.... so i kicked her ass to the curb.... (btw, the feeling i was having was just gas, damn Mexican food )

 

Good Job.

 

with this niggarchi but i dont know why he added this

 

In love is that first phase when you're really attracted and all romantic and shit.
The true love comes later (at least in my experience) and that's when you can be with the person without any awkwardness, and you're really close. I wouldn't tell someone I loved them until the in-love thing is ending. At least that's the way I see it. Doesn't apply to the "other" kind of love for like friends and moms and stuff.

 

You just know. Indescribeable.

 

thanks guys.... I don't really want to get into too much details right now... but I'm kinda stuck in a situation... were someone I really care about has told me that she's "fallin' in love with me" and I'm kinda scare because she's got so much shit she's got to deal with first... including her staying sober and couselings for some really bad shit that happened to her when she was young... and I don't think she should be emontionally envolved with anyone right now... On one hand... If I tell her that she and I should take a step back and NOT be romantically envolve... she may do something stupid (she's NOT stable, if you know what I mean?). On ther other hand, I really care about her... and want to support her (NOT financially but morally)... but if I tell her that I'm just a friend right now... she might feel like I'm rejecting her like everybody else has.

 

MEOW MEOW MEOW!! Just tell them WHATEVER they want to hear... I love you or I'm in love with you... as long as she puts out! If she doesn't, kick the bitch to the curb!

 

Get out TODAY! RUN!! :whocares:

You don't want HER problems do you? She's just too much work. There are lots of other girls without the baggage you can have.... just wait 10 minutes and the next bus will show up. New girls every 10 minutes. You think this is the only girl you can have?

 

...I guess you missed the part were I said she's someone I really care about... it's not like I met her at a bar/club or party... I've known her for a while now. I'm sorry, but maybe you can just turn off your caring for someone like a light switch, but I'm not like that. I assure you if she was just another girl... I would've done just that... but it's a little more complicated than that.... Again... too much to talk about, my original question was simply:

"......can you guys tell me the difference between telling someone that you "love them" and telling someone that you're "In love" with them?..."

And when I said she was "NOT stable" that meant that she's attempted to commit suicide twice...


I appricate your input... but like I said... it's a lot more complicated than that.

AND BTW... I think you also misunderstood the situation, I didn't tell her I'm in love with her... she told me.

 

Tell her you are a FRIEND - that nothing will ever happen between you and her. And as a friend, you will tell her you are not equipped / does not have the expertise to address suicide attempt - so you will MAKE SURE she gets the right professional help.

She told you she's in love - make sure she knows that's not the way YOU feel. Don't lie to her but since there is SERIOUS instability, you want to make sure she is in professional help before you share those feelings.

 

Go with your heart, not your dick, is what I would say..

 

Like Shoofin said go with your heart, if you really like her for a relationship/whatnot go with her to a shrink she prob has issues that are hard for her to deal with. ill tell you something from my experiance.

before i had met my girlfriend i used to chill,hangout practically date 2 girls, pam and jen. bascially make a long story short i used to like pam we went out every week, talked on the phone every day abusing my cell minutes lol. all this for about 6 months she used to tell me about guys who hit on her, jen used to tell me about the guys at work etc. one day i bring a rose to pam(red) and jen(white) and i told pam i liked her. a week afterwords she did something i didnt like during this time (about a week) i met my girlfriend. when i told pam i had gotten a girlfriend couple days afterwards she called me crying telling me she took a bunch of pills Tylenol and asprins and some midols?? i quickly went over to her place thank god i knew what she took wasnt that bad ibuprofen and asprins.. no nose bleeds so i felt conforatble she was ok (please dont flame me for not taking her to the hospital) we waited it out she felt like shit and we talked. she felt in like everyone denied her no one like her she had no friends i found out she liked me but the other guy she met was 'cuter' and she decided to go for him, he riped and diped. she cryed for hours and hours, i promised her i wasnt going to tell anyone about that insident and she promised me she wasnt going to do anything stupid i gave her reasurance people did give a shit about her and i talked to her about my reasons why i got a gf and about her to take it easy etc. she feels like she owes her life to me shes VERY cool. we chilled she met my girl they became best friends and she hasnt done anything stupid since.


Edit; just becareful what you tell her dont make her feel like she has nothing but you. make her see theres other people who care ie:family,u,friends and that shes going to ruin everyons life without her there etc make her feel like the world wont function right without her cheer her up and if she pulls something take her to the doc.

 

...that's good that things turned out good for Pam... but Nikki's attempt at suicide wasn't over me or anything like that.... she's so depressed, she's had all the sh!t happenings you can think of happened to her... she was molested (from the same guy, a family friend) for 4 years. One night she was drunk and said that her biological dad had molested her too, but then again... she was drunk, and when people are drunk, either the truth comes out or just non-sense... I never asked her if that was true or not. Then 3 years ago (almost to the day), she lost her pregnancy and then attempted to commit suicide (the first time)... all the while... her family's turned against her... her mom calls her a "fvckin' whore" and is an alcohlic... her mom drinks in front of her while she's trying to stay sober... how messed up is that? Her mom gets drunk everynight and start accusing her for stuff she hasn't done... and again... starts calling her names, and saying some really harsh things. Again, I really appreciate the comments guys... but right now, she's in Arizona with her dad, whose dying of cancer, they say it's week to week, that's like the last thing she needs.

 

I would run the other way bro. I know you care for her, but if you love something, let it go, if it loves you, it shall come back. She may just need to see you getting your life together. Live by example. Do things together like take walks, hikes, fishing. Get her out doing healthy things and maybe she will feel a diffrence in her body.

 

get her doing other things. also does she live on her own?she needs to get away from shit that puts her down, her mom, and anyone who harms her in the day to day basis. losing a pregnancy isnt the end of the world. also she needs to stop drinking maybe take paxil to stablize her head alittle. she needs get away basically