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Old Feb 21, 2010 | 02:22 AM
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it sure doesn't sound like you had much of a good thing to begin with... as the title of the thread suggests. i can appreciate your desire to have a hot body by summer, and that you're emotionally drained, but frail is not hot. so please, stop starving yourself. exercise is great, but it can hurt you if you're only eating 6 almonds and an orange slice a day.

and stop dating immature boys. you're a young woman, act like it, and have some standards. you deserve more than a child sitting on a coach and watching tv all day.

at the very least, take some time out from dating to really analyze the reasons for the sacrifices you've made. those reasons will yield a hell of a lot of information about yourself. take this as a life lesson, and not with regrets, you'll be a better person for it. time to be strong.
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Old Feb 21, 2010 | 03:19 PM
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Old Feb 21, 2010 | 03:40 PM
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Just another possible viewpoint but he may have been a little insecure and was afraid of getting hurt so he wanted to end it before you did. I know someone who was in that position - he was a banker still in school, and his girlfriend was smoking hot, and worked with a bunch of engineers. I don't know the details exactly but she worked with a bunch of guys that made a lot of money, and she did everything for him. He really cared for her but he felt too unsure of himself being involved in a relationship with her, so he ended it and she had no idea why.

You're better off now though... either way he is too immature, and you've already quit your job so its time to move on.
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Old Feb 22, 2010 | 06:40 AM
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I say move back to Austin and enjoy the music scene - SXSW is approaching soon. Best to fget far away fromt he selfish relationship you just left. You sound like a generous companion - you will not have a hard tme finding someone to enjoy life with. I wish you the best.
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Old Feb 22, 2010 | 10:38 AM
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Bugeye has epic tits?! I thought you were a guy. Gainesville blows.. move back to Austin. Definitely find a guy that appreciates you & doesn't leech on you.. that's pretty pathetic. He fucked up but it was for your benefit. Sounds like you're a definite keeper, but I'm curious, was the sexual benefit mutual? you make it sound like the sex was only good for him.. that alone should have ended it.
Sex with him was pretty good, mainly because he didn't treat me like some delicate, fragile flower. I'm really not sure if we ever 'made love,' per se. Sex has always been more carnal for me than that. I liked it rough, and so did he. He's definitely in my highlight reel.

Wish I could tell you how much I miss having sex. I had forgotten how unsatisfying masturbation can be day after day.

Originally Posted by amisconception
it sure doesn't sound like you had much of a good thing to begin with... as the title of the thread suggests. i can appreciate your desire to have a hot body by summer, and that you're emotionally drained, but frail is not hot. so please, stop starving yourself. exercise is great, but it can hurt you if you're only eating 6 almonds and an orange slice a day.

and stop dating immature boys. you're a young woman, act like it, and have some standards. you deserve more than a child sitting on a coach and watching tv all day.

at the very least, take some time out from dating to really analyze the reasons for the sacrifices you've made. those reasons will yield a hell of a lot of information about yourself. take this as a life lesson, and not with regrets, you'll be a better person for it. time to be strong.
Sound advice, thank you for your honesty.

I've been eating better, and sleeping better. I've always been a stress anorexic (in extreme cases, I have chronic vomitting that usually requires a trip to the hospital and a large dose of diazepam to stop); it's not so much a choice as it's painful to make myself eat when I don't have an appetite, and it usually leads to vomitting if I do force myself to eat.

I've been doing/feeling much, much better.

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Just another possible viewpoint but he may have been a little insecure and was afraid of getting hurt so he wanted to end it before you did. I know someone who was in that position - he was a banker still in school, and his girlfriend was smoking hot, and worked with a bunch of engineers. I don't know the details exactly but she worked with a bunch of guys that made a lot of money, and she did everything for him. He really cared for her but he felt too unsure of himself being involved in a relationship with her, so he ended it and she had no idea why.

You're better off now though... either way he is too immature, and you've already quit your job so its time to move on.
He knew I was reaching my breaking point. Things had definitely gotten more tense between us over the past several months. I didn't want to move to Tampa in the first place -- I'm not sure why the fuck he thought that moving closer to his psychotic father would be a good thing -- and I left behind the friends I had made, plus a very rewarding, well-paying job.

I guess I just became complacent; he was good enough, and I settled. Though really, he wasn't good enough, I just thought if I gave him enough time, and tried hard enough, I could make it all work.

I find out this week about a couple different job prospects here in Gainesville. If they don't pan out, I'll probably move back to Texas, or possibly back to Denver. I would ideally like to end up in Denver, but I have a better support structure with my family being in Texas.

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I say move back to Austin and enjoy the music scene - SXSW is approaching soon. Best to fget far away fromt he selfish relationship you just left. You sound like a generous companion - you will not have a hard tme finding someone to enjoy life with. I wish you the best.
Austin was a pretty badass city. I do miss it.
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Old Feb 22, 2010 | 01:05 PM
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Old Feb 22, 2010 | 02:04 PM
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Wish I could tell you how much I miss having sex. I had forgotten how unsatisfying masturbation can be day after day.
preaching to the choir
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Old Feb 22, 2010 | 02:19 PM
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Stay strong, no quick trips to Tampa. Either get a toy or a tool.
His birthday is this weekend, and he's been asking me to come down since last week. Damn penis.
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Old Feb 22, 2010 | 02:23 PM
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Originally Posted by bugeye
His birthday is this weekend, and he's been asking me to come down since last week. Damn penis.
ITS A TRAP.
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Old Feb 22, 2010 | 03:01 PM
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Originally Posted by bugeye
His birthday is this weekend, and he's been asking me to come down since last week. Damn penis.
Is it really that great? or are ya in fiend mode currently?
dont do it, instead bring the egg over and lets have a bbq
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Old Feb 22, 2010 | 03:08 PM
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Originally Posted by invisiblewar
Is it really that great? or are ya in fiend mode currently?
dont do it, instead bring the egg over and lets have a bbq
Are you trying to coordinate some local meetup for mutual violent rudder action..

A French vs. Dutch duel in commemoration of the ongoing Winter Olympics might not be a bad idea..
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Old Feb 22, 2010 | 03:19 PM
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^im just going to nod my head and say yes
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Old Feb 23, 2010 | 08:42 AM
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Originally Posted by bugeye
His birthday is this weekend, and he's been asking me to come down since last week. Damn penis.
Thus my suggestion. Find someone local quick. I know of a candidate :wink: Just kidding
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Old Feb 23, 2010 | 01:41 PM
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hit up invis. his cock is huge
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Old Feb 23, 2010 | 01:47 PM
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Old Feb 23, 2010 | 02:37 PM
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Sounds like he is too immature for you, and really didn't appreciate what he had.
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Old Feb 23, 2010 | 03:36 PM
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hit up invis. his cock is huge
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Old Feb 23, 2010 | 03:41 PM
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Old Feb 23, 2010 | 04:20 PM
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Originally Posted by bugeye
I had forgotten how unsatisfying masturbation can be day after day.
Just buy a rabbit and be done with it until your next relationship. Don't give in and go back. I've seen it happen so many times, and the outcome is always the same.

Good luck
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Old Feb 23, 2010 | 05:07 PM
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I'm sorry to hear it, bugeye. Best of luck to you with your job-hunting and soul-searching.
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Old Feb 24, 2010 | 06:13 AM
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Originally Posted by bugeye
His birthday is this weekend, and he's been asking me to come down since last week. Damn penis.
buy yourself a toy, what makes you think he'll treat you any different?
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Old Feb 24, 2010 | 07:08 AM
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hit up invis. his cock is huge
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Old Feb 24, 2010 | 07:20 AM
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I have a 27 yo son who is an architect in Houston, well-grounded and has his goals set in his sight. 3 degrees (architecture, marketing, environmental design) and very respectful. Austin is his home away from home. What say you Bugeye?
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Old Feb 24, 2010 | 07:22 AM
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It's a trap.
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Old Feb 24, 2010 | 09:19 AM
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hit up invis. his cock is huge
miss phee?
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Old Feb 25, 2010 | 12:34 PM
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I have a 27 yo son who is an architect in Houston, well-grounded and has his goals set in his sight. 3 degrees (architecture, marketing, environmental design) and very respectful. Austin is his home away from home. What say you Bugeye?
Tempting, but I'd be doing myself and anyone I got involved with a major disservice to jump into another relationship. Aside from a random hook-up, I think I need at least 6 months, probably closer to a year, to look back and really learn from this latest experience.

On the job front... got 2 offers in Gainesville, but looks like I may be moving to Colorado. Got a pretty good job offer, just need to sort out a place to live. Apparently Denver has a pitbull ban, so I'll have to live in Arvada or Littleton or something.

Fuck, I love Denver. Lived there for 2 years. I hope this pans out for me. Good thing I got my skis tuned earlier this year.

Also, I ate lunch 3 days in a row now. Go me.
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Old Feb 25, 2010 | 12:47 PM
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Glad to hear you're doing better~! And letss playyy~ you know what... Lol. Jk. The offer still stands if you ever want to start playing again, even if only as a casual.
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Old Feb 25, 2010 | 12:47 PM
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Good for you; already things are looking up and in the right direction. Take care of yourself first, enjoy life and all that it has to offer. Choose your next relationship wisely and don't let the Little Head (oops, wrong gender) do the thinkin'.
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Old Feb 25, 2010 | 01:02 PM
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Glad to hear you're doing better~! And letss playyy~ you know what... Lol. Jk. The offer still stands if you ever want to start playing again, even if only as a casual.
Haha. Well if I'm in Denver, the PST server wouldn't be as big of a deal as it would here on the east coast. >.>

I will probably know by tomorrow if I'm moving out there. Been working on it, and it looks like housing won't be that big of an issue. Barring something unforeseen coming up, I'll be in Denver by early next week.

Long drive, though.
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Old Feb 25, 2010 | 01:03 PM
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Old Feb 25, 2010 | 03:56 PM
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and despite masturbating at least 20 times that morning
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Old Mar 1, 2010 | 09:43 AM
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Sorry to hear about the break up but sounds like it may have opened lots of doors for you. Job offers are always good, especially in this economy, and a new job is an excellent thing to focus on and keep your mind off him.

As for going to see him, as much as it sucks saying no, it is for the best not to see him. Things won't be the same and you will continue to prolong the hurt and only fool yourself in the process.

Best of luck
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Old Mar 1, 2010 | 11:51 AM
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A little lie never hurt anyone. And someones gotta do it
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miss phee?
miss phee wouldn't know what a big cock is. Mine is 4cm
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Old Mar 4, 2010 | 08:49 AM
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Well, after a lot of thought and consideration, I decided to move back to Texas.

I felt that Gainesville was too close to Tampa, and I probably wouldn't have lived in Florida in the first place if not for him.

I'm going back to school starting this summer, switching careers to nursing. I'm done torturing and euthanizing animals.

Shouldn't take me more than 18 months to complete my BSN. I've done a lot of additional research, and I want to become a CRNA. Once I'm done with my BSN, I only need 1-2 years of critical care experience before I can apply. 24-36 months is the length of most CRNA programs, and I should be making well over $100k/year when it's all said and done.

Going to be a lot of hard work for the next several years, but I should be sitting pretty when it's all said and done.

I've wanted to go back to school/change fields for quite some time now, this was the push I needed.

btw, any of you Texas fuggers wanna hang out? All my old friends are in Austin/College Station/Houston.
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Old Mar 4, 2010 | 08:54 AM
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Old Mar 4, 2010 | 09:03 AM
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GL with school & the move back.

I'd love to hang out but you masturbate way too much for my taste
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Old Mar 4, 2010 | 10:43 AM
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I have a friend that switched from Finance to Nursing also. She just got accepted into nursing schools and starts in 2 months. Be sure to get straight A's in your classes as I hear the competition to get into the nursing school is very tough since it's an industry that's more stable. Florida loses another hottie
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Old Mar 4, 2010 | 11:05 AM
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good luck, i am sure someone in tx will hang out and rub one out with you.
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Old Mar 4, 2010 | 11:25 AM
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^ that's so wrong.. yet somewhat arousing.
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