it goes dead when i stop and it acts like it is trying to start off in 2nd gear and i also hear it making a grinding noise

 

It's dead Jim

 

so i guess the next obvious question is what kind of money can i expect to spend on a rebuild or a used tranny

 

Read this thread..your best option (and will work on your 04)
https://acurazine.com/forums/second-...n-swap-905115/

 

sounds like maybe the torque converter is toast and might be sending metal bits through the trans. Look into the accord v6 trans swap.

 

do you have any codes for torque converter?


When you drive are your RPMS normal and then go really and stall low as you come to a stop every time or just sometimes?

you can disconnect the solenoid and take it for a short drive and if the problem goes away, you know where the issue is.