Okay posting this on Acurazine wasn't my first idea, but hey, what the hell

Sooo I've made it past round 1 and good ol Rayban earns himself a 2nd date.

Now, it's not that I haven't dated in a while, its just, this girl is the first girl I've dated in I think 4-5 years, who wasn't a friend to start with.

I met her a couple weeks ago through some friends. Date 1, went for coffee and talked for almost 3 hours, it was really nice and relaxing. So now, we're going out again next week, and I'd like to do something nice, but nothing corny.

Now, we're in the 19-25 year old age group, which in the end makes a difference as to what you all suggest, so I ask my fellow Acurazine brethren for some help here for some original ideas as to where to go and what to do on the 2nd date.

A part of me feels silly for asking, but another part wants to hear what you guys have to say anyways...so be kind! or flame away lol..up to you, and thanks in advance!

 

Dinner? Movie?

 

Take her ice skating, get some hot cocoa/coffee, then watch a movie at your place?

 

what she said.


i think this is a great idea if she's the respectable good girl type. if she's skanky and you just want to hit it, go for dinner, get drunk and go back to your place

 

You're in Canada, so if she is into sports, I would suggest a hockey game.

Either that, or dinner and a movie is a good fall back. I like Sasha's plan too. I think for our second date I took my wife to dinner, then a pool hall for some pool and drinks.

 

Take her to shoot pool or something like that. Just take her to the pool hall or Dave & Buster type place (ie pool, air hockey, video games, etc). You want to end the night on an interactive note. If you do the pool hall thing, you get to laugh and joke and feel her out. I would say save the movie for later because it takes up too much time not talking and getting to know her and you need to do that.

Just do the Dave & Buster type thing. You can eat, drink, have fun and make an impression there. You can also gauge what you need to do to get close to her (not necessarily sex) because she will be loosened up by the end of the night and be more "her". Nothing like laughing and playing around to make people be who they really are my dude.

Good luck in whatever you choose, but remember to do something fun and interactive! That's the key!

 

the only Dave & Buster's in Canada is in Toronto

 

+1

You can't talk when your at the movies. You want to get to know her before sitting in silence for 2 hours

 

Something similar then. It's a good second date type place. ESPN Zones, D&B, Jillians, something for everyone. It allows both of them to relax and be themselves.

 

I'll second Sasha's plan.

 

sounds good to me.

and ice skating gives the two of you an excuse to hold hands.

 

i hate ice skating . im glad your not my date.

 

at the ice skating...that is weak as hell...

at the movie at my place...which will lead to what you really want OP...

But more realistic is what I described earlier for a second date. You get to see what you are dealing with...and then YOU can tell if you want a third date...

 

Your input wouldn't grate half as much if you weren't so rude about what others put out there.
Maybe you don't care because you like the attention, but if you're actually wondering why people get irritated by you so often, then it's something to consider.

 

i see no rudeness in his posts? buncha drama queens up in here

 

then good thing this thread isn't about you, huh?

 

I'd put more weight to the input from women than men on this topic. They should have a better idea of what women would enjoy on a second date.

 

motel

 

^I second doopstr

 

 

I 100% agree! Now keep in mind I have been with my husband for 10 years so it's been a while since I've been on a date but if I were dating this is what I would like to do! If you do not have a Dave and Busters try something interactive that sounds fun. There have been lots of good ideas posted here, bowling, pool, go-karts, batting cages... Keep it fun, be yourself and try to get to know her better! Good Luck

 

Blockbuster Night! When in doubt whip it out!

Dinner and Movies is the norm, I would try to change it up. Has she told you any of her hobbies? Likes? etc?

What can you do in Canada? I am assuming its cold as hell and plenty of snow?

 

I'm diggin the hockey idea myself. I'd much rather watch the pro's on the ice than bust MY ass on the ice. lolol

I also like the pool hall idea. It doesn't hurt.

Communication and laughter are always the key!

 

or motel.......

 

I understand why you would think this in theory, but I don't particularly agree with that assessment. Here's why...

Women that respond to this can say what THEY like. But they haven't been in the position to sample different mindsets on the subject at the time.

Men, however, have dated women repeatedly so the "second date" thing is something we can speak on from experience. Especially those of us who have negotiated this successfully with multiple women (that being key).

For instance...using my "offered advice"... the chances that there may be women here who know/like ice skating AND are willing to do it in the winter, may be slim (women get cold fast)...but the odds that there are women here who like to interact and have fun is significantly greater! I have dated many women...spring, summer, winter, and fall...none of them, NONE of them on the second date (or any other date mind you) have said it's cold as shit outside - HEY - I know what we can do...lol...so if you have to guess from what you know on average, based on the success rate...it's the interact and have fun thing FTMFW, versus the 2 hour conversation shutdown movie or ice skating...

So in closing, women here will say what they like to do, but falling down, shivering, and having to take off the fucking skates to pee every 15 minutes do not make a good second date...IMO (the usual disclaimer here)...

Peace2fingaz

 

Lol...it's shit like this why your second date ratio is on the downside of the graph...but hang in there...everyone gets 3 lifelines I heard...even drama queens like you sugar...

 

I'm going to add my worth:

Personally, I would stay away from any activity that is too intimate, or doesn't present spirited conversation. The idea of a location such as Dave & Busters or an equivalent is very good. It presents a great chance to "feel her out" not up, but out.

 

You live in one of the most beautiful cities in the world.

Take her for a drive through Stanley Park, then perhaps to the tea place they have there. Maybe the aquarium in the park itself would be an interesting thing. Afterwards, perhaps a romantic stroll while having a drink on the exterior levels of the Pan Pacific Hotel, watching the evening lights of the city reflect off the water (don't pay for parking, just drive up to the valet and tell them you both need to run up to your room for a few minutes).

Hell, even a walk down Robson street downtown during the evenings can be a fun thing to do.


Terry

 

yup! Picnic in Stanley park or bring some bicycles with you. Then a nice cheap dinner somewhere...

 

keep it active and spirited. i wouldnt go out on a date with jessica alba if all i'm gonna do is sit in a dark room watching some people go through a script for two hours. unless you got so much game that you can guarantee love making in the back row, but otherwise it's just not worth the time. again, unless you see a movie about quantum theory and the both of you are such nerds that you can discuss it for hours. but otherwise, it's a waste of time.

i'm not sure if i made my point, hopefully you picked it up

 

My type of lady.

 

Watch out... she'll take you to a motel and next thing you know, your caravan is missing its wheels.

 

Any fun activity would be great for a 2nd date, whether it's playing video games, mini golf, bowling, or rock climbing. The point is to spend some time that would allow you to get to know her better while having fun. I just specified ice skating because I'm assuming Canadian women can withstand the cold and love outdoor winter activities. Now if she's actually bad at it, at least her reactions will tell you if she can laugh at herself.

As for my suggestion of watching a movie at home afterwards, it will give you an opportunity to be in a more intimate environment... and make a move. Make us proud! Good luck!

 

You agree 100% with the assessment because you gave the same advice -- go do something social and interactive. The key is to do something that allows conversation but is not solely conversation.

You didn't like the specific advice to go skating, though it fits the general concept.

 

Lol...No I didn't agree with you...but if it makes you feel good to say I did...go right ahead my dude...I think most people will understand the difference...

 

Nice work ladies and fella's..

The ice skating has been mentioned numerous times by others as well so I'm definitely giving it a thought. I'm not too worried about falling down, since I play hockey, so I'm okay there. Unfortunatley, I have to fly at night so I cant make the night last.

I also considered the aquarium and maybe just going out for sushi afterwards.

I still have a week, and I'm probably making more of a big deal about it that it should be, but I'm going to let the more sensitive side of me take over when I say this, but I think this girl is a keeper and I'd actually like it to work out. She's very much my type, so I'd like to play this one smart.

Thanks for the input so far guys and girls!

 

Whatever. I'm not going to get into another round of Let's-Make-This-About-Dark with you.

 

You already did...

 

Bicycling through stanley park is a great idea. Or go visit the museum by UBC with the native american art, that place is pretty cool. Then you can hit up granville or youngstown if the date is going well.

If she's athletic how about a day snowboarding? Whistler is only couple hours away. Of course, if you're gonna spend the whole day nursing her while she's crying from falling on her ass then the above ideas sound a lot more appealing.

 

Why so many haters? All you did was give advice in this thread!

I've read many posts/threads by Dark and I don't see why people get so irritated by his advice/responses? Maybe it's because I have the same way of thinking when it comes to this great game, either way he said nothing harsh, or out of context here.

I laugh at most guys on dates, or trying to pick up on chicks because they lack the knowledge and skills that are shared here by the guys/girls that have experience. You can tell a lot about how a girl/woman feels about the guy she is with if you watch close.

If you don't like the advice given here don't take it move on and keep trying the "Hey you look familiar" pickup lines or cliche movie dates where you get to sit silently next to each other for 1.5hrs.

OP it's been a while since you dated so don't feel strange for asking here. There were a few good and a few not so good ideas. I would stick with something fun and interactive for the first few dates. I would wait for the ice skating as well. Maybe by the 3rd date you can stay in and make her dinner followed by a movie depending on how comfortable the two of you are. Always think 2 steps ahead and you will be fine.